Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is being lazy.

Not lazy, just inactive. There is a big difference between being lazy and not being particularly fond of physical activity.

Your nanny is being lazy.

At this time of year I'm switching from wearing mostly boots to flats like Toms. So I might limit walking until they're broken in and my feet are toughened up in the right spots again. We took a 45 minute walk the other day and I ended up with a nasty blister from jogging alongside the new bike rider almost the entire way!

OP, I think you should sit down with your nanny again, have a three month review, and have a more direct conversation. In our previous conversation, you asked her "why" she wasn't going to the park. She came up with an answer that may or may not be true. You need to have a conversation now that clearly lets her know that going on walks isn't optional. She may not be the right nanny for this position. Its only been 3 months, so its best to deal with this now. It will not improve on its own.

You can remind her that you specifically hired her because she gave you the impression that she was very active. You should be clear that the reason why you needed a new nanny was because you needed someone who would be very active with your child. At this age, this means going for a 15-20 minute walk. As your child gets older, it will involve much more running around. You can let her know that you are happy with her performance in other areas (if this is true...if its not do not say this) but it doesn't sound like she is a good fit for this position if she can't walk places.

Honestly though, it doesn't sound like you made the right hire. People either are active or they are not. Its unlikely that someone who doesn't want to walk for 15 minutes is ever going to become active. You may run into issues of her telling you that she went to the park when she didn't. You may run into issues of having to constantly remind her to get outside and be active. Activity really is something that best comes from someone with the initiative to do it, not someone who will only do it if faced with losing their job.

our Very own nancy drew here everyone! Get a life. You're always calling troll because you like stirring things up. You're the troll.

The OP is not required to comment on anything anyone posts. She came for advice, presumably read it, and moved on with the situation. If she does, great, if not, who cares...it doesn't invalidate her original issue.

Love it. I criticize OP and the nutso nannies jump all over me and call me the troll. I was one of the only people to offer the OP helpful advice.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you wear open-toed shoes while caring for a young child? Sorry, but that's not a very bright choice. Do you know how much it hurts to accidentally step on a piece of lego? Or drop a toy xylophone on your foot? Ouch.

Well heck I go barefoot unless we are outside. Than I put on shoes - to play in the yard or take a walk to take my charges to eat.

Why would you wear shoes inside?

Right!! I was with a family shortly that all kept their shoes on inside...never have I felt more uncomfortable. I'll chance the odd lego for my barefeet!

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you wear open-toed shoes while caring for a young child? Sorry, but that's not a very bright choice. Do you know how much it hurts to accidentally step on a piece of lego? Or drop a toy xylophone on your foot? Ouch.

Well heck I go barefoot unless we are outside. Than I put on shoes - to play in the yard or take a walk to take my charges to eat.

Why would you wear shoes inside?

Because I have stinky feet? Lol. Just preference I guess, I have indoor and outdoor shoes. But wearing flip-flops isn't a great idea, especially if MB wants an active nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you wear open-toed shoes while caring for a young child? Sorry, but that's not a very bright choice. Do you know how much it hurts to accidentally step on a piece of lego? Or drop a toy xylophone on your foot? Ouch.

Well heck I go barefoot unless we are outside. Than I put on shoes - to play in the yard or take a walk to take my charges to eat.

Why would you wear shoes inside?

Why would you wear open-toed shoes while caring for a young child? Sorry, but that's not a very bright choice. Do you know how much it hurts to accidentally step on a piece of lego? Or drop a toy xylophone on your foot? Ouch.

I've almost always had jobs where I spend a good amount of time on my feet or a lot of walking so I've always prioritized good shoes, at least for work. Yes they're expensive but if out keeps your knees, feet, and ankles happy then it's money well spent. When you're young and fabulously broke then even $50 may as well be a million dollars. Ask her what you can do to help, if there are any barriers to buying good quality shoes. Hopefully you can open up a dialogue and work it out.

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Anonymous wrote:If this is real...how out of shape is your nanny that a 15-20 minute walk is too much for her. I don't think shoes are the real issue here. I regularly wear flip flops and can walk-with a double stroller-for hours. She is just being lazy.

You're right - it's about being lazy. I weight 235 and walk at least a mile a day, if not double that, during the work week.

Agree. I definitely have some weight to lose as well, and I walk around everywhere. I actually prefer to walk one of my charges (PT position) home instead of taking public transit). She should only be getting feet issues if walking barefoot, and even many people could do that. If she has such a big issue that it limits her walking to the park, then what else does it limit her from doing?

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Anonymous wrote:I posted with helpful advice. Got ignored. So now I agree with the others: troll post.

Do you call troll if you are not acknowledged every time you post? Grow up.

No, but OP didn't comment on any of the suggestions I made. All she did was address the people calling her a troll. She's also slowly releasing more info. Classic troll behavior.
And really? Telling me to grow up? What's next? I'm rubber, you're glue. Anything you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.

The OP is not required to comment on anything anyone posts. She came for advice, presumably read it, and moved on with the situation. If she does, great, if not, who cares...it doesn't invalidate her original issue.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I posted with helpful advice. Got ignored. So now I agree with the others: troll post.

Do you call troll if you are not acknowledged every time you post? Grow up.

No, but OP didn't comment on any of the suggestions I made. All she did was address the people calling her a troll. She's also slowly releasing more info. Classic troll behavior.
And really? Telling me to grow up? What's next? I'm rubber, you're glue. Anything you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.

our Very own nancy drew here everyone! Get a life. You're always calling troll because you like stirring things up. You're the troll.

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Anonymous wrote:I posted with helpful advice. Got ignored. So now I agree with the others: troll post.

Do you call troll if you are not acknowledged every time you post? Grow up.

No, but OP didn't comment on any of the suggestions I made. All she did was address the people calling her a troll. She's also slowly releasing more info. Classic troll behavior.
And really? Telling me to grow up? What's next? I'm rubber, you're glue. Anything you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.

Do not buy your nanny shoes. She may just not like to walk. If it is important to you that the child get regular strolls, tell the nanny that it is part of her job to take her for at least one stroll of at least half hour per day, preferably to the park and back. If she pushes back, you'll need to decide how much it really matters to you. Personally, I would have a real problem with it, because I want my kids to see the city and learn the joy of regular walks.