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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

So unnecessary. You clearly haven't met many single mothers then. Sounds like OP has been offered a pretty good deal, and it's certainly not "free" childcare.

it's the truth. They're scam artist. Always trying to find the next baby daddy to secure their gems. Always on the look for who will support them and their crew of baggage. Also, they want to play the martyr card because they choose to lay down with a loser and he left them.

Aren't you bitter? My MB doesn't try to scam anyone. She left her husband, and earns well over $100,000 between working one job that is flexible and owning her own business (that is related to her other job). She can definitely take care of herself and her kids. The only time she gets free childcare, is when the kids are with their relatives that live in the city or nearby (maybe once a week or 2 for a couple of hours), or with a good family friend (that she also watches their kid for them). You know, like good friends do, have the kids do playdates with each other or sleepovers at both houses. The 2 sons are in many weekly activities together and the same summer camp program, so it's stuff like one parent dropping them off and picking them up one night, and the other family doing it another day. Something that many dual-parent households do as well.

Actually, now that I mention 2 parent households, I have seen many more non-single FT working parents trying to get free child care from their SAHM mom friends, than I have seen from single moms.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

So unnecessary. You clearly haven't met many single mothers then. Sounds like OP has been offered a pretty good deal, and it's certainly not "free" childcare.

it's the truth. They're scam artist. Always trying to find the next baby daddy to secure their gems. Always on the look for who will support them and their crew of baggage. Also, they want to play the martyr card because they choose to lay down with a loser and he left them.

I'm a single mom who will be looking for a work for rent arrangement when my DD enters elementary school and i no longer need a full time nanny. I make over $200,000 a year, have a single family home with a full, walkout basement with kitchenette and a private entrance. I also own another rental property. I don't think I will be "scamming" anyone when I ask for 10-15 hours of babysitting a week in exchange for free rent, plus utilities, cable and Internet. As for the "baby daddy" should we ever get married, we will be signing a prenup so that he doesn't try to stake a claim on my "baggage".

well the. You're the exception to the rule. Congrats! But most single moms I know f are, 'give me, give me, give us' mentality. Like the world owes them something because they had made bad decisions and pop them out like there's no tomorrow!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

So unnecessary. You clearly haven't met many single mothers then. Sounds like OP has been offered a pretty good deal, and it's certainly not "free" childcare.

it's the truth. They're scam artist. Always trying to find the next baby daddy to secure their gems. Always on the look for who will support them and their crew of baggage. Also, they want to play the martyr card because they choose to lay down with a loser and he left them.

I'm a single mom who will be looking for a work for rent arrangement when my DD enters elementary school and i no longer need a full time nanny. I make over $200,000 a year, have a single family home with a full, walkout basement with kitchenette and a private entrance. I also own another rental property. I don't think I will be "scamming" anyone when I ask for 10-15 hours of babysitting a week in exchange for free rent, plus utilities, cable and Internet. As for the "baby daddy" should we ever get married, we will be signing a prenup so that he doesn't try to stake a claim on my "baggage".

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

So unnecessary. You clearly haven't met many single mothers then. Sounds like OP has been offered a pretty good deal, and it's certainly not "free" childcare.

it's the truth. They're scam artist. Always trying to find the next baby daddy to secure their gems. Always on the look for who will support them and their crew of baggage. Also, they want to play the martyr card because they choose to lay down with a loser and he left them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

You're rude. Get out of my thread

Rude but its true

I believe you meant to use 'it's'. Its is a possessive pronoun implying ownership.

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

So unnecessary. You clearly haven't met many single mothers then. Sounds like OP has been offered a pretty good deal, and it's certainly not "free" childcare.

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

That is BS. I actually work for a single mom. I do a live-in exchange for up to 14 hours per week, but generally only 10-12. Sure, sometimes I get annoyed by the kids, or her not picking up on the weekends like she is supposed to. But it is a GREAT situation overall. I think that if you are usually not home much anyways OP, that it should be a good way for you to have a place but not have to spend so much money for it. Like you said, you can move in with your boyfriend temporarily if needed until you can find something else, but I think it could work very well for you. If they know that you might not be around much other than for work, then I can't see them trying to ask for extra work (without paying) like others are suggesting. Also, I think they could benefit from it very much, as they will be getting the work from you and not actually having to see you that much either. All those families that love the idea but really couldn't think about having someone else live with them full time, sharing the living room and cooking in the kitchen each night (or sharing dinner with them), that is not what you are looking for. You eat out most nights it seems, are only there half the nights in the week, and when you are there, you are most likely to veg out in your room (out of sight). I would love to have a roommate like that! That works for me to help out, and then is hardly around... Who would want to take advantage of someone like that and cause them to move out? I would want you to stay for years.

I think it's a good deal for both parties and I agree that a trial period is a good idea.
Be very clear about what your duties are. are you required to pitch in with chores in the garden, will you be left cleaning dishes from dinner, how will you take turns using the washing machine etc. there needs to be clear boundaries set up to avoid issues later on

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to meet a single mother who does not try to finagle some free childcare from anyone they know.

You're rude. Get out of my thread

Rude but its true

Why is stating the truth being rude?

OP here:

21:38 - from what I understand it will be 3-4 hours at a time, a mix of early and late evenings and weekends. She's fine working around my FT job schedule, and my social life is flexible

21:46 - I wish!! He's an amazing guy and I think that will happen some day, but we've only been together 5 months. Too soon, as much as we both want to do it.