Anonymous wrote:OP, this would make me strongly suspicious of the other family's motivations and honestly would probably kill the relationship for me. So previously you split hosting (so the kids were at their house 2 weeks out of the month) and now 2 more weeks of them hosting is going to cause so much more mess beyond what the nanny is already cleaning that they want you to pay for a housekeeper? That's completely ridiculous.

Will their house have more "wear and tear" because of hosting? Yes, absolutely. But they already hosted for half the time - this can't be all that much more. If anything, that is more than balanced out by the convenience they are gaining by not having to drive their kid anywhere. And I would assume that whatever housekeeping the nanny was doing when you were hosting for those two weeks every month will now be going to the benefit of the other family. So you lose out on that too.

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Anonymous wrote:Hello. We are the other family referenced in the OP's query. We had hoped very much to discuss the nanny share logistics face to face with the the OP, but to do their legitimately busy schedules, they have not been able to meet with us. There is always room for misunderstanding in e-mail exchanges, especially when it comes to something as important is kids and home, and this case is no different. We are deeply saddened by the responses and the outcome of our share, since the last year has been a wondeful experience, with our girls acting as sisters and, we had thought, a nice collaboration between the families. For one year of something very special to end over a misunderstood exchange and, worse, to see our personal interactions placed on this board and in this way...sigh.

"Other family" this really isn't a big deal. The OP was obviously upset at a slew of changes: moving, being the one to switch up the arrangement, not knowing how to proceed since the ball was in your court, and came to a safe place to vent about it and get anonymous advice. They didn't say anything objectionable or mean or revealing. They just were seeking insight and advice. I understand you feel defensive and surprised to read about yourself, but NO ONE knows it's you! And in fact, you're reading this board, so if you were in a similar situation, you may feel compelled to post here too since it's clearly a resource you use. Relax. If you don't want to host it's ok. I probably wouldn't either; sharing equally isn't near the same as hosting full time. It's ok to feel how you feel. And it's ok for OP to post here, too.

Anonymous wrote:Hello. We are the other family referenced in the OP's query. We had hoped very much to discuss the nanny share logistics face to face with the the OP, but to do their legitimately busy schedules, they have not been able to meet with us. There is always room for misunderstanding in e-mail exchanges, especially when it comes to something as important is kids and home, and this case is no different. We are deeply saddened by the responses and the outcome of our share, since the last year has been a wondeful experience, with our girls acting as sisters and, we had thought, a nice collaboration between the families. For one year of something very special to end over a misunderstood exchange and, worse, to see our personal interactions placed on this board and in this way...sigh.