Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Man some people on here give nannies and/or MBs a really bad name.

how so?

Are you serious? Man some people on here give nannies and/or MBs a really bad name.

you sound like a very good person and a great nanny. but I pity the kids because it sounds like have parents, or at least a mother, who really did not want them. some people should simply not have kids

Anonymous wrote:MB here with a live-in. I almost never knock on my nanny's door. We almost always text if communication is needed outside of working hours.

Your MB is out of line. That being said, very few live-in positions are as liberal as your current one is with regards to overnight guests. If this is an important benefit to you, I would think about trying to work through this issue with MB before looking elsewhere.

Op lives in a different building with different locks presumably (she said MB knocks). So what is there to be liberal about in a studio apt that you are technically renting.

MB here with a live-in. I almost never knock on my nanny's door. We almost always text if communication is needed outside of working hours.

Your MB is out of line. That being said, very few live-in positions are as liberal as your current one is with regards to overnight guests. If this is an important benefit to you, I would think about trying to work through this issue with MB before looking elsewhere.

time to have a meeting and set some guidelines.

#1 Unless it's an EMERGENCY - i need at least a days notice when I'm needed to work

id quit. fuck them.

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Anonymous wrote:Talked to MB about this. They did in fact pay me overtime. She said that she was sorry for barging in and that if do not want to be disturbed to let them know. I thought that it was common knowledge that if I was off the clock and in my own lving area I dont want to be disturbed. I feel like if I tell MB this, it will be rude.

Has she done this before? I have an AP so she lives in, the basement is finished and walk out, so it's her own space. If I need to contact her when she is off, I text. If I have to speak with her (can't find something and we are running out the door) I knock and ask to talk to her when she gets the chance. Perhaps you can ask her to text if she needs to talk to you?

I really don't have advice for the situation where she barges in and hands you a baby. The ONLY circumstance where I would do that is if I was heading to the emergency room with my other DC. What she did was completely unacceptable. She should have asked if you were available that day and then worked around your schedule.

That would be acceptable! Op here. She said that she appreciates my willingness to be flexible. Ugh. I get paid well and on time but I don't like the feeling that Im always "on"

Just tell her that.

Say, "MB, I really appreciate your apology [she did apologize, right?] and the OT pay, but it's so important for me to have my down time to recharge. I will let you know if I'm ever planning on being available for on-call jobs over any weekends, but otherwise please assume that I am unavailable."

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Anonymous wrote:Talked to MB about this. They did in fact pay me overtime. She said that she was sorry for barging in and that if do not want to be disturbed to let them know. I thought that it was common knowledge that if I was off the clock and in my own lving area I dont want to be disturbed. I feel like if I tell MB this, it will be rude.

Has she done this before? I have an AP so she lives in, the basement is finished and walk out, so it's her own space. If I need to contact her when she is off, I text. If I have to speak with her (can't find something and we are running out the door) I knock and ask to talk to her when she gets the chance. Perhaps you can ask her to text if she needs to talk to you?

I really don't have advice for the situation where she barges in and hands you a baby. The ONLY circumstance where I would do that is if I was heading to the emergency room with my other DC. What she did was completely unacceptable. She should have asked if you were available that day and then worked around your schedule.

That would be acceptable! Op here. She said that she appreciates my willingness to be flexible. Ugh. I get paid well and on time but I don't like the feeling that Im always "on"

Anonymous wrote:Talked to MB about this. They did in fact pay me overtime. She said that she was sorry for barging in and that if do not want to be disturbed to let them know. I thought that it was common knowledge that if I was off the clock and in my own lving area I dont want to be disturbed. I feel like if I tell MB this, it will be rude.

Has she done this before? I have an AP so she lives in, the basement is finished and walk out, so it's her own space. If I need to contact her when she is off, I text. If I have to speak with her (can't find something and we are running out the door) I knock and ask to talk to her when she gets the chance. Perhaps you can ask her to text if she needs to talk to you?

I really don't have advice for the situation where she barges in and hands you a baby. The ONLY circumstance where I would do that is if I was heading to the emergency room with my other DC. What she did was completely unacceptable. She should have asked if you were available that day and then worked around your schedule.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely unacceptable. Sounds like you're going to need to have a very uncomfortable conversation about respectful boundaries and I would encourage you to test the waters of other jobs as well, because this sounds like an MB who won't stop taking advantage of you wherever and whenever she can.

+1 totally unacceptable.

Talked to MB about this. They did in fact pay me overtime. She said that she was sorry for barging in and that if do not want to be disturbed to let them know. I thought that it was common knowledge that if I was off the clock and in my own lving area I dont want to be disturbed. I feel like if I tell MB this, it will be rude.

You sound like an awesome nanny OP. They are very lucky to have you. I hope they realize that.

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So I guess I would say Im attached and would have a problem leaving as I love the kids very much.