nannydebsays
04/27/2013 11:50
Subject: Need Advice on 2 Different issues
WRT the physical aggression, can you try using words that don't bring hitting/kicking to the forefront of his mind? Instead of "We don't hit or kick!" say, "X, you need to use your gentle hands and feet." and show him what gentle hands and feet are, by touching his face or arm, etc. softly.
Sometimes kid brains get caught on a negative word and they literally have to think of that word - the old "Don't think about pink elephants!" thing, KWIM?
Also, although I have used (and do use) harnesses, I think a single stroller sounds more effective for your charge. "X, we are going to walk. If you can't walk or get too tired to walk, I will put you in the stroller until you are ready to try and walk again." Then when he droops to the ground, say, "Oh, you are too tired to walk? Well, let me help you climb in the stroller!" You can teach both kids to hold the stroller instead of your hand.
Basically, you want to give positive praise when he does well, and ignore/give minimal attention when he doesn't. Also, if his twin is walking nicely, praise her for that, or for other behaviors he needs to mimic.
Sometimes kid brains get caught on a negative word and they literally have to think of that word - the old "Don't think about pink elephants!" thing, KWIM?
Also, although I have used (and do use) harnesses, I think a single stroller sounds more effective for your charge. "X, we are going to walk. If you can't walk or get too tired to walk, I will put you in the stroller until you are ready to try and walk again." Then when he droops to the ground, say, "Oh, you are too tired to walk? Well, let me help you climb in the stroller!" You can teach both kids to hold the stroller instead of your hand.
Basically, you want to give positive praise when he does well, and ignore/give minimal attention when he doesn't. Also, if his twin is walking nicely, praise her for that, or for other behaviors he needs to mimic.
Anonymous
04/26/2013 18:05
Subject: Need Advice on 2 Different issues
No.... Haha? What!
He wouldn't flop with a harness. He flops because he doesn't want to hold my hand. He wouldn't flor with a harness an if e did I would pick him up and tell him to walk like a big boy. Although I don't think it would happen as pften if a harness. It's a backpack harness not a leash for dogs. I'd rather have him safe than the alternitive. Mb was happy to pick one up on the weekend. Yay for great and understanding MBs. Gla you are a fast runner PP. but what would you do with the other twin. Leave her alone Ina group of people?? While you run after the other one. Not safe for her!
He wouldn't flop with a harness. He flops because he doesn't want to hold my hand. He wouldn't flor with a harness an if e did I would pick him up and tell him to walk like a big boy. Although I don't think it would happen as pften if a harness. It's a backpack harness not a leash for dogs. I'd rather have him safe than the alternitive. Mb was happy to pick one up on the weekend. Yay for great and understanding MBs. Gla you are a fast runner PP. but what would you do with the other twin. Leave her alone Ina group of people?? While you run after the other one. Not safe for her!
Anonymous
04/26/2013 17:37
Subject: Need Advice on 2 Different issues
It sounds like he's frustrated that he can't talk and that comes out in being physical.
I would not allow a harness. My child is a runner, and I just have to run faster. I will not put her on a leash like my dog. Plus, OP, you're saying you want a harness because he flops down to the ground. So what, you're going to yank him back up to his feet by the harness??
I would not allow a harness. My child is a runner, and I just have to run faster. I will not put her on a leash like my dog. Plus, OP, you're saying you want a harness because he flops down to the ground. So what, you're going to yank him back up to his feet by the harness??