OP, you cannot be serious!

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Anonymous wrote:Do nothing with this. She was honest. And it's really FINE if a nanny takes a child to run a couple of errands that are on their way every so often. I'm a MB, and am happy for my DD to learn how to shop, how to purchase, how to interact with people properly. It's totally fine.

She wasen't honest. OP noticed the bags and nanny sensed it so that's when she said something. She didn't ask first but I can see how this might be a one time thing but at the same time I can understand OP's concern completely.

To say she wasn't honest is a bit of a stretch. It probably didn't seem like a big deal to her (which seems to be in line with most of the PPs) so she didn't mention it until it was obvious MB was looking or a comment.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?! If my long-term nanny (whom is otherwise great) wants to stop by a store on the way to a DS activity to pick something up for herself, I would see no problem with that at all. In fact, as she works almost 50 hrs a week, I encourage her to do so!! The fact that you made her "prove" she wasn't lying to you is ridiculous, IMO. I would NEVER ask my nanny (whom I am supposed to TRUST, remember??) to do something like that. ....GL in the near future if you continue to monitor her every move, you may not have a nanny much longer.

+1 and echo the comments of PP regarding exposing DC to social interactions while shopping.

OP stop inflating your post, it's so obvious!

It must be awful to leave your child with a person you don't trust.

Ok, I understand why you are concerned. You feel that there might have been other times, or will be times in the future when your nanny will run personal errands while working. That's a reasonable concern.

As far as picking up items as she did, like others, I agree that it is not a big deal as she wasn't really shopping, but just picking up. Now, if she did actual shopping and was carting around your son with her on the job without asking, yes, that would be a problem. I don't think you should worry.

Anonymous wrote:OP you really do sound a little nuts. This is not a red flag issue even if she had taken your son shopping, but that isn't what happened. You need to let this go like, now.

PP - it is you who sound a little nuts and judgmental. It is not a red flag for you - fine! should not mean that others have to follow your ways. It is a red flag for me just like for OP. I would not want my nanny to be doing personal shopping while she is watching my children.

Anonymous wrote:OP , I would be annoyed too. I don't go shopping at work, why would my nanny?

Doesn't your job entail shuffling papers? What reason would you have to go outside?

OP , I would be annoyed too. I don't go shopping at work, why would my nanny?

If this is true, then I hope you are ready for the potential consequences that may follow. 2 years and no trust? Your nanny might have started a hunt for a new job if she hasn't already. It's a shame since I am sure your child is close to her.

OP you really do sound a little nuts. This is not a red flag issue even if she had taken your son shopping, but that isn't what happened. You need to let this go like, now.

OP has really lost it. If anything, why isn't your kid playing outside in the springtime?

Lady, count your blessings if you still have your nanny in a month. If my MB "voices her concern" regarding me picking up a box somewhere in the same mall where I'm taking kid to play and then on top of that, had such display of lack of trust like you did... I would 1)be very offended 2)be a little pissed and 3)I will consider start looking!

Considering your reaction and the extent of details you typed about your nanny's schedule... I actually feel bad for you OP. Sounds like you have a very difficult personality and that's not your fault!

I work 65 hrs a week. I do my personal errands on the job and MB doesn't care. She says she wants her kids to do errands and have to learn how to wait etc do they realize they're not the center of the universe.

So, your nanny brought the bags in with her? To me, if she were trying to hide this "shopping trip" from you, she would have left the bags in her car (assuming she drives her own). She probably brought them in thinking it would be fine, or she just didn't think about it one way or another because it's such a non-issue.