Anonymous
04/19/2013 01:01
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
All these complaining nannies, and you wonder why you have so much job turnover! I've been at the same job 7 years and yeah sometimes families abuse the playdates, but whatever. It's not that big of a deal. Being a nanny is a pretty easy job, I love my employers and I'm paid really well. Plus the kids play with eachother and re actually less work on playdates. You guys just seem to want to complain.
Anonymous
04/19/2013 00:27
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Remember:
NO ONE can take full advantage of you w/out your permission. NO ONE.
NO ONE can take full advantage of you w/out your permission. NO ONE.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 17:30
Subject: Re:Neighborhood Nanny
Even if it is a playdate, the nanny is not being given the opportunity to turn it down. I sometimes allow playdates and sometimes I am not up for supervising an additional child and say no - the nanny here should be given the choice and paid additionally if the children are young enough to require her ongoing oversight.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 17:15
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here-
What is the big deal? It's like a playdate. Get over it!
It's a play date only if it goes both ways. If you were a nanny, you'd know that.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 17:00
Subject: Re:Neighborhood Nanny
IMO. If its for a couple of hrs every 2 weeks or so with a friend of the kid and the kids are old enough to have long periods of independent play, then it is a playdate. Especially if its reciprocated.
OP said "many" at first but then followed up with >5x in the past 3 months which IMO is not that bad (if its just 6). My son is at his friends house at least 1x every 2 weeks. They never want to play at our house. Often our nanny isn't there for at least 1hr (going to get my other kid). I know the other nanny doesn't mind b/c she frequent invites my nanny.
I made it clear to my nanny that I was close to our neighbors (kids go to school together) and we often helped each other out, including having an extended playdate if one of the other nannies were in a bind, coordinating drop off/pick ups when one of the kids were napping, etc. To be honest this has helped everybody out, including all the nannies.
If its for a full day every 2 weeks then I would definitely think OP was getting taken advantage of.
OP said "many" at first but then followed up with >5x in the past 3 months which IMO is not that bad (if its just 6). My son is at his friends house at least 1x every 2 weeks. They never want to play at our house. Often our nanny isn't there for at least 1hr (going to get my other kid). I know the other nanny doesn't mind b/c she frequent invites my nanny.
I made it clear to my nanny that I was close to our neighbors (kids go to school together) and we often helped each other out, including having an extended playdate if one of the other nannies were in a bind, coordinating drop off/pick ups when one of the kids were napping, etc. To be honest this has helped everybody out, including all the nannies.
If its for a full day every 2 weeks then I would definitely think OP was getting taken advantage of.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 15:43
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here-
What is the big deal? It's like a playdate. Get over it!
It's not a play date. Mom is dropping the kid off, with enough frequency that OP feels like a free babysitter. Mom has also promised payment but has yet to follow through. If you're enough of a butt kisser that this is acceptable to you, by all means, but there is nothing wrong with OP asserting herself when she feels taken advantage of.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 15:41
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here-
What is the big deal? It's like a playdate. Get over it!
It's a play date only if it goes both ways. If you were a nanny, you'd know that.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 15:27
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Nanny here-
What is the big deal? It's like a playdate. Get over it!
What is the big deal? It's like a playdate. Get over it!
Anonymous
04/18/2013 14:58
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
OP, I agree with PP's. This is NOT OKAY. I would talk to your MB about it. She may surprise you and back you up. Just be prepared with what you're going to say. Stand up for yourself.
If your MB brushes it off or doesn't seem to agree with you, maybe you could point out that the 'friend' is sort of cheating your MB too- your MB is paying the cost, not the friend.
If your MB brushes it off or doesn't seem to agree with you, maybe you could point out that the 'friend' is sort of cheating your MB too- your MB is paying the cost, not the friend.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 14:34
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Ten dollars an hour is totally fair, provided mb is in agreement to the particular family dropping their kid on you.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 14:21
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Anonymous wrote:This what decides who is a professional and who is just a helping hand. A professional would immediately tell her employer that she does not take on extra childcare for free. You charge an extra $10 per hour and you decide if you want to or not. The parent must pay cash immediately at drop off or your employer must compensate for them.
Next time the neighborhood mother tries to drop off her child, hand her a bill and refuse to care for the child until it is paid. Explain that you do not provide free childcare and your contract with your employers is only for their children. Then make sure that all future babysitting needs must be asked directly to you.
If your employers don't agree than its time for a new job because they don't respect you as a professional or a person.
Well said.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 14:16
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
This what decides who is a professional and who is just a helping hand. A professional would immediately tell her employer that she does not take on extra childcare for free. You charge an extra $10 per hour and you decide if you want to or not. The parent must pay cash immediately at drop off or your employer must compensate for them.
Next time the neighborhood mother tries to drop off her child, hand her a bill and refuse to care for the child until it is paid. Explain that you do not provide free childcare and your contract with your employers is only for their children. Then make sure that all future babysitting needs must be asked directly to you.
If your employers don't agree than its time for a new job because they don't respect you as a professional or a person.
Next time the neighborhood mother tries to drop off her child, hand her a bill and refuse to care for the child until it is paid. Explain that you do not provide free childcare and your contract with your employers is only for their children. Then make sure that all future babysitting needs must be asked directly to you.
If your employers don't agree than its time for a new job because they don't respect you as a professional or a person.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 12:24
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
OP accepted the job as nanny to her MB's child. She did not accept job as neighborhood nanny, backup child csre for any of her MB's cheap friends. OP, you need to tell your MB that you will no longer take cate of her friend's child unless the friend pays you up front , in cash, and if the maximum hours per day you are willing to care for Susie Snowflake.
You are not her slave or indentured servant.
You are not her slave or indentured servant.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 09:04
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
People should pay you an extra 10/hr. Either that or offer to do a trade, if it's ok with the parents.
Hey, there's a solution for back-up care when nanny has a medical appointment or something.
Hey, there's a solution for back-up care when nanny has a medical appointment or something.
Anonymous
04/18/2013 08:41
Subject: Neighborhood Nanny
Yes,I did this for 7 years,know I learn, if somebody asking me to have other kid I just say ,you have to pay me.