Update?

OP, it is true that no one takes advantage of you unless you allow them to do so and you have rolled out a red carpet, brass band, and engraved invitation saying, "I am a chump. I have no guts. I will put up with abuse because I am not worthy of being treated properlyy." Grow some balls.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again- 1:10, I think you have me confused with another poster. The only other time I've posted was a few weeks ago about getting a bad rating from a woman because I didn't accept her position after the interview.

She came back around 9:30, strolling in on her phone, which is a pet peeve of mine, and stood there for 5 minutes while I waited by the door. When she finally hung up, she seemed to feel bad, but it seemed to be more about her own long day than keeping me with no options or notice. I told her I understand that emergencies come up, but I have other responsibilities, too, and I need notice if she will be late. I basically choked and that's all I could say. Unfortunately I hadn't gotten a chance to read any responses yet.

I'm really stressed about going in today. The kids were telling me about their different after school activities and I have no idea where or what time they are. MB gives me little or no information. She expected me to know what time her child's activity ended last night (he is picked after I am supposed to be off, so I had no idea). The kids flat out told me yesterday that DB often doesn't come to pick them up from their activity when he is supposed to, which means I'll be working an hour and a half late. I know that's going to happen tonight.

How old are these kids? So what happens? Are they left waiting at the soccer field until 9pm?

I was that kid growing up. One of the other parents often offered to take me home.

me too and I would be completely hysterical by the time they bothered to show up. Really kept me from trying a lot of things....I had really lazy and selfish parents. When I got older I wised up and told my mom things end 15-30 min before they really did so she'd be there on time.

OP again- 15:46, they are between 7 and 11. When dad doesn't show up, I have to stay until the end of their activity, take them home, get them through the bedtime routine, and wait until someone comes home, just like last night.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again- 1:10, I think you have me confused with another poster. The only other time I've posted was a few weeks ago about getting a bad rating from a woman because I didn't accept her position after the interview.

She came back around 9:30, strolling in on her phone, which is a pet peeve of mine, and stood there for 5 minutes while I waited by the door. When she finally hung up, she seemed to feel bad, but it seemed to be more about her own long day than keeping me with no options or notice. I told her I understand that emergencies come up, but I have other responsibilities, too, and I need notice if she will be late. I basically choked and that's all I could say. Unfortunately I hadn't gotten a chance to read any responses yet.

I'm really stressed about going in today. The kids were telling me about their different after school activities and I have no idea where or what time they are. MB gives me little or no information. She expected me to know what time her child's activity ended last night (he is picked after I am supposed to be off, so I had no idea). The kids flat out told me yesterday that DB often doesn't come to pick them up from their activity when he is supposed to, which means I'll be working an hour and a half late. I know that's going to happen tonight.

How old are these kids? So what happens? Are they left waiting at the soccer field until 9pm?

I was that kid growing up. One of the other parents often offered to take me home.

Anonymous wrote:OP here again- 1:10, I think you have me confused with another poster. The only other time I've posted was a few weeks ago about getting a bad rating from a woman because I didn't accept her position after the interview.

She came back around 9:30, strolling in on her phone, which is a pet peeve of mine, and stood there for 5 minutes while I waited by the door. When she finally hung up, she seemed to feel bad, but it seemed to be more about her own long day than keeping me with no options or notice. I told her I understand that emergencies come up, but I have other responsibilities, too, and I need notice if she will be late. I basically choked and that's all I could say. Unfortunately I hadn't gotten a chance to read any responses yet.

I'm really stressed about going in today. The kids were telling me about their different after school activities and I have no idea where or what time they are. MB gives me little or no information. She expected me to know what time her child's activity ended last night (he is picked after I am supposed to be off, so I had no idea). The kids flat out told me yesterday that DB often doesn't come to pick them up from their activity when he is supposed to, which means I'll be working an hour and a half late. I know that's going to happen tonight.

How old are these kids? So what happens? Are they left waiting at the soccer field until 9pm?

You need to learn to negotiate contracts, OP. Have terms spelled out and consequences for lateness, sick time, guaranteed hours, everything.

When she told you that she was going to be late you should hsve told her that you had to leave and could not stay with children but tjst uou would ask neigjbor(s) then, you cut off call because she will ne calling you back immediately. Quit today

Yikes OP -- I know times are tough but do you need this job THIS badly? Ugh I'd quit.

OP here again- 1:10, I think you have me confused with another poster. The only other time I've posted was a few weeks ago about getting a bad rating from a woman because I didn't accept her position after the interview.

She came back around 9:30, strolling in on her phone, which is a pet peeve of mine, and stood there for 5 minutes while I waited by the door. When she finally hung up, she seemed to feel bad, but it seemed to be more about her own long day than keeping me with no options or notice. I told her I understand that emergencies come up, but I have other responsibilities, too, and I need notice if she will be late. I basically choked and that's all I could say. Unfortunately I hadn't gotten a chance to read any responses yet.

I'm really stressed about going in today. The kids were telling me about their different after school activities and I have no idea where or what time they are. MB gives me little or no information. She expected me to know what time her child's activity ended last night (he is picked after I am supposed to be off, so I had no idea). The kids flat out told me yesterday that DB often doesn't come to pick them up from their activity when he is supposed to, which means I'll be working an hour and a half late. I know that's going to happen tonight.

So op, what time did she finally get home? Did you have a talk with her??? Tell us tell us!

Red flag!! Total hours including the late times and get paid quit. It's going to get worse, not better! This kind of family will pay you late on to regular, cancel on you at the last minute giving you no reliable income, and treating you like you have no life, needs, and don't deserve the respect your giving them and their children. PS, I'm positive you will have a hard time getting your first payment, that's your quittin red flag!

OP please come back! I'm dying to know what happened!

How inconsiderate that she texted 40 min. prior to your start time on Thursday?? I would have been furious!! You could have been out the door by then. Geez.

This mother sounds like a scatter brain and she obviously does not value your time at all. She is selfish. She thinks her time and needs are way more important than yours. She freakin' expects you at her whim. WTF??

This is a trial week anyway since in all nanny jobs a few weeks should make or break a nanny/parent relationship, etc.

I would kindly and diplomatically tell her that after these last few days, you just don't think you are a suitable match for each other's needs. Don't go into much detail and keep everything civil no matter how pissed you are inside. Btw, I don't blame you one bit OP.

Hopefully you can collect your payment and move on. If she balks, then you may have to stick it out another week until you get your payment in full. If you get paid in check, make sure the check clears before you tell her you will not be returning.

Quit. They're horrible people and will continue walking all over you.