Anonymous wrote:This is weird, but I would have asked if I can bring cake to have a birthday celebration at my MB's house.

That being said, I wouldn't *expect* my MB to do anything for my birthday. Sure, it's nice to be thought of but for goodness sake im not going to act like she's supposed to.

I agree. Nanny kept telling her that her birthday was "coming". What are you 6. You were fishing for a gift--and you said in ur post"MB didn't even wish me a happy bd. wow. Don't feed my kids cake or bring cake into my house wo asking. Plus you got a gift from the dad and you had to know that would cause a problem unless are completely clueless.

I would be annoyed if my employee kept telling me she oe her colleague had a birthday coming up.
I think the right thing to do woud keep it to yourself andvselebrate once you were off duty.

Have to wonder about an employer who needs four nannies for three kids, besides the point, I guess.

The bit about her eating the cake sounds odd, but I do think you should have checked with the mom before holding a birthday celebration at her house with her kids.

There are plenty of reasons why she might have been unhappy about this. She may have been concerned that other adults and kids were present in the house at a time when maybe it wasn't clean or there were personal things lying around. That may not have been the case, but she didn't know that. Also, some religions don't condone the celebration of birthdays (Jehovah's Witnesses, for one). Or maybe she is comfortable with some types of cookies and sweets but not others; personally, I don't mind my kids having ice cream and "healthier" cookies but would not want them eating most grocery store bakery cakes because the frosting is basically Crisco with sugar. (Yes, if this is served at another kid's birthday party, I would let it go. But I wouldn't want it served to them at home.)

Finally, OP, even if the MB is being crazy because she is stressed and in the middle of a divorce, there is no excuse for your co-nanny having basically told her, in your words, to screw off. You shouldn't be surprised that treating your boss with disrespect triggered a call to your agency.

Op: I wrote earlier and agreed MB is ridiculous but making peace might be good.

I've had insane families, and I'm familiar with nanny jobs like this one. If I were you I would try REALLY hard to make it to your one year. The nanny agent will be much more kind and helpful to you if you do. A year experience in that environment will also make you far more employable than a 10.5 month span.

You will likely burn serious bridges and to some extent even negate the resume boost this job would give to someone who stayed the year or for the length of their contract.

Tell your agent now that you won't be renewing for another year. Suffer the last 6 weeks, and take a less crazy position next time. You'll have more leverage to hold out for it and the $ saved to wait for the right job to come up.

Don't make a foolish decision based off very real (and justified!!) anger/resentment.

Anonymous wrote: Divorce can bring out a lot of ugly.

This.

OP I hope you find a nicer job where you get on better with your boss! having a crazy boss or a boss you don't like or feel you need to walk on eggshells around really sucks and adds to your stress levels! I hope you spend your time in between jobs relaxing! Make sure to ask your next boss how they feel about cake before you start!

You obviously think poorly of your MB is you casually mention she "scarfed down six cupcakes."

Whatever. This post is passive-aggressive. Put on your big girl pants and move on.

Some of the families I work for do not want me giving their child anything sugary/sweet and even though I allow my own children to eat sweets, as an employee I have to follow my boss's orders. Unless she told you previously not to give her kids sweets, then she is out of line.

Just to be safe however, I wouldn't give any child anything sweet until I got the "OK" from the parents.
Some parents can be very strict on this.

Anonymous wrote:OP here-

Why are you all so quick to be such assholes and call troll? MB scarfed down three pieces of cake. I've seen her eat 6 cupcakes in one sitting, so this wasn't a surprise.

I won't be an unemployed fool. Just a well qualified nanny that is tired of the constant drama that spills over to my days off on a regular basis. I'd love any of you who are so judgemental to try and come work this job for 10 days, much less 10 months. There are 4 nannies here and I have been here the longest.

I'm done. I've saved money so can go without a job for several months if I need to.

Too bad you didn't give this information earlier--you probably would have received more support. You asked what people thought. It seems your mind was already made up.