I really think that MB may actually have some sort of mental illness. She came across as a bright, charming, and creative person during the interview process. Since then, I've seen a much darker side that isn't completely in touch with reality.

DB claims that they are doing taxes now. I asked DB yesterday to make sure both the taxes held back from my pay and their share made it to the IRS in a timely manner. I'm going to stop at the local IRS office next week and find out whether there is any way for me to verify that the IRS has received them and approximately when I should check. I also need to find out whether it is considered theft (and who has jurisdiction) if they withhold money from my check and then don't pay the IRS. DB could lose his job if he is in trouble with the IRS or law enforcement, so I think it will ultimately be done properly.

I bet they're not doing taxes right...

Your MB sounds absolutely delusional! She truly believes you won't leave no matter what she does, because her and her baby's ish don't stink lol

OP here. When I arrived at work on Thursday morning MB was very apologetic about the missing pay. Normally she leaves about an hour after I arrive, so when she walked to the back of the house as soon as I got there, I assumed that she had gone to get her purse so that she could pay me. Nope. She had snuck out of the house. I reached the back door as the garage door finished closing. Her normal routine involves kissing the baby goodbye over and over, but had left without a single goodbye of any kind. I had told her earlier in the week that I would not be able to work if she did not pay me. Apparently she doesn't care. Who leaves their child like that?!

I didn't bother calling her, I left a message for DB instead. He came home, paid me, and begged me to stay until the end of April. I told him that I would stay until then, but only if he would guarantee that I am paid on time which he did. I am actively looking for another position in the meantime.

MB behaved very strangely this morning. She's upset because I informed DB of the ongoing problems. DB went over the new agreement with her before I arrived this afternoon. MB sat me down and and emphasized that I would be paid every two weeks on Monday. She touched on the partial pay issue and had the gall to refer to one of their partial payments as "gas money that you needed" as if I had asked for an pay advance or a loan. (It was a partial payment for a paycheck due that day. The night before, she had decided to change the pay schedule from weekly to twice a month. My input was not sought.)

MB then went on and on about how I am never to put up photos of the baby online. We had discussed it durning the interview process, why spend 15 minutes telling me how angry it would make you if you discovered that I had put some up when I have just told you that I don't ever put photos up no matter how cute and innocent on FB. I don't even talk about my charges on Facebook.

I mentioned that I would like to do some babysitting on the side and asked her whether she would be ok with that. Also asked whether she could give a reference if I needed one. She agreed and told me that she didn't care what I did with my off hours as long as I show up on time for my next shift. She says that she isn't worried about someone trying to hire me away because her baby is the easiest baby ever. It would be stupid for me to leave the easiest child in the world for a more difficult child.

I will be so thankful when I have another position!

As a nanny who has worked for many families, no this is not the norm nor is it very typical.

It would be a huge deal~breaker for me OP.
You are entitled to be paid on time, EVERY time.

Sit down and diplomatically explain that you need to be paid once a week, every Friday.
Explain you have bills that need to be paid over the weekend and you depend on a weekly paycheck.

If she doesn't comply, give notice and move on.

Good luck to you.

The MBs I've had in the past have forgotten from time to time, but I have never had to really push the issue or demand payment. This time my gut feeling is that she doesn't have the money.

I insist on my employers using a payroll service and enrolling in direct deposit. If they object, I move on to the next interview. Case closed. Got burned once. Never again.

I work as a nanny ajd have little trouble.
My rule is one oops and then anymore and I require payment before services.
I would tell her you need paid when you arrive each day or at the beginning of the week.

Anonymous wrote:I've had a helluva time getting paid as a nanny, the only thing that's made a difference is finding a family that wants to pay taxes and put me on a direct deposit payroll. Even the sweetest families have forgotten my cash on Fridays, in the past I have sent parents back out to the ATM and asked them to tack on a extra half hours pay for the extra time I watch the kids while they got the cash. It is really disrespectful to forget to pay me consistently, but it's happened in almost all my 20 years of nannying and even as a teacher in a liscensed home daycare. If your ready to leave for other reasons that's fine, but you may encounter this again. Always speak up and think about the taxes/payroll service nex time around.

Really? Did you really send them out to an ATM and had them add on another 1/2 hour pay? I just cannot imagine doing that and keeping my job long term. I am not being snide, I am just trying to figure out (in all honesty) how you do that nicely and without them resenting you and sooner (rather than later) finding another nanny. I have been a nanny for 18+ years. Please tell me how you would phrase all that so it comes across okay. I really need a lesson myself.

I've had a helluva time getting paid as a nanny, the only thing that's made a difference is finding a family that wants to pay taxes and put me on a direct deposit payroll. Even the sweetest families have forgotten my cash on Fridays, in the past I have sent parents back out to the ATM and asked them to tack on a extra half hours pay for the extra time I watch the kids while they got the cash. It is really disrespectful to forget to pay me consistently, but it's happened in almost all my 20 years of nannying and even as a teacher in a liscensed home daycare. If your ready to leave for other reasons that's fine, but you may encounter this again. Always speak up and think about the taxes/payroll service nex time around.

OP, contact DB and tell him you need your money.