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Anonymous wrote:Don't suck it up. If you haven't accepted the offer then you can and should negotiate.

You could say something like "I mentioned when you told me what you were planning to pay that I would want to talk further about that. I am very interested in this position, and appreciate your offer, but the hourly rate you are offering is lower than I can comfortably accept. Can we talk?"

And then you need to be able to be upfront and clear about what you're willing to accept. Graciously of course.

Good luck.

This! Do not take the job as is- you will just be resentful or leave soon and the kids deserve better regardless of the parents. The pay you accept also sets a precedent for rates and your future earning potential.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't suck it up. If you haven't accepted the offer then you can and should negotiate.

You could say something like "I mentioned when you told me what you were planning to pay that I would want to talk further about that. I am very interested in this position, and appreciate your offer, but the hourly rate you are offering is lower than I can comfortably accept. Can we talk?"

And then you need to be able to be upfront and clear about what you're willing to accept. Graciously of course.

Good luck.

This! Do not take the job as is- you will just be resentful or leave soon and the kids deserve better regardless of the parents. The pay you accept also sets a precedent for rates and your future earning potential.

I'm not saying that she *should* refuse to negotiate with you now. I'm just saying that you need to advocate for yourself early, as she already is by asserting the rate she wants to pay, and not expect her to bring up a topic that will cost her money


Why do MBs do this? If you love your children you should pay whatever the nanny asks. If you don't, you are just taking advantage of someone who can't find other jobs. She will get back at you somehow if you don't pay up!

You must be kidding. Why would I pay anything a nanny asks? The job I'm advertising is at fair market rates. Take it or leave it. There is no "taking advantage of". I've done my research and will not be held hostage by a nanny who entertains threats of getting back at me if I don't match her rate demands. In fact, I wouldn't ever hire someone who thinks like you do. I hope you're not a real nanny.

Low end for DCUMs, or low end compared to other people you know - take that into serious account. If it's compared to people you know, then bring it up NOW. Or it's never.

Do not wait any longer to discuss pay. If you do not bring it up now, then it will be much tougher to deal w/later. Do not sign the agreement unless you are 110% satisfied w/what they are offering you. If you just settle and agree to it, as time goes on you will only become resentful and will soon be looking for something w/better pay. Trust me....I have been there many times.

Sadly, the children will be emotionally invested in you and will be very hurt to see you leave. Plus, you may just burn a bridge w/this family and will have to do some explaining later on to prospective employers.

Discuss things ASAP and if they do not budge, then continue your job search. I know discussing money is awkward, but it's best to discuss it now vs. after the fact.

Hope this helps.

Salary should have been agreed upon before agreement was presented to OP. OP, this is a huge red flag and you sbould pay attention. You owe her nothing and if I were you, I would give her salary requirements and tell her "no" if they refuse.

Please ignore 20:36. Real nannies don't think like that. It's just someone trolling, trying to start a fight and make nannies look bad.

Anonymous wrote:20:36 - what should we do with you? You are beyond reason ... I think counseling may be in order.

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20:36 - what should we do with you? You are beyond reason ... I think counseling may be in order.

I'm not saying that she *should* refuse to negotiate with you now. I'm just saying that you need to advocate for yourself early, as she already is by asserting the rate she wants to pay, and not expect her to bring up a topic that will cost her money

Why do MBs do this? If you love your children you should pay whatever the nanny asks. If you don't, you are just taking advantage of someone who can't find other jobs. She will get back at you somehow if you don't pay up!