Anonymous
03/16/2013 00:03
Subject: I LOVE my charges
It will get easier!!!! In the beginning it will be very hard and than get better.
I was with my first family for 8 years as a live in and the youngest was born while I was there. It was extremely tough when I first left. Especially because 2 weeks after I left I found out I was unable to have children. I ended up changing careers for a bit, but went back to nanning when I missed being with children.
I was lucky I still am in contact with that family and see them at least once a week. The two oldest are now in college, third oldest a senior in highschool (and just got excepted to his fourth college) & the youngest is 13. They tell me I'm their second mom and I'm in the will to take care of the kids if both parents die (yikes! Horrid thought makes me sad
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I was with my first family for 8 years as a live in and the youngest was born while I was there. It was extremely tough when I first left. Especially because 2 weeks after I left I found out I was unable to have children. I ended up changing careers for a bit, but went back to nanning when I missed being with children.
I was lucky I still am in contact with that family and see them at least once a week. The two oldest are now in college, third oldest a senior in highschool (and just got excepted to his fourth college) & the youngest is 13. They tell me I'm their second mom and I'm in the will to take care of the kids if both parents die (yikes! Horrid thought makes me sad
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Anonymous
03/15/2013 23:37
Subject: I LOVE my charges
OP, I know it is really hard to think about right now but I promise it will get easier. I relocated to another state for my current job and left behind a family with 4 children I had worked with for four years. I was heartbroken. I'm thousands of miles away now and no, I don't see them anymore but they are still a part of my life. I call them on their birthdays, we Skype from time to time...they haven't forgotten who I am! I was a huge part of their lives for a few years much like you with your charges. It took me a few months after I had moved to finally be okay but you will get there!
Anonymous
03/14/2013 02:53
Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So tough
OP again.
This is my first longterm/full-time nanny job. I just don't know how people can leave someone that they've known and loved for years? I am probably overly attached, but I just don't want to just stop seeing them..... I mean, I've spent 40 hours a week with these children for years, and then just leave?
If your bosses even have the slightest decency they will let you visit your charges for their childrens sake.. Even if it's just to slowly pull away. They know their children are most definitely attached to you and at two years of age they will definitely notice your absence. Are you close with the family? Have they mentioned you visiting the kids?
They are really nice people, but I'm moving out of state for Grad school. MB jokes she's taking the kids and moving with me, but I know in reality eventually I won't see them anymore.