Anonymous
01/28/2013 16:39
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Am already working with a family who was looking for a nanny who knows how to do her job, so it'd be a bit silly to break up a good thing, don't you think?
Btw, why so angry, that some nannies do know how to do their job?
Btw, why so angry, that some nannies do know how to do their job?
Anonymous
01/28/2013 16:38
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Anonymous wrote:OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.
Anonymous wrote:OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.
wow, are you serious? you are a nanny. you are not there to raise the child - you are there to care for the child in the manner the parents want. In other words, you're implemening the parent's method of child rearing. if you think the child's parents don't know what's best for the child, then you should be calling cps, not raising the child whatever way you think is best for the child.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 16:37
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Anonymous wrote:OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.
wow, are you serious? you are a nanny. you are not there to raise the child - you are there to care for the child in the manner the parents want. In other words, you're implemening the parent's method of child rearing. if you think the child's parents don't know what's best for the child, then you should be calling cps, not raising the child whatever way you think is best for the child.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 16:26
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Anonymous wrote:Seems like a fundamental thing to me that employers and employees must see eye to eye on basic elements of childcare like nutrition, safety issues, discipline, behavior management, desired activity levels, sleep training, etc...
I wouldn't hire (or retain) a nanny who disagreed with my parenting choices - much less one who flagrantly refused to do what I asked. A nanny shouldn't accept a position where he/she disagrees with the parents. I would expect an experienced, professional nanny to know how to interview potential employers to avoid the sort of conflict presented in this question.
Bottom line - unless the child is being harmed, the parents are the boss. You work for them. You do what you're hired/instructed to do. If you refuse then you can be fired. Just like you could be for disobeying orders in any workplace.
Find another position w/ a family whose choices you can support. You're doing noone a service by staying where you are and working against, rather than with, the parents.
+1 from a nanny
Anonymous
01/28/2013 13:54
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Apparently, different nannies have different ways of approaching their work. It is neither your duty, nor mine, to dictate how each and every nanny, should do her work.
Btw, not all parents consider themselves to be child development experts. Those are the ones who want me.
Btw, not all parents consider themselves to be child development experts. Those are the ones who want me.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 13:47
Subject: I service your child, not you.
"OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point. "
different families want different things. For my family, I respect my nanny's viewpoint and regularly ask her for advice, but if I make a decision about how to raise my kid, then I expect her to abide by that. I'm the boss - just as in my job, my boss asks my suggestions on things but sometimes I am overruled. While I can understand a nanny drawing the line at someting truly harmful (spanking, driving w/o seatbelts), anything falling short of that needs to defer to parents on - although nanny can/should express her concerns to them directly if she has them.
different families want different things. For my family, I respect my nanny's viewpoint and regularly ask her for advice, but if I make a decision about how to raise my kid, then I expect her to abide by that. I'm the boss - just as in my job, my boss asks my suggestions on things but sometimes I am overruled. While I can understand a nanny drawing the line at someting truly harmful (spanking, driving w/o seatbelts), anything falling short of that needs to defer to parents on - although nanny can/should express her concerns to them directly if she has them.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 12:15
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Again... Parents who hire me, do so for how I do my job. Please forgive me for being so direct with you, pp, but which part of that, do you not comprehend?
Anonymous
01/28/2013 12:04
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Seems like a fundamental thing to me that employers and employees must see eye to eye on basic elements of childcare like nutrition, safety issues, discipline, behavior management, desired activity levels, sleep training, etc...
I wouldn't hire (or retain) a nanny who disagreed with my parenting choices - much less one who flagrantly refused to do what I asked. A nanny shouldn't accept a position where he/she disagrees with the parents. I would expect an experienced, professional nanny to know how to interview potential employers to avoid the sort of conflict presented in this question.
Bottom line - unless the child is being harmed, the parents are the boss. You work for them. You do what you're hired/instructed to do. If you refuse then you can be fired. Just like you could be for disobeying orders in any workplace.
Find another position w/ a family whose choices you can support. You're doing noone a service by staying where you are and working against, rather than with, the parents.
I wouldn't hire (or retain) a nanny who disagreed with my parenting choices - much less one who flagrantly refused to do what I asked. A nanny shouldn't accept a position where he/she disagrees with the parents. I would expect an experienced, professional nanny to know how to interview potential employers to avoid the sort of conflict presented in this question.
Bottom line - unless the child is being harmed, the parents are the boss. You work for them. You do what you're hired/instructed to do. If you refuse then you can be fired. Just like you could be for disobeying orders in any workplace.
Find another position w/ a family whose choices you can support. You're doing noone a service by staying where you are and working against, rather than with, the parents.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 11:57
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Anonymous wrote:My agreement with the parents is to care for their children in the best way I know how. They hired me specificly for that reason. Not all parents demand to be absentee micro-managers.
Sorry.
Some parents choose to hire a nanny competent enough, with an extensive history, who does not require supervision. They're too busy with their own professions.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 11:46
Subject: Re:I service your child, not you.
I agree with 23:19. The OP seems to have an ego issue and is insecure about being a nanny. I don't agree with spanking and its an extreme example. If this is true, which is doubtful, the OP could easily respond to the mother that "I understand that as a parent you are the one who will choose the discipline method. However, I am not your child's parent and any physical contact for discipline performed by me could lead to an assault charge under the law. I can't risk my professional reputation and future career as a nanny by doing this.
As a nanny, you work for the parents and your job is to provide care for the child. The child is a minor and lacks the ability to make these decisions. If you say you service the child not your employer you are basically saying you service yourself and take someone's money. As the nanny, you are a caretaker under the supervision of the parents not a guardian which is a different role.
As a nanny, you work for the parents and your job is to provide care for the child. The child is a minor and lacks the ability to make these decisions. If you say you service the child not your employer you are basically saying you service yourself and take someone's money. As the nanny, you are a caretaker under the supervision of the parents not a guardian which is a different role.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 11:46
Subject: I service your child, not you.
My agreement with the parents is to care for their children in the best way I know how. They hired me specificly for that reason. Not all parents demand to be absentee micro-managers.
Sorry.
Sorry.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 11:38
Subject: I service your child, not you.
I would have clearly said that for liability reasons, you will never put a hand on a child but will find other more appropriate ways to discipline. I would also hint that you are a mandated reporter and any signs of abuse will be reported.
But as a nanny, you are hired by the parents and are expected to preform all tasks set forth by the parents on your contract. These are not your children, you don't have the right to make decisions about their upbringing unless it puts the child in danger, and at that point you should be reporting them to CPS.
But as a nanny, you are hired by the parents and are expected to preform all tasks set forth by the parents on your contract. These are not your children, you don't have the right to make decisions about their upbringing unless it puts the child in danger, and at that point you should be reporting them to CPS.
Anonymous
01/28/2013 09:25
Subject: I service your child, not you.
OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.
Anonymous
01/27/2013 23:19
Subject: I service your child, not you.
OP I'm sure the parents didn't try to force you to spank their child and most sane parents wouldn't ever ask anyone to physical discipline their child.
I personally wouldn't ever spank a child even if the parents told me to either but as a nanny you work for them so even though you might not agree with certain things, they're paying you to be professional and being untrustworthy and defiant isn't professional. It's their child, not yours so who are you to choose what you'll do or wont do? (spanking aside)
I think this post was an ego/pride type of post. I don't know what you were phishing for OP but whatever it is, you kinda failed. No offence.
I personally wouldn't ever spank a child even if the parents told me to either but as a nanny you work for them so even though you might not agree with certain things, they're paying you to be professional and being untrustworthy and defiant isn't professional. It's their child, not yours so who are you to choose what you'll do or wont do? (spanking aside)
I think this post was an ego/pride type of post. I don't know what you were phishing for OP but whatever it is, you kinda failed. No offence.
Anonymous
01/27/2013 23:13
Subject: I service your child, not you.
Anonymous wrote:You already tried to start an argument with that line, 20:42.
It didn't work because everyone can see that you only post to start trouble. Go away.
+1 LOL --- 20:42 got rejected.