Anonymous wrote:I'm so glad these threads exist. It proves that nannies secretly want to undermine the child-mom relationship. Daycare all the way.

You're wrong that all nannies have that intention. I love it when my charge wants MB over me and I love when he's so psyched to see her after she gets home from work. It makes MB so happy which makes me happy. I'm the nanny not the mommy...and my charge loves me but he knows who his mommy is.

OP here! Sheesh, you guys can run really far on just a few little things! First thing's first, I am not encouraging this behavior (notice how I said I "secretly" loved it, rather than openly). I wrote nothing about how I reacted to this behavior, and you ladies filled in the blanks incorrectly. The only time somebody "gives in" to the poor behavior is when MB brings the 2 year old out to the car. I can't control that and wouldn't do that if I were in her shoes. As far as i'm concerned, the minute MB walks in the room, she's the boss and i back her up. Her and i agree on most things, but she has a different approach to whining/tantrums than i do. The kids know it doesnt fly with me when i'm the boss. I love this family to pieces and in NO WAY am I trying to undermine the child-mom relationship. She's an amazing woman and mother who has a strong bond with each of her kids. She always encourages them to give me hugs and kisses on my way out the door even if they're engaged in an activity. What I DO love is seeing how much the kids love me. With the four of them, we're very busy all day and the baby is almost always in my arms. So saying goodbyes is a special time for us where we get to love on each other.

I'm so glad these threads exist. It proves that nannies secretly want to undermine the child-mom relationship. Daycare all the way.

Anonymous wrote:Hey 13:50/14:02 - I would hire you in a minute based on those posts!

I can understand why a nanny loves feeling loved/valued/most important by her charges. Moms, Dads, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc... all love that also. As a Mom I'm really glad my kids love our nanny - that's great for everyone. But I also need my nanny to respect my role and be as supportive of their relationship with me as I am of their relationship with her.

I don't think it's ever good to reinforce dependency, whining, over-reliance, etc... I have this same beef w/ dog owners - don't train your dog to melt down when you leave. Don't teach kids to do that either. I want my children to be surrounded by people who love them, all of whom come and go through their lives and days comfortably. Flexible secure loving relationships aren't founded in clinging and crying.

Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:If this situation were reversed, and it was MB prolonging the goodbyes, it would be SO frustrating for the nanny.

So consider that next time, OP. Yes, it's great to feel loved. By why make things harder on the mom?

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Plus 3 here!! Op you're selfish and I can't wait until you realize what it's like, if you ever have kids who really love and cry for someone toner then yourself. Great nanny you are, my friends would love to hire you! No need to look for another nanny elsewhere, you're a dream come true! Haha

Anonymous wrote:Hey 13:50/14:02 - I would hire you in a minute based on those posts!

I can understand why a nanny loves feeling loved/valued/most important by her charges. Moms, Dads, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc... all love that also. As a Mom I'm really glad my kids love our nanny - that's great for everyone. But I also need my nanny to respect my role and be as supportive of their relationship with me as I am of their relationship with her.

I don't think it's ever good to reinforce dependency, whining, over-reliance, etc... I have this same beef w/ dog owners - don't train your dog to melt down when you leave. Don't teach kids to do that either. I want my children to be surrounded by people who love them, all of whom come and go through their lives and days comfortably. Flexible secure loving relationships aren't founded in clinging and crying.

NP but nanny who agrees here!!

Hey 13:50/14:02 - I would hire you in a minute based on those posts!

I can understand why a nanny loves feeling loved/valued/most important by her charges. Moms, Dads, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc... all love that also. As a Mom I'm really glad my kids love our nanny - that's great for everyone. But I also need my nanny to respect my role and be as supportive of their relationship with me as I am of their relationship with her.

I don't think it's ever good to reinforce dependency, whining, over-reliance, etc... I have this same beef w/ dog owners - don't train your dog to melt down when you leave. Don't teach kids to do that either. I want my children to be surrounded by people who love them, all of whom come and go through their lives and days comfortably. Flexible secure loving relationships aren't founded in clinging and crying.

Anonymous wrote:Today when I was leaving my youngest charge (age 1) broke down as I was walking out the door. I said "bye bye", and she looked at MB and said "Bye Bye" and totally thought she was going with me.

I felt bad leaving MB with a shrieking child but super loved at the same time!

That's so sweet.

Today when I was leaving my youngest charge (age 1) broke down as I was walking out the door. I said "bye bye", and she looked at MB and said "Bye Bye" and totally thought she was going with me.

I felt bad leaving MB with a shrieking child but super loved at the same time!

i love it too! who doesn't love knowing the kids feel attached to them? it's not like op is happy that the mom might be sad.
i'm positive MBs secretly like it when their kids cry for them instead of nanny. it's just natural. haters, carry on.

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Stop being a hater. It's not a good look.

OP, happy for you. Ignore the bitter people on here, their opinions are useless.

lol i love it too!