OP here: thank you all for your comments. Since posting this I have begun looking for a new position, things seem to get worse as the days go on. I have another question though. I have never left a position for something like this before all of my other jobs have ended on excellent terms, kids starting school full time & family relocation, all with glowing references. How do you explain to new families your interviewing with why the position ended?

OP, please tell us you've left that nightmare situation.

OP you have a clueless MB. I mean really.....clueless. She gets upset when you're not there, like she thinks it will 'Be like SOOOO much fun to feel like I'm in your way, like I don't mind, why should you? '

This MB needs to get real and you do too OP. QUIT. If you don't ...you won't get pity from me!