Anonymous
12/30/2012 00:13
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Look, we are not bad employers. I do tend to get a bit excited and raise my voice. Everyone that knows me knows this. We pay well, give a lot of vacation time, and days off. She could do a lot worse.
Vacation and pay is irrelevant. You're pretty much saying that because you give vacation time and days off, that you have the right to raise your voice and get away with it? HA NEWS FLASH, most nannies get vacation and days off but they also work for employers who have the impulse control to NOT yell and speak in a professional, calm way. I bet you did all of this in front of your children like a trashy parent.
The nanny spends all day doing activities with your kids so when she's off the clock of course she wants to be with her family and enjoy her own life. You really expect anyone to put your kids first, even before their own family? HA.. Your nanny cares about your kids, don't get me wrong.. But no, your kids don't come first in her life. She's getting paid for a reason.
Only you believe your child doesn't lie. You believe this so much so, that you called your children's nanny and yelled at her before hearing what she has to say.
Only you enjoy watching your kid's kick a soccer ball and you should, they're yours.
I don't no why previous nannies went to games. Maybe they had no life and games were the only opportunity for them to get out. Maybe they felt forced or guilted into attending. Maybe they thought the coach was good looking. There could be alot of reasons but most people don't want to watch your kids play sports on their free time. In-fact, I'd rather eat spam in a can then to spend my precious time sitting on a bench next to your loud mouth, watching your tattle tailing child.
Speaking of previous nannies, you mentioned you have a preschooler so i'm assuming your children are on the younger side. Wow, How many nannies did you go through? Why am I not surprised? You know, alot of families can manage to keep the same nanny for years, why can't you? I think I know.
AMEN!!!!
I love kids love my charges (current and previous) but the last thing I want to do after being with kids all day is going to their play. When I was a live in - yes I did that. I was also 15 years younger and had not much of a life.
Now - hell no! I'm a live out, set hours, with a very happy life outside work
Anonymous
12/29/2012 20:58
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Anonymous wrote:Look, we are not bad employers. I do tend to get a bit excited and raise my voice. Everyone that knows me knows this. We pay well, give a lot of vacation time, and days off. She could do a lot worse.
Vacation and pay is irrelevant. You're pretty much saying that because you give vacation time and days off, that you have the right to raise your voice and get away with it? HA NEWS FLASH, most nannies get vacation and days off but they also work for employers who have the impulse control to NOT yell and speak in a professional, calm way. I bet you did all of this in front of your children like a trashy parent.
The nanny spends all day doing activities with your kids so when she's off the clock of course she wants to be with her family and enjoy her own life. You really expect anyone to put your kids first, even before their own family? HA.. Your nanny cares about your kids, don't get me wrong.. But no, your kids don't come first in her life. She's getting paid for a reason.
Only you believe your child doesn't lie. You believe this so much so, that you called your children's nanny and yelled at her before hearing what she has to say.
Only you enjoy watching your kid's kick a soccer ball and you should, they're yours.
I don't no why previous nannies went to games. Maybe they had no life and games were the only opportunity for them to get out. Maybe they felt forced or guilted into attending. Maybe they thought the coach was good looking. There could be alot of reasons but most people don't want to watch your kids play sports on their free time. In-fact, I'd rather eat spam in a can then to spend my precious time sitting on a bench next to your loud mouth, watching your tattle tailing child.
Speaking of previous nannies, you mentioned you have a preschooler so i'm assuming your children are on the younger side. Wow, How many nannies did you go through? Why am I not surprised? You know, alot of families can manage to keep the same nanny for years, why can't you? I think I know.
Anonymous
12/25/2012 14:12
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Why do you think you have the right to yell just because you are the employer? Pretty sure that if your boss yelled at you for a miscommunication that you would be pissed.
Anonymous
12/25/2012 03:48
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Anonymous wrote: Should she have mentioned that she was late at the second school? Yes, but I hardly think it's grounds for firing.
I agree. I also think that while it is something to mention, there are times that we mean to mention something and it just ends up slipping our minds when the time finally comes (when you come home). Especially if she is taking care of a child that got picked up early from school sick. This would be taking up more of my attention (along with the preschooler) than trying to remember to mention I was a bit late for the second school. The omission part wasn't necessarily on purpose, so I wouldn't call that being dishonest about it.
Anonymous
12/24/2012 23:46
Subject: Re:URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
I would understand you feeling this upset and yelling if your nanny was late picking up your preschooler because she fell asleep or got caught up doing something or whatever. But she was late because your other child got SICK. Come on lady, that is no reason to fire your nanny. Especially if she is a good nanny and your children like her. Relax, yes, you have every right to be stressed but the correct thing to do here is apologize to your nanny, tell her you're very emotional over recent events and tell her to please let you know if she's ever late. Do you really want to fire your nanny, start a hiring process, perhaps end up with a nanny that isn't a good fit when you already have a perfectly good nanny?
Think about it...
Think about it...
Anonymous
12/24/2012 21:09
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Are you kidding????? SHE HAS A LIFE AND THINGS TO DO. SHE CANT ATTEND CHILDRENS GAMES ETC TO PLEASE HER BOSS.
Anonymous
12/24/2012 18:11
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Ooppss.. Pressed enter to quickly. ahh i don't feel like typing anymore..
Anonymous
12/24/2012 18:09
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
OP, i'm not one of these snots who always make judgements against the Original posters but you are COMPLETELY in the wrong because you called her up and let your emotions get the best of you. She made an honest mistake, she shouldn't of been yelled at and I would have called you out as well. Atleast she was professional about it. Do you want her to hold it in and snap? Mistakes happen and she was very professional about it. Im sure she wanted to call you a bitch but didn't. She said she didn't appreciate your attitude.
And as for the outings.. U
And as for the outings.. U
Anonymous
12/24/2012 14:33
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
MB here (not OP): To be fair, sometimes employers are going to get a bit emotional. This is not a typical business situation, and even in offices people do get angry and upset sometimes. However, I don't think the OP's behaviour was appropriate.
OP, I don't think the situation warranted your reaction let alone firing her. You are lucky to have a nanny who has enough backbone to stick up for herself - she did say that she was sorry about stressing you out, but she was right to say that she didn't like the way you talked to her. An employee has the right to do that, just because you are her employer doesn't mean she should have to suck up your offensive treatment in silence. If you want to keep her you need to apologise. "I'm sorry that I lost my temper, it really was not appropriate and I understand if you found it offensive. You're doing a great job and we really value you. If I have an issue with anything in the future I'll make sure to discuss it with you in an appropriate way at an appropriate time."
I don't think you should expect her to attend events unless you ask her to do so and you pay her for the time. It's nice that previous nannies did this but it is pretty rare I think.
OP, I don't think the situation warranted your reaction let alone firing her. You are lucky to have a nanny who has enough backbone to stick up for herself - she did say that she was sorry about stressing you out, but she was right to say that she didn't like the way you talked to her. An employee has the right to do that, just because you are her employer doesn't mean she should have to suck up your offensive treatment in silence. If you want to keep her you need to apologise. "I'm sorry that I lost my temper, it really was not appropriate and I understand if you found it offensive. You're doing a great job and we really value you. If I have an issue with anything in the future I'll make sure to discuss it with you in an appropriate way at an appropriate time."
I don't think you should expect her to attend events unless you ask her to do so and you pay her for the time. It's nice that previous nannies did this but it is pretty rare I think.
Anonymous
12/24/2012 12:38
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Are you paying your nanny to come to your kids games, plays, etc???
If not than don't expect it.
Your nanny has a life outside of work.
Do you go to your bosses "things" (not a work party but something else)?
Please rethink how you think of your nanny. She's a person not your property.
If not than don't expect it.
Your nanny has a life outside of work.
Do you go to your bosses "things" (not a work party but something else)?
Please rethink how you think of your nanny. She's a person not your property.
Anonymous
12/24/2012 12:32
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Yelling is never appropriate as previous posters said. NEVER. No exceptions. If you don't want to go through 5-10 nannies while your kids grow up, you need to take care of that problem.
Having said that, it sounds your nanny is no baby herself and knows how to take care of herself and deal with you. She is no pushover. It kind of sounds like a perfect match.
But if you are going to be so upset about it that you will be holding a grudge for months, then yes, you should think about getting a new nanny.
Having said that, it sounds your nanny is no baby herself and knows how to take care of herself and deal with you. She is no pushover. It kind of sounds like a perfect match.
But if you are going to be so upset about it that you will be holding a grudge for months, then yes, you should think about getting a new nanny.
Anonymous
12/24/2012 12:23
Subject: URGENT! Do I fire my nanny??
Go away troll, seriously get a life