Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but my comprehension is just fine. The root of the problem is her sense of entitlement.

It's not about entitlement. She gave her the bonus then took some of it back AFTER she had already given it. That'd be like giving a waiter a tip, then returning moments later to take a couple dollars back. It's tacky and offensive.

Sorry, but my comprehension is just fine. The root of the problem is her sense of entitlement.

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny, and I agree that bonuses should not be expected. My employers have offered me all kinds of perks (food, drinks, going home early if I need to) and I always refuse unless they insist on giving me something extra. I don't want them to feel like they have to guess how to keep me happy. If you act like a professional, you will get what you deserve - a raise!

Once again you nannies fail to comprehend. It has nothing to do with OP expecting anything, nor does her question have anything to do with perks, raises or the actual bonus. It has everything to do with MB decreasing her bonus moments after she already gave it to nanny. That's tacky and it would offend most people.

OP, can you please update?

I am a nanny, and I agree that bonuses should not be expected. My employers have offered me all kinds of perks (food, drinks, going home early if I need to) and I always refuse unless they insist on giving me something extra. I don't want them to feel like they have to guess how to keep me happy. If you act like a professional, you will get what you deserve - a raise!

That is just rude. She told you about the bonus then took money from it? By that point, it had become yours once she mentioned it was there for you. which means she took from you. It didn't have to be in your purse at that point. Your phone on the counter is still your phone. She could have switched the money at any time up until she told you it was yours. Once told it's yours, it is your property. I would love to ask her why she stole money from your bonus, since that is technically what she did.

OP i think you should just confront her politely and say something along the lines of...''Hi (name), Something has really been on my mind and I would like to talk to you about it if you have a moment.... First, I would like to thank you for the bonus I received, it was very thoughtful and I appreciate it very much. However, I noticed that after receiving it, you deducted some of the bonus pay and I can't help but think I did something that possibly changed your mind on the amount you were initially going to give me. And if so, I would like to no so I can see where you're coming from and work on it if necessary.''

So she can't go on about how ''shes right your wrong''.. and she'll look real petty because doing what she did was horrible and tacky.

That is ridiculous, your MB sounds horrible. I don't see how you can bring this up in a way that will have a positive outcome, unless she is a much nicer person than this action makes her seem. I think you should take the higher ground, i.e. not say anything, and if she wants to redeem the babysitting vouchers I think you need to honour that or you will be lowering yourself to her level. And look for another job with a family who truly appreciates you!

I'm a MB and I don't expect a gift from my nanny and I hope she doesn't spend too much money on the kids. The bonus and gifts we are giving her are unconditional and allow to show our gratitude for the awesome work that she does.

Don't be passive agressive. If it's important to you bring it up directly or give back the $50 and tell them what you saw and clearly they need the money more than you do. Otherwise let it go and/or look for a new job but there's no guarantee the bonus would be any better with a different family.

PP the point is that she reduced the bonus right after I gave the kids their gifts ... It is not about how much bonus I got or how much I feel I deserved.

PP again, i work 20 hours a week at $20/hour and all i got was $250 as a bonus/gift and she makes a lot of money and i mean a lot of money, could she have given me more? Of course she could, but she didn't and i deserve it as well because she tells me all the time of how much i make her life easier and all of that extra stuff, but she didnt... But oh well