Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not really typical. I work part time so I can spend more time with the kids.

If this is important to you, then you should look for it next time you find a family. Find a family where the mom seems engaged or work part time or just need an extra pair of hands because they have 4 kids, etc.

This is me too! I work part-time and I'm racing home at the end of the day to see my little one. My H who works full-time is the same way and if our LO has a bad nap day and has to go to bed on the early side he's always so disappointed not to get some playtime in. Of course if you're looking for a full-time salary you're not going to find families like us unless you combine us into a nanny share or alternate days.

But we are out there, those parents who love our kids and just want someone to help us care for them rather than do our parenting for us. In fact my nanny will be leaving us in the next year to make a career change and we'll be on the hunt for a new nanny at that point.

Anonymous wrote:That's not really typical. I work part time so I can spend more time with the kids.

If this is important to you, then you should look for it next time you find a family. Find a family where the mom seems engaged or work part time or just need an extra pair of hands because they have 4 kids, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, a good nanny takes care of the kids while parents are gone. A great nanny builds connections in a family even when the family is apart. If you think the little boy is missing his parents, why not talk about all the important things that keep them busy?

Not the one you were responding to, but it's kind of hard to constantly have to lie to the kids when you know that it is not work or anything important keeping the parents out and away from the kids. When they decide to go out to lunch with each other, then daddy goes to play golf with a friend (not as a business networking thing, but truly for fun) and mom goes shopping for $500 jeans, goes out for coffee, stops at home to drop off her bags and then leaves again saying she wants to go to a volunteer meeting to save the state/national parks. Then afterwards, they go out to dinner together with friends, stop by some high society event afterwards just to be seen, and get home hours after the kids have gone to bed. Yeah, that was a really important day that they couldn't have decided to skip even ONE of these things to spend an hour alone with their kids...

Anonymous wrote:OP, a good nanny takes care of the kids while parents are gone. A great nanny builds connections in a family even when the family is apart. If you think the little boy is missing his parents, why not talk about all the important things that keep them busy?

OP, a good nanny takes care of the kids while parents are gone. A great nanny builds connections in a family even when the family is apart. If you think the little boy is missing his parents, why not talk about all the important things that keep them busy? Or take photos of what you are doing to text to MB/DB and share their comments with him? Or tell him how much his parents love him? Or do a special activity like making a project or a treat and mail it to them?

Oh wait, your goal ISN'T to comfort the little boy and support his emotional stability. Your goal is to feel superior. If you really cared about your charge, then you would know that the hatred you display here is obvious to him, and animosity between his parents and his caregiver is toxic. Get a job with a SAHM or WAHM and you will have the same problem. Yu believe that you alone know the correct way to raise this child and any parent that defies that will fall under your judgement sooner or later. Find an office job somewhere.

--A nanny who works 65 hours a week.

Anonymous wrote:OP, a good nanny takes care of the kids while parents are gone. A great nanny builds connections in a family even when the family is apart. If you think the little boy is missing his parents, why not talk about all the important things that keep them busy? Or take photos of what you are doing to text to MB/DB and share their comments with him? Or tell him how much his parents love him? Or do a special activity like making a project or a treat and mail it to them?

Oh wait, your goal ISN'T to comfort the little boy and support his emotional stability. Your goal is to feel superior. If you really cared about your charge, then you would know that the hatred you display here is obvious to him, and animosity between his parents and his caregiver is toxic. Get a job with a SAHM or WAHM and you will have the same problem. Yu believe that you alone know the correct way to raise this child and any parent that defies that will fall under your judgement sooner or later. Find an office job somewhere.

--A nanny who works 65 hours a week.

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I have a right to be concerned about the emotional well being of their children. I kinda have to. I am there all the time. I actually don't make that awesome of a salary, but it's all right. It pays the bills. I just find this to be a pattern in the jobs I've had and trust me, they are not super high paying. I love the children and that is why I do it. However, I may have reached burn out or like others have suggested, perhaps I need to find employers who are more involved in their children's lives where I feel more like a compliment to them, not a substitute. And yes, they are harming their children...emotionally. That is just as important of an aspect of their development as any other. Don't tell me to change how I feel. If you have absent mom guilt, then that is your issue, so don't tell me how to feel about.

The problem is not with how you feel, it is how you think.

It's nice that you are concerned with the emotional well being of the children, but it gives you no rights to judge anything that parents do. Further, your assuming that you know what is emotionally harmful for children is just your opinion. You don't seem to understand that opinions don't make you correct and it is incredibly inappropriate for you to judge your employers (especially as negatively as you have done here) because they don't do what you think they should do.

You should definitely leave the field. Your attitude is rigid and not conducive to supporting working parents.

I have a right to be concerned about the emotional well being of their children. I kinda have to. I am there all the time. I actually don't make that awesome of a salary, but it's all right. It pays the bills. I just find this to be a pattern in the jobs I've had and trust me, they are not super high paying. I love the children and that is why I do it. However, I may have reached burn out or like others have suggested, perhaps I need to find employers who are more involved in their children's lives where I feel more like a compliment to them, not a substitute. And yes, they are harming their children...emotionally. That is just as important of an aspect of their development as any other. Don't tell me to change how I feel. If you have absent mom guilt, then that is your issue, so don't tell me how to feel about.

I have a right to be concerned about the emotional well being of their children. I kinda have to. I am there all the time. I actually don't make that awesome of a salary, but it's all right. It pays the bills. I just find this to be a pattern in the jobs I've had and trust me, they are not super high paying. I love the children and that is why I do it. However, I may have reached burn out or like others have suggested, perhaps I need to find employers who are more involved in their children's lives where I feel more like a compliment to them, not a substitute. And yes, they are harming their children...emotionally.