Anonymous
Post 12/15/2012 22:26     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:LOL--seriously, I cannot stand how differently the kids behave with MB than with me! And NO, PP, it's not b/c of their comfortability level or the fact that they dont feel "loved" by me. It's the fact that MB's (many of them, not all) let their kids run wild and don't care enough to enforce consistency. The kids know my rules, they know what they are expected to do/act like/behave and there are consequences if not. Simple as that. Ever heard of the word "discipline"?? Guess not.


At the end of the day it is hard to discipline a little dumping mini version of you that you would literally die for. Call it what you want, love or lack of discipline. It is the same thing. Still not something to be "proud" of that your charges are better with you. You can/should like that perk of being a nanny but it doesn't make you better than the parents. Plenty of grown ups out there with issues because they were not loved. Not so many with problems becuase they lacked discipline growing up.


If you love someone then you should want to discipline them and have them grow up with manners and to be able to do things on their own. Yes, it is something to be proud of that we can get kids that do nothing but whine and make a mess while with their parents to speak nicely and clean up after themselves while with us. Obviously the parents have a hard time doing it, and it is even harder to get someone else's kids to do what an adult asks them to, than if they are your own children. There are many kids that will not listen to what other adults say, but they know they have to listen to their parents. Who said anything about kids not being loved? The nanny cares for them AND disciplines them, it can be done. If you use love as an excuse, then you are just a pushover.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2012 18:01     Subject: MBs know everything
Nanny here and I find it hilarious when posters imply that the children are brats because they are so loved.

Guess what? I have kids of my own and I love them enough to teach them right from wrong. I teach them to be hard-working, self-reliant, empathtic and kind. Not self-indulgent and materialistic.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2012 17:50     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:LOL--seriously, I cannot stand how differently the kids behave with MB than with me! And NO, PP, it's not b/c of their comfortability level or the fact that they dont feel "loved" by me. It's the fact that MB's (many of them, not all) let their kids run wild and don't care enough to enforce consistency. The kids know my rules, they know what they are expected to do/act like/behave and there are consequences if not. Simple as that. Ever heard of the word "discipline"?? Guess not.


At the end of the day it is hard to discipline a little dumping mini version of you that you would literally die for. Call it what you want, love or lack of discipline. It is the same thing. Still not something to be "proud" of that your charges are better with you. You can/should like that perk of being a nanny but it doesn't make you better than the parents. Plenty of grown ups out there with issues because they were not loved. Not so many with problems becuase they lacked discipline growing up.


You're joking, right?
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2012 17:47     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:LOL--seriously, I cannot stand how differently the kids behave with MB than with me! And NO, PP, it's not b/c of their comfortability level or the fact that they dont feel "loved" by me. It's the fact that MB's (many of them, not all) let their kids run wild and don't care enough to enforce consistency. The kids know my rules, they know what they are expected to do/act like/behave and there are consequences if not. Simple as that. Ever heard of the word "discipline"?? Guess not.


At the end of the day it is hard to discipline a little dumping mini version of you that you would literally die for. Call it what you want, love or lack of discipline. It is the same thing. Still not something to be "proud" of that your charges are better with you. You can/should like that perk of being a nanny but it doesn't make you better than the parents. Plenty of grown ups out there with issues because they were not loved. Not so many with problems becuase they lacked discipline growing up.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2012 02:13     Subject: MBs know everything
LOL--seriously, I cannot stand how differently the kids behave with MB than with me! And NO, PP, it's not b/c of their comfortability level or the fact that they dont feel "loved" by me. It's the fact that MB's (many of them, not all) let their kids run wild and don't care enough to enforce consistency. The kids know my rules, they know what they are expected to do/act like/behave and there are consequences if not. Simple as that. Ever heard of the word "discipline"?? Guess not.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 16:21     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:^^ Haha!! I do the same thing!! Uhhhh the reason he doesn't behave with his parents is because he knows he doesn't have to!! I call this snowflake syndrome.


+1000000

hahaha. MB's, take note. Oh wait, you already know everything...
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 16:15     Subject: MBs know everything
^^ Haha!! I do the same thing!! Uhhhh the reason he doesn't behave with his parents is because he knows he doesn't have to!! I call this snowflake syndrome.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 15:22     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:There are some crazy nannies who belong in the mental institute on this board.

Side note, kids act worse with their own parents because they are more comfortable and feel more loved. How well they behave with you compared to the mother is nothing to brag about.



That's the line I give to my MB.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 15:22     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:There are some crazy nannies who belong in the mental institute on this board.

Side note, kids act worse with their own parents because they are more comfortable and feel more loved. How well they behave with you compared to the mother is nothing to brag about.


And also because the parents don't use discipline.

You want to post here about how MBs notice everything? Nannies do too. I know which parents hold their kids accountable and which parents don't. I know if your whining child gets his own way because you're sick of hearing him complain and I know if you have absentee-mom guilt and load them up on sugar in the evenings when you get home, building the bridge to a disastrous nighttime routine. We know how you run things in your home and, having seen many such homes up close and personal, we know what works and what doesn't.

But good luck with that. Clearly we're just hired to be silent servants, not because we're good at what we do.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 15:13     Subject: MBs know everything
There are some crazy nannies who belong in the mental institute on this board.

Side note, kids act worse with their own parents because they are more comfortable and feel more loved. How well they behave with you compared to the mother is nothing to brag about.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 11:52     Subject: Re:MBs know everything
I'm with PP. MB, if you know so much then you must know that treating your school-aged children like helpless babies is only encouraging their whining, tantruming behavior and that when they're with me and I ask them to perform such overwhelmingly unfair tasks as putting on their own shoes and carrying their own backpacks from the car into the house, they start living up to my expectations and behaving like they should. I guess since you know everything and still choose not to change anything about your own expectations, that must mean you like the way they scream and hit and ignore and defy you?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 11:45     Subject: MBs know everything
*nanny cam
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2012 11:44     Subject: MBs know everything
Good, I hope you have a nanny can and can see how kind and polite the kids are with me as opposed to ungrateful brats when they're with you! I hope you see them eating vegetables and clearing their plates after dinner, instead of throwing food and eating yogurt or crackers for dinner because 'they don't like broccoli'. I hope you see them dressing themselves, picking out clothes, helping with laundry and cleaning their toys, instead of being slobs and making giant messes with you. When they misbehave, I hope you see me getting Dosn on their level and reasoning instead of steaming and yelling like you. I also hope you see us playing and me being engaged and that you think of that when you spend the only time with your kids on the phone, iPad or watching tv.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2012 22:22     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nannies,

MBs may seem like we have too much on our plates and have no idea what is going on in our house sometimes but we know and notice a lot more than you think we do. Two messages I want to get out.

1. We know. I notice everything down to which stickers are gone in the sticker book, how much snacks go to you vs. kids, when you are being extra attentive because I'm around vs. how you are when I'm not around. I know when you make little white lies even though I let the moment pass.
2. We expect you to be human. We expect you to eat when you are hungry (and eat than the kids more because you are bigger), have bad days when you just want to surf your phone and serve the easiest food.

Please don't lie to your MB, even about the smallest things. Please don't put on an act when MB is around. It's ok to be human, to have good days and bad. As long as you are honest and treat the kids as you want your kids to be treated, you don't have to be perfect 100% of the time.

Maybe we expect you to be a little bit better (such as no TV with you) than us since you get to go home at 6pm and have "my time.." but not much better. We are parents and we know what it is like to look after them first hand.




You can't give the nanny at least a half hour break a day and let the kids watch one cartoon? We spend more time during the week with your kids than you do and need a break too.



uh.. no. you can get a break in other ways. If they are young, they nap. If they are older they will play independently for half an hour.


Okay sure. Yet as a house manager who also has long laundry list of other household duties, then there is no break.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2012 22:18     Subject: MBs know everything
Anonymous wrote:Bet you don't know how often your husband stares at my rack.


hahahhaa oh I agree with you!