The worst abuse I ever heard of was an Orthodox Jewish family who refused to allow their non-Jewish nanny to eat or tough any of their food and also refused to allow her to bring any food into the house for fear it was not kosher. She was an undocumented worker who went eleven to twelve hours a day with nothing to eat.

Anonymous wrote:What are you guys even talking about? The only Domestic Worker's Bill of Rights I could find apply to NY, CA and HI alone.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_Worker%27s_Bill_of_Rights

What are you guys even talking about? The only Domestic Worker's Bill of Rights I could find apply to NY, CA and HI alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Neither. I'm not provided food at my job. My nanny has always brought her lunch. Obviously, if she forgot, she can eat whatever we have on hand, but we don't provide it regularly and she doesn't expect it. She is welcome to any shelf space and fridge space to safely store anything she wishes to bring.

Before you ask, no, I'm not allowed to leave for lunch and I work a 10+ hour shift. This is common in my industry and we all bring our lunches and store extra food in an office kitchen.

An employer who chooses not to provide free meals for their employees is not at all engaging in a human rights violation. That's just silly.

Nannies, pick your perks and negotiate for them in your contract. Stop acting like spoiled children.

If you honestly do work 10 hours a day 5 days a week, you must bring more than a sandwich everyday to maintain your weight. What field are you in? Even hospital workers have access to onsite cafeterias.

Uh, this is normal.

My DH leaves the house each day at 5:30AM in order to get to the hospital and prep for surgery. he always has on him a ton of unrefrigerated snacks, such a Lara bars, meal replacement drinks, Nuts, fruit, and so forth. He often does not have time for any sort of lunch and a 60hr work week is TYPICAL. If he is seeing patients back to back or is in a full day of surgery, he's not eating anything and I can assure you his job is much more physical than being a nanny.

I welcome my nanny to eat whatever in house. Having said that, some of these posts demanding lunch are just ridiculous.

You know... it is not just nannies who sometimes have trouble with lunch. MBs are sometimes stuck in an office building without a lunch option in the building or nearby. Driving somewhere takes 10 minutes to get there and 10 minutes back and we are sometimes just too busy to take 40 minutes out of our day for lunch. Particularly those who pay the nanny and need to get back home at a certain time every day find it hard to take 30-40 minutes out of our day to go somewhere to buy lunch.

Do we MBs sit around and complain that our company should have caterers delivering our lunch every day? No.

We bring our lunch, keep it in the refrigerator and eat it during lunch. Problem solved. Is it really that hard for nannies to understand?

I feel bad for the domestic workers around the world who really do need someone to fight for their human rights. If you are b***ing on DCUM, arguing with random MBs about all the benefits you think you should be getting, you are not one of those people.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies have access to food if they bring their lunch.

The average nanny is likely working ten hours a day in your house. Many of them work twelve hours a day, plus travel time for live-outs. One might easily imagine they consume all of their meals while at work, considering their very long hours in your house. Logic would have it that they would need most of your refrigerator space, and you should be delegated a small part of it for when you might eat at home once a day, if that.

And you thought the nanny should learn to live on a cold sandwich all day? This, not to mention that her work is significantly more physically demanding than your desk job.


Domestic workers have every right to be provided food at fulltime jobs that have no option for a break to go out for a meal.

I have to agree.

It's true. People who can't afford to feed the nanny a sandwich, can't afford a nanny. It doesn't have to be smoked salmon, for God's sake.

Anonymous wrote:There is no "right" to be fed on the job. It's a courtesy and a perk if you are provided food. Personally, I think it is a kind and appropriate thing to do to open the fridge and pantry to the nanny, but it is what it is, a courtesy and a perk, not an entitlement.

I work very long hours and I pack my breakfast and lunch daily. I'd be laughed out of the office if I expected my employer to provide me food. And no, before you ask, I'm not able to leave and get my lunch. I knew this going in. Responsible nannies know this going in. This is the nature of the job.

Considering what you pay a nanny (vs. what you get paid) you should welcome her to make a stupid sandwich during a 10 hour work day. Or would that kill your budget?

There is no "right" to be fed on the job. It's a courtesy and a perk if you are provided food. Personally, I think it is a kind and appropriate thing to do to open the fridge and pantry to the nanny, but it is what it is, a courtesy and a perk, not an entitlement.

I work very long hours and I pack my breakfast and lunch daily. I'd be laughed out of the office if I expected my employer to provide me food. And no, before you ask, I'm not able to leave and get my lunch. I knew this going in. Responsible nannies know this going in. This is the nature of the job.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies have access to food if they bring their lunch.

The average nanny is likely working ten hours a day in your house. Many of them work twelve hours a day, plus travel time for live-outs. One might easily imagine they consume all of their meals while at work, considering their very long hours in your house. Logic would have it that they would need most of your refrigerator space, and you should be delegated a small part of it for when you might eat at home once a day, if that.

And you thought the nanny should learn to live on a cold sandwich all day? This, not to mention that her work is significantly more physically demanding than your desk job.


Domestic workers have every right to be provided food at fulltime jobs that have no option for a break to go out for a meal.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies have far more flexibility to eat even if they need to bring their lunch than factory or others workers who can not snack on the floor. OP is an idiot.

Nannies who work 10 or 12 hours need to bring more than a lunch to your house every day, don't you think? Or are you putting her on a diet?

Some people might need to be on a diet.

Anonymous wrote:Nannies have far more flexibility to eat even if they need to bring their lunch than factory or others workers who can not snack on the floor. OP is an idiot.

Nannies who work 10 or 12 hours need to bring more than a lunch to your house every day, don't you think? Or are you putting her on a diet?

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Some people do get sick if they go hours without eating though, myself included. I get nauseous and get sick if I don't eat for a few hours. But there's such a RARE chance that there wouldn't be ANYTHING to eat in the house.

Right. Agreed. Of course, if you have such a condition where you need to eat so often, surely you plan for you own health and safety, right?

What's your point, 16:44? Nanny isn't "allowed" to eat your food?

It's not that the nanny isn't allowed to eat the food. Of course, if the circumstances so happened that she needs to grab something, she can. It's that she shouldn't expect that the family is planning for her meals, and shouldn't count on the food of her choice being available.

As an example, I had no issues with my nanny helping herself to snacks or fruit or whatever was on hand. But I would have been flabbergasted if she said to me as I was leaving for the day, so, what is there for my lunch today? She's an adult, and unless prior arrangements have been made, I expect her to arrange for her own meals.

You are required to have some food available for your FT domestic worker. No one cares if it's your silly "food of choice", so you may stop your foolishness.

Required by what? source pls.

Having something to eat during the course of a very long workday is IS indeed a basic human right. I hope you are not forbidding your own domestic workers from eating your food (if need be) in your own house. Do you believe you are allowed to deny food to your FT domestic worker?

She never asked. If she would ask, she'd be welcome to whatever she can find. She brings her own lunch generally, and I don't shop with her in mind. We don't cook at home much.

Do you really need your nanny to bother you at the office to "ask" to make herself a sandwich?

How rediculous.

Actually, this whole thread is a nonissue.

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Some people do get sick if they go hours without eating though, myself included. I get nauseous and get sick if I don't eat for a few hours. But there's such a RARE chance that there wouldn't be ANYTHING to eat in the house.

Right. Agreed. Of course, if you have such a condition where you need to eat so often, surely you plan for you own health and safety, right?

What's your point, 16:44? Nanny isn't "allowed" to eat your food?

It's not that the nanny isn't allowed to eat the food. Of course, if the circumstances so happened that she needs to grab something, she can. It's that she shouldn't expect that the family is planning for her meals, and shouldn't count on the food of her choice being available.

As an example, I had no issues with my nanny helping herself to snacks or fruit or whatever was on hand. But I would have been flabbergasted if she said to me as I was leaving for the day, so, what is there for my lunch today? She's an adult, and unless prior arrangements have been made, I expect her to arrange for her own meals.

You are required to have some food available for your FT domestic worker. No one cares if it's your silly "food of choice", so you may stop your foolishness.

Required by what? source pls.

Having something to eat during the course of a very long workday is IS indeed a basic human right. I hope you are not forbidding your own domestic workers from eating your food (if need be) in your own house. Do you believe you are allowed to deny food to your FT domestic worker?

She never asked. If she would ask, she'd be welcome to whatever she can find. She brings her own lunch generally, and I don't shop with her in mind. We don't cook at home much.

You and your nanny are a nonissue on this topic.