Anonymous
01/16/2026 23:56
Subject: Re:Finally Asked For A Raise
Anonymous wrote:If a family does not offer you an annual raise every yr., then they are just being cheap & do not even respect all that you are doing for their family.
Think about it OP……without your services, they would not be able to go to their jobs every day.
You should not have to ask them for a raise >> it should be a given that you are automatically given one each + every yr.
Period.
I would look for a new family.
One that has the ability to appreciate you as a valued employee.
Most people don’t get annual raises.
Anonymous
01/11/2026 21:52
Subject: Re:Finally Asked For A Raise
If a family does not offer you an annual raise every yr., then they are just being cheap & do not even respect all that you are doing for their family.
Think about it OP……without your services, they would not be able to go to their jobs every day.
You should not have to ask them for a raise >> it should be a given that you are automatically given one each + every yr.
Period.
I would look for a new family.
One that has the ability to appreciate you as a valued employee.
Think about it OP……without your services, they would not be able to go to their jobs every day.
You should not have to ask them for a raise >> it should be a given that you are automatically given one each + every yr.
Period.
I would look for a new family.
One that has the ability to appreciate you as a valued employee.
Anonymous
01/09/2026 13:47
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
Lots of jumping to conclusions here.
OP never says: their hours, what they were/are being paid, any additional benefits they receive, etc.
OP also doesn't explain why they don't do quiet time with the 4 year old, or why they hand wash dishes...? Did your bosses ASK you to only hand wash the dishes, or is that your choice? Seems odd, which is why I ask.
OP never says: their hours, what they were/are being paid, any additional benefits they receive, etc.
OP also doesn't explain why they don't do quiet time with the 4 year old, or why they hand wash dishes...? Did your bosses ASK you to only hand wash the dishes, or is that your choice? Seems odd, which is why I ask.
Anonymous
01/08/2026 20:27
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
Enact a 30 min quiet time for the 4yo. Is he allowed to watch a show while the 2yo is napping?
Anonymous
01/06/2026 21:48
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
The next time you apply for a nanny job it should be specified in your contract that your services will apply to the children in your care only, with maybe some exceptions (if you wish to include them).
This family is cheap and they're being not-so-passively aggressive in adding on these menial, non-children-related chores for you. Will they also ask you to prepare a full-course dinner for the family before you leave for the day?
I do wonder - if you'd asked for only a $1.00 an hour raise, would they have reacted reasonably? I'll answer this myself. No. You can't change cheap.
This family is cheap and they're being not-so-passively aggressive in adding on these menial, non-children-related chores for you. Will they also ask you to prepare a full-course dinner for the family before you leave for the day?
I do wonder - if you'd asked for only a $1.00 an hour raise, would they have reacted reasonably? I'll answer this myself. No. You can't change cheap.
Anonymous
01/06/2026 21:40
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
[quoteI=Anonymous]The older one should have “quite time” to give you a break.
I think you mean "quiet time," and I quite agree!
Anonymous
01/05/2026 23:53
Subject: Re:Finally Asked For A Raise
Your employers are obviously very cheap.
You should definitely have been offered a raise after your first year.
To go two full years without being offered a raise is highway robbery!
I would quit this job immediately because this family will never respect you.
Or all that you do for them.
Anonymous
01/05/2026 12:28
Subject: Re:Finally Asked For A Raise
I think right after Christmas is the least desirable time to request an increase in salary.
At least for families.
It’s probably the timing OP.
But you shouldn’t have more assigned tasks just because you asked for more money, especially after not getting a raise previously.
Raises are typically discussed on an annual basis so your family bosses got off scotfree.
At least for families.
It’s probably the timing OP.
But you shouldn’t have more assigned tasks just because you asked for more money, especially after not getting a raise previously.
Raises are typically discussed on an annual basis so your family bosses got off scotfree.
Anonymous
01/05/2026 10:41
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
I don’t think their asks are unreasonable but you should’ve gotten a raise a long time ago
Anonymous
01/05/2026 02:04
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
The older one should have “quite time” to give you a break.
Anonymous
01/05/2026 00:08
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
Anonymous wrote:I have been a nanny for a family the past two yrs, the kids are 2.5 and 4.5.
I have just asked my bosses for a $2/HR increase for the first time and while they agreed, they also asked me if I could start emptying out the garbage cans in both the kitchen as well as three bathrooms daily when I am there.
They also asked me to please make sure the diaper genie is empty before I leave as well as make sure the floor is always swept prior to me leaving.
I get zero downtime as the oldest does not nap, but have always ensured all toys are picked up before I leave as well as all dishes are hand washed too.
I get the feeling my bosses do not like that I asked for a raise (they never offered me one) and are being passive/aggressive by adding add’l chores for me to do.
Is this typical after asking for a raise??
You should have been doing the diaper genie. Sweeping is not unreasonable if you used the room and it got dirty. You should also do the kids clothing.
Anonymous
01/04/2026 20:49
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
Anonymous wrote:What are your hours OP? Oldest should be in preschool and the younger one should be starting soon so that could give you some time without kids. And why are they still in diapers? Are you and parents not potty training them?
The 4 1/2 year old has been potty trained, the 2 1/2 year old is in the process but not 100% potty trained as of yet.
The oldest will be starting school next Fall.
- OP
Anonymous
01/04/2026 17:13
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
What are your hours OP? Oldest should be in preschool and the younger one should be starting soon so that could give you some time without kids. And why are they still in diapers? Are you and parents not potty training them?
Anonymous
01/04/2026 10:44
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
They should’ve added a yearly raise/ cost of living. They should cheap and only care about benefiting themselves. I’d look for a new job. I’d take the trash out just say you need ten minutes daily to do so not at your end time
Anonymous
01/03/2026 23:03
Subject: Finally Asked For A Raise
I have been a nanny for a family the past two yrs, the kids are 2.5 and 4.5.
I have just asked my bosses for a $2/HR increase for the first time and while they agreed, they also asked me if I could start emptying out the garbage cans in both the kitchen as well as three bathrooms daily when I am there.
They also asked me to please make sure the diaper genie is empty before I leave as well as make sure the floor is always swept prior to me leaving.
I get zero downtime as the oldest does not nap, but have always ensured all toys are picked up before I leave as well as all dishes are hand washed too.
I get the feeling my bosses do not like that I asked for a raise (they never offered me one) and are being passive/aggressive by adding add’l chores for me to do.
Is this typical after asking for a raise??
I have just asked my bosses for a $2/HR increase for the first time and while they agreed, they also asked me if I could start emptying out the garbage cans in both the kitchen as well as three bathrooms daily when I am there.
They also asked me to please make sure the diaper genie is empty before I leave as well as make sure the floor is always swept prior to me leaving.
I get zero downtime as the oldest does not nap, but have always ensured all toys are picked up before I leave as well as all dishes are hand washed too.
I get the feeling my bosses do not like that I asked for a raise (they never offered me one) and are being passive/aggressive by adding add’l chores for me to do.
Is this typical after asking for a raise??