Stop sleeping on the job, it's terrible and I agree you should be fired for that. No one sleeps while working.


- nanny.

The agency we hired is charging us close to $60/hr for our nanny so half of that rate per hour is a steal.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I’m SO sorry you’re going through this. Reading what you wrote made me angry—those parents were completely wrong for stringing you along like that. Telling you they’d renew, then changing their minds after your contract already ended? That’s manipulative. And using daycare as an excuse after everything you did for them? Please.

I’ve been a nanny for years too, and I’ve seen how fast families can flip—acting like you’re part of the family one day, then ghosting you the next. It’s cruel. And it's even worse when you’ve poured yourself into their home, their kids, their routines.

You sound like a rockstar nanny—dedicated, experienced, and communicative. And any family that doesn’t appreciate that? Honestly? That’s their loss. You gave them your best, and they played games with your life. Karma will absolutely come back around for people who treat others like that.

Right now, you’re being forced to consider jobs that don’t respect your worth. And that’s messed up. But please, don’t give up. Your career didn’t end with them. You still have the skills, the references, and the drive. You just need one family who sees your worth—and they’re out there. They’re just buried in a sea of cheapskates right now.

Curious -- what makes you say this? She asked how she was doing, prepped bottles, and did general tidying. That's the bare minimum. I'd expect a lot more from my nanny for $35/hour.

Anonymous wrote:Hi we pay that pretty close to that to our nanny We are actually looking for a new one because she will be relocating soon. You sound like a great one please let us know how can we contact you for an interview.

Lol nothing in OPs post makes her sound great, but ok sock puppet.

Hi we pay that pretty close to that to our nanny We are actually looking for a new one because she will be relocating soon. You sound like a great one please let us know how can we contact you for an interview.

some of these people are the absolute worst. They’ve got no heart. It is all about making money for themselves, but when it’s time to pay their workers a decent wage, suddenly it’s all excuses. If you haven’t already, I’d say go through an agency. Most folks hiring nannies through those can actually afford one. Don’t waste your energy talking to the broke ones. Honestly, I wish there were laws that only let people have as many kids as they can afford based on childcare costs. Too many out here popping out kids like rats then expecting someone else to foot the bill. It’s wild.

I talked to almost 100 people before I found the job I have now, and it pays me $50/hour. The real issue is that a lot of undocumented workers come here and charge these families super low rates, and that just makes it easier for families to take advantage. Then you get these same families asking if you can do other stuff around the house—like no, I’m a nanny, not a housekeeper. If they need cleaning, they can hire someone for that.

The baby I watch is 6 months old and she sleeps for 5 hours straight. I’m always keeping an eye on her during that time, but if she doesn’t wake up, I just make sure everything related to her is done and then I rest. I can’t believe what they put you through. Honestly, just trust the process, send them good energy—karma will handle it. They sound awful. Hope they go to hell.

I make $40 an hour(most of the nannies i know make about the same) and actually found my current family by posting an ad in a library in D.C. There are families who pay well—you just have to keep searching. I completely understand where you're coming from. Nannies aren’t for everyone; we’re considered a luxury. Ten years ago, I was charging close to $30/hour, but I would never accept that now. We have to know our worth and stand by it.

Honestly, families shouldn't be having kids if they can’t afford the real cost of raising them—including childcare. If you want, send me your number and I can refer you to a previous family of mine who was looking for someone in your rate range. What you're dealing with doesn’t sound like your fault at all.And yes, I sleep when the baby sleeps too. I've been doing this for 12 years, and with the cost of living so high—like $2,500 for a basic, non-luxury apartment—how is someone supposed to live on $25 an hour? That would mean working almost the entire month just to cover rent. Some people are just cruel. They only care about their own needs and couldn’t care less about the person looking after what’s supposed to be the most important part of their lives: their children.

You are not worth $35 an hour. Not trying to be a jerk and families aren't being cheap to not want to pay that.
You provide a service, people wanting that service want to know they’re getting a deal. If they can get a quality Nanny for $25 an hour, why pay $35 an hour. It doesn’t make sense.
It was unkind of the family to string you along though.
For now I would look for a job at a lower hourly rate and maybe pick up a side gig on the weekends to make extra cash.
Start saving some of your money. If you can’t afford rent at this point you didn’t have any savings. At $35 an hour you should have had savings.

You can get a different job to hold you over or do delivery.

You are only worth what someone is willing to pay. Sleeping on the job is a hard no. It’s ok they put the kids in day care. If it was an excuse then maybe take a look at your actions. For $35 an hour I’d expect a lot.

This is why i never work with a contract. I fake on them as they fake on me and if i find a better paying job i just leave them like the garbage they are. Dont feel bad about leaving people behind. Nobody is coming to save you. Gladfully now i work with an agency.

First of all, I’m SO sorry you’re going through this. Reading what you wrote made me angry—those parents were completely wrong for stringing you along like that. Telling you they’d renew, then changing their minds after your contract already ended? That’s manipulative. And using daycare as an excuse after everything you did for them? Please.

I’ve been a nanny for years too, and I’ve seen how fast families can flip—acting like you’re part of the family one day, then ghosting you the next. It’s cruel. And it's even worse when you’ve poured yourself into their home, their kids, their routines.

You sound like a rockstar nanny—dedicated, experienced, and communicative. And any family that doesn’t appreciate that? Honestly? That’s their loss. You gave them your best, and they played games with your life. Karma will absolutely come back around for people who treat others like that.

Right now, you’re being forced to consider jobs that don’t respect your worth. And that’s messed up. But please, don’t give up. Your career didn’t end with them. You still have the skills, the references, and the drive. You just need one family who sees your worth—and they’re out there. They’re just buried in a sea of cheapskates right now.

You should see if you got legal grounds to sue them.

My employers had told me recently that they would renew my contract( i made sure to ask them so i could start looking for a new family with time). Anyways that was 4 months ago when i asked them. They said dont worry Kimberly we will extend your contract. Now my contract has ended 5 weeks ago and surprise they said they wont renew because they will put the 2 kids in daycare(vague excuse). I have been in this business for 10 years and never has a family played with me like that or lied to me in such a deplorable way. If they didnt wanted me why not be blunt and say it? Now its 5 weeks and i havent been able to find work. I have talked to 30 persons and they all think my references and experience is not worth $35 per hour. They all cheap-skates who think a nanny with references and a career isnt worth more than 20 bucks or 25 if they have 3 kids. Im going nuts. I dont know what to do. I came with this family from Michigan and now im stranded in Virginia with no money and rent is coming and i wont be able to afford it all because this people is so ungrateful. I never did anythinf wrong i alwaysbgave the best of me. I always asked is everything alright? Is therr anything i could improve? They always said everything was okay. Idk if they mad that when the 2 twins slept for 3 hours i slept too(but i had already taken care of their areas being neat and bottles and making their food) this industry is treating us nannies as crap and is the most ungrateful industry ever. Can anyone relate? Nannies are you also experiencing this problem? How to solve it? In Michigan i had families crazy for me i was always fully booked and now i have no one here. I cant go back because i dont even have money to do that. I guess ill become homeless. What would you do in my situation? Settle for 20 bucks an hour with an ungrateful family who will only use me and gives no crap about me although im giving all of myself in their childcare? i just wanna unalive myself right now being honest. Im frustrated and depressed.