Anonymous
Post 07/22/2025 11:58     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Don't say they're nice because they're not.
They're taking advantage of your kindness.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2025 20:40     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Satrapush wrote:My NF is very kind, appreciative, and overall nice to work for. However, MB often will say “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the sinks?” or “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the cabinets?” or “can you mop the whole house?” or “maybe you can reorganize all our hall closets soon”. I work with an agency which is how I found this family therefore we have a contract. None of these duties are on there. I was hired on as a nanny only (and am paid as a nanny only). Not a housekeeper or assistant. The baby naps 3-4 times a day which is when I get my other cleaning duties finished and when I’m done with everything, I read my book until she wakes up. Sometimes I will do these extra things to be nice but I do not put them on my to-do list. How can I nip this in the bud without being rude? They work with me a lot on planned vacation days, etc. + I have never called out or been late but I don’t want this to get worse.


How much is this flexibility worth to you?
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2025 01:48     Subject: Re:I am not a housekeeper
I would stop doing little chores here + there for this family because then they begin to expect it…and more.

Just do what is in your contract.
If they ask you to do anything more - - just respond that you do childcare only and just feel comfortable caring for the child alone > that you do not do any household work.

However if you are willing to take care of some household chores during nap time make sure they compensate you (extra!) accordingly.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 22:06     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Anonymous wrote:Are you willing to do these extra tasks for more pay, or do you want to avoid them entirely?

If you're open to it: "MB, if you'd like to add deep cleaning to my responsibilities, we can review the contract and add some cleaning duties. My rate will increase by $X."

If you're not: "Thank you, but those responsibilities aren't in my contract. Would you like me to look up local cleaning companies?"


Drop the second sentence and it’s perfect.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 00:34     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Satrapush wrote:My NF is very kind, appreciative, and overall nice to work for. However, MB often will say “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the sinks?” or “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the cabinets?” or “can you mop the whole house?” or “maybe you can reorganize all our hall closets soon”. I work with an agency which is how I found this family therefore we have a contract. None of these duties are on there. I was hired on as a nanny only (and am paid as a nanny only). Not a housekeeper or assistant. The baby naps 3-4 times a day which is when I get my other cleaning duties finished and when I’m done with everything, I read my book until she wakes up. Sometimes I will do these extra things to be nice but I do not put them on my to-do list. How can I nip this in the bud without being rude? They work with me a lot on planned vacation days, etc. + I have never called out or been late but I don’t want this to get worse.


Just reply "I never get bored because I'm busy." If you start doing non-child related housework it will quickly become expected
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 12:45     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Anonymous wrote:Are you willing to do these extra tasks for more pay, or do you want to avoid them entirely?

If you're open to it: "MB, if you'd like to add deep cleaning to my responsibilities, we can review the contract and add some cleaning duties. My rate will increase by $X."

If you're not: "Thank you, but those responsibilities aren't in my contract. Would you like me to look up local cleaning companies?"


This is a perfect response!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 12:18     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Say “ I don’t really get bored” smile.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2025 10:40     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
Are you willing to do these extra tasks for more pay, or do you want to avoid them entirely?

If you're open to it: "MB, if you'd like to add deep cleaning to my responsibilities, we can review the contract and add some cleaning duties. My rate will increase by $X."

If you're not: "Thank you, but those responsibilities aren't in my contract. Would you like me to look up local cleaning companies?"
Satrapush
Post 07/18/2025 01:53     Subject: I am not a housekeeper
My NF is very kind, appreciative, and overall nice to work for. However, MB often will say “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the sinks?” or “if you get bored, can you deep clean all the cabinets?” or “can you mop the whole house?” or “maybe you can reorganize all our hall closets soon”. I work with an agency which is how I found this family therefore we have a contract. None of these duties are on there. I was hired on as a nanny only (and am paid as a nanny only). Not a housekeeper or assistant. The baby naps 3-4 times a day which is when I get my other cleaning duties finished and when I’m done with everything, I read my book until she wakes up. Sometimes I will do these extra things to be nice but I do not put them on my to-do list. How can I nip this in the bud without being rude? They work with me a lot on planned vacation days, etc. + I have never called out or been late but I don’t want this to get worse.