Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is all on your husband. Your nanny may have thought you decided to give a large bonus or a big thank you for helping out during a challenging week or recognizing her great work as a nanny overall. Do not say a thing or risk losing all the goodwill you just engendered, or worse - risk losing her altogether. This was you and your husband’s mistake - full stop. Spend all your energy figuring out how you and your husband can communicate better next time.

Would you say the same thing if the nanny accidentally under reported her hours? And the OP didn’t pay her for those unreported hours? It would be “nanny’s fault”…so no need to pay?

lol responsibility goes only one way from employer to nanny and employer is 100% responsible for nanny's faults according to this forum

Anonymous wrote:Nanny and babysitter here. She might of thought you meant to pay her extra. I’ve been paid more or tipped etc loyalty and availability and reliability/trust goes a long way. I hope she doesn’t see this. If I did I wouldn’t work for you again

This 100%

Anonymous wrote:OP this is all on your husband. Your nanny may have thought you decided to give a large bonus or a big thank you for helping out during a challenging week or recognizing her great work as a nanny overall. Do not say a thing or risk losing all the goodwill you just engendered, or worse - risk losing her altogether. This was you and your husband’s mistake - full stop. Spend all your energy figuring out how you and your husband can communicate better next time.

Would you say the same thing if the nanny accidentally under reported her hours? And the OP didn’t pay her for those unreported hours? It would be “nanny’s fault”…so no need to pay?

OP this is all on your husband. Your nanny may have thought you decided to give a large bonus or a big thank you for helping out during a challenging week or recognizing her great work as a nanny overall. Do not say a thing or risk losing all the goodwill you just engendered, or worse - risk losing her altogether. This was you and your husband’s mistake - full stop. Spend all your energy figuring out how you and your husband can communicate better next time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not her mistake. It’s yours.

So if you found a wallet on a bench or a pair of sunglasses at the park you would just pick it up and keep it since it's their mistake they left it there..

Not comparable. OP responsibility and she messed up. Let it go.

Nanny and babysitter here. She might of thought you meant to pay her extra. I’ve been paid more or tipped etc loyalty and availability and reliability/trust goes a long way. I hope she doesn’t see this. If I did I wouldn’t work for you again

Anonymous wrote:Not her mistake. It’s yours.

So if you found a wallet on a bench or a pair of sunglasses at the park you would just pick it up and keep it since it's their mistake they left it there..

Not her mistake. It’s yours.

Anonymous wrote:That would make me feel she is a dishonest person. I would not ask her why she never mentioned the wrong amount, but I would gently tell her that her services are no longer needed

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In my opinion this would be an extreme as well as unfair thing to do to an employee.
After all, SHE did not make the mistake -> your husband did.

Do you think it is a possibility that your husband did this to “test” your nanny’s character??

That would make me feel she is a dishonest person. I would not ask her why she never mentioned the wrong amount, but I would gently tell her that her services are no longer needed

Anonymous wrote:She might have thought it was a tip or something. Don’t mention it.

$250 is a large amount to give as a tip unless she thought it was a gift for valentine's day or something which would be super awkward coming from your DH. She should have mentioned it. Anyway I would mention that your DH overpaid but she can keep it as a bonus and no need to return it.

She might have thought it was a tip or something. Don’t mention it.

If your sitter is loving, reliable + worth her weight in gold I would just cut my loss here and let her keep it.

One cannot put a price tag on peace of mind that a good caregiver provides so you and your husband can go to work…..free of any concerns about the quality of care that your child is receiving.

How long do you know her?

Last month I was traveling for work quite a bit and my husband was home with my daughter. Our regular babysitter worked 16 hours during this time, but I had thought she worked more, so overpaid her by about $250. When I came home last week, my husband told me her actual hours.
Now, I don’t want to take back the $ as it’s not a large sum, but I’m a little annoyed that the babysitter didn’t message me to tell me we overpaid her. She’s quite savvy with her accounts and is sure to tell us when she has stayed late and we owe her an extra hour, so I’m sure she realized we overpaid her. I’m not sure I should mention it bc don’t want it ti be awkward, and it was my mistake…..