Anonymous wrote:I had two v unpleasant events end of last week involving huge battle to get him in high chair and place safety straps. He bit me and pinched back of arm producing two visible bruises . He also refused to be placed in stroller pre-walk and and I actually hurt my back and needed to lay around for two days. When I calmly hold firm , he throws a loud long tantrum. I’m sure these tantrums do produce results for his other adult caretakers, but not me. I’m done . I quit yesterday.
Thank you all for the support !

He's 10 months... how could he hurt your back?!

Some kids are like this. It is very challenging.

Teach him sign language. Don’t react strongly to any behavior.

He sounds horrible.

10 months old is pretty little and there is only so much discipline you can apply at his age. It might be more helpful to try calming methods when he gets upset-even letting him lay on the floor in a safe place and have his tantrum while you are nearby. Nothing happens overnight give it some time and maybe he'll calm down at least for you. I'm caring for a child the same age right now and it took them an entire month to get used to me and even let me hold them. But now things have calmed down significantly.

Make the baby upset, I say bring it on scream all you want baby .

I had two v unpleasant events end of last week involving huge battle to get him in high chair and place safety straps. He bit me and pinched back of arm producing two visible bruises . He also refused to be placed in stroller pre-walk and and I actually hurt my back and needed to lay around for two days. When I calmly hold firm , he throws a loud long tantrum. I’m sure these tantrums do produce results for his other adult caretakers, but not me. I’m done . I quit yesterday.
Thank you all for the support !

Ugh!
My sympathies w/you OP on all of this!

The reason this child is acting like a holy terror is because both his parents as well as his three sets of Grandparents are letting him rule the roost which is something that any 10 month old should never be allowed to do.

If they do not nip his behavior in the bud right now - the consequences will be murder later on down the line.

You can discuss your issues w/his parents & fill them in on what you are dealing with.
Perhaps kindly suggest that they in turn try to get their own parents not to be so lax in their treatment of this child.
Hopefully you can all work together in finding ways to help this child understand that he is not the one in charge…..that the grown-ups are + that while he may not like to do certain things > he has to do them and that is that.

Because that is the ONLY way this issue will ever resolve.

If they are unwilling to take the steps necessary to change this boy’s behavior, then it is entirely up to you if you can continue this position w/the current dynamic.

Good luck in whatever you do!

Anonymous wrote:They’ve created a monster and are living with the consequences of that.
I never used straps for diaper changes though.

Actually the straps are for the high chair. You have to change him on the floor because he fights diaper change like a tiger.
He doesn't want the safety straps over shoulders and fights like an escaped prisoner being placed in handcuffs. Same for stroller. He screams so loud if he can't do exactly what he wants that a neighbor came over and asked if everything was all right.

Temporarily will turn into you permanently with him. grandparents are exausted and no longer will be caring for him. I hope they’re paying extremely well.

They probably hold him 90% of time, so with a stranger he expects the same. In some cultures, it is typical for babies to be carried all day long, so they are very much used to it. Except it is not good for nanny.

They’ve created a monster and are living with the consequences of that.
I never used straps for diaper changes though.

I am temporarily caring for 10 mo old. This child is normally cared for by three grandparents. Ive never experienced a kid like this. He is v difficult. If you attempt to put him in high chair, its a five minute battle- he stiffens up and screams, same for car seat and diaper changes .There is the safety strap battle. He ‘doesn't like’ the straps so grandparents don't use them for fear of upsetting him. If adult are having conversation., he will scream at
top of his lungs until all attention fully on him.
He ‘doesn’t like’ hands and face washed up after eating. If you attempt to wash them, a full tantrum erupts and he can scream and thrash around for up to 30 mins. Truthfully, what this kid wants, he gets IMMEDIATELY. I’ve never experienced such a demanding child and fear it will only get worse as he ages .he is so difficult that the grandparents are forced to team up to keep the kid happy. The parents are both exhausted and offer no suggestions .