Anonymous
12/31/2022 13:18
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Op, you probably chased a cheap option. I cannot imagine anyone working with young kids for at least 5 continuous years needing instructions all day long. She probably had 3-4 short term gigs which means, in my nanny world, no experience to speak of.
Anonymous
12/31/2022 10:16
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Woww so you checked 4 of her references? So No idea why she didn't show you her role as an experienced nanny. If I were her, as a nanny myself; I would ashamed to be begging to you like "pleased keep me and hired me because I think I deserve the Job and this is list of all things I did this week, just to let you know". No way.
It's obvious to understand that she didn't match your expectations. And of course, you are completely right since you are looking for an experienced Nanny. How come she wouldn't take the lead and still need instructions.
Don't feel bad, just move on and start looking for someone else.
The problem is that people out and out lie or don't mention their former nanny's weaknesses. Either they are afraid for legal reasons or just want to foist her off on someone else as soon as possible. I've had this happen a lot: major things like missing work about once a week. not cleaning up after the kids or herself, or not being a comfortable driver.
Anonymous
12/31/2022 06:59
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:Woww so you checked 4 of her references? So No idea why she didn't show you her role as an experienced nanny. If I were her, as a nanny myself; I would ashamed to be begging to you like "pleased keep me and hired me because I think I deserve the Job and this is list of all things I did this week, just to let you know". No way.
It's obvious to understand that she didn't match your expectations. And of course, you are completely right since you are looking for an experienced Nanny. How come she wouldn't take the lead and still need instructions.
Don't feel bad, just move on and start looking for someone else.
Anonymous
12/31/2022 06:47
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:Woww so you checked 4 of her references? So No idea why she didn't show you her role as an experienced nanny. If I were her, as a nanny myself; I would ashamed to be begging to you like "pleased keep me and hired me because I think I deserve the Job and this is list of all things I did this week, just to let you know". No way.
It's obvious to understand that she didn't match your expectations. And of course, you are completely right since you are looking for an experienced Nanny. How come she wouldn't take the lead and still need instructions.
Don't feel bad, just move on and start looking for someone else.
Yes we checked the references and we did a background check too. Several of the references were for shorter term positions, partly because of covid, or one family said they no longer needed her. My guess is that she’s run out of savings so she’s pushing to keep any role. Oh well, we’ll start to interview again next week.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 20:38
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Woww so you checked 4 of her references? So No idea why she didn't show you her role as an experienced nanny. If I were her, as a nanny myself; I would ashamed to be begging to you like "pleased keep me and hired me because I think I deserve the Job and this is list of all things I did this week, just to let you know". No way.
It's obvious to understand that she didn't match your expectations. And of course, you are completely right since you are looking for an experienced Nanny. How come she wouldn't take the lead and still need instructions.
Don't feel bad, just move on and start looking for someone else.
It's obvious to understand that she didn't match your expectations. And of course, you are completely right since you are looking for an experienced Nanny. How come she wouldn't take the lead and still need instructions.
Don't feel bad, just move on and start looking for someone else.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 20:04
Subject: Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:I'd give feedback and do the sandwich method. Thank you so much, unfortunately it's not going to work out because we need someone who is always on time and only needs instructions once, but you have a great attitude and wish you all the best of luck in the new year.
OP - I used this strategy this afternoon. She seemed to be very surprised and after she left she sent a long email with all the stuff she had done this week. I feel bad because most of it was the wrong stuff and I don’t want to discuss it any further with her.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 16:32
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you check references? It would be clear for you then.
I checked four of her references
Anonymous
12/30/2022 16:31
Subject: Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:I'd give feedback and do the sandwich method. Thank you so much, unfortunately it's not going to work out because we need someone who is always on time and only needs instructions once, but you have a great attitude and wish you all the best of luck in the new year.
This is a good idea. Thanks so much
Anonymous
12/30/2022 16:17
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Why didn't you check references? It would be clear for you then.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 14:13
Subject: Nanny trial
I'd give feedback and do the sandwich method. Thank you so much, unfortunately it's not going to work out because we need someone who is always on time and only needs instructions once, but you have a great attitude and wish you all the best of luck in the new year.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 13:22
Subject: Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We had a lady do a trial for the last two weeks. She’s nice but not the right fit for us. I feel bad as she’s been trying hard but it’s clear that she’s overwhelmed and it’s not going to work long term. Tomorrow we’ll pay her for the week and then I’m wondering if I should give her some feedback or just say it’s not a good fit? I wouldn’t mind having her come over to help out occasionally but I need someone with more experience and confidence
Why are you only paying her for one week if she's been there for two weeks. She's lucky she isn't working out for an employer who is cheating her out of 2 week's pay.
We paid her last Friday and we’ll pay her again today. We haven’t cheated her out of anything. We told her it was a trial and while it’s clear that she oversold her experience and wants the job, it’s also clear that she’s not going to work out here.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 12:26
Subject: Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:We had a lady do a trial for the last two weeks. She’s nice but not the right fit for us. I feel bad as she’s been trying hard but it’s clear that she’s overwhelmed and it’s not going to work long term. Tomorrow we’ll pay her for the week and then I’m wondering if I should give her some feedback or just say it’s not a good fit? I wouldn’t mind having her come over to help out occasionally but I need someone with more experience and confidence
Why are you only paying her for one week if she's been there for two weeks. She's lucky she isn't working out for an employer who is cheating her out of 2 week's pay.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 11:14
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
Anonymous wrote:You didn't give some details about why she is not working out, what usually she does or doesn't that don't fill your needs. But trust on your gut, if you feel she is not the right fit for your family. Be honest and let her go. So you can avoid future issues if you don't trust on her, caring your children and if she is not qualified enough for the experience you are looking for.
Thanks. It’s lots of little stuff. She doesn’t know the basics and I have to keep repeating everything. Also it doesn’t help that she showed up late twice this week. I know it’s the holidays but I’ve got to go back to work on Monday so I need someone who is reliable.
Anonymous
12/30/2022 00:05
Subject: Re:Nanny trial
You didn't give some details about why she is not working out, what usually she does or doesn't that don't fill your needs. But trust on your gut, if you feel she is not the right fit for your family. Be honest and let her go. So you can avoid future issues if you don't trust on her, caring your children and if she is not qualified enough for the experience you are looking for.
Anonymous
12/29/2022 21:52
Subject: Nanny trial
We had a lady do a trial for the last two weeks. She’s nice but not the right fit for us. I feel bad as she’s been trying hard but it’s clear that she’s overwhelmed and it’s not going to work long term. Tomorrow we’ll pay her for the week and then I’m wondering if I should give her some feedback or just say it’s not a good fit? I wouldn’t mind having her come over to help out occasionally but I need someone with more experience and confidence