Anonymous wrote:Are you a parent? For your silly (to no say stupid)comment, I am sure you are. Because I doubt an experienced Nanny can tell this.

You don't know anything about working with children and being in the Nanny roll. Of course, a baby is going to cry when he/she sees mom or dad. Obviously, they are the parents and always going to be calling or crying or whining when they want to be with them. Why? Really?. Obviously it's the blood and bonding of mom and dad.

You are completely wrong wrong wrong. I am experience Nanny working always with multiple children and I have been with lots of kids since birth. A Mom is alwsys a mom; a Nanny it will be always a Nanny; it doesn't matters if this Nanny has a great and deep bonding with her charges.

Some people have a hard time reading the original post, perhaps re-read it and then give your five cents.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot picture a baby who is crying just because he sees the mom while with his full time, long term nanny. Most babies of this age who know their nannies from almost birth are attached to them very much as they spend more time in their care than with parents, so the baby normally should not cry just because the mom walks into the kitchen, so I think it is a made up post.

Not OP but have experienced the same thing. You're clueless.

Anonymous wrote:To all PPS who have crying babies when mom walks in. All the kids I took care of never did that. Thelfey knew me from almost birth, so in their minds I was part of the family. And, trying not to be rude here but just honest, judging by your grammar, you are very, very uneducated. So, try to do some reading on babies and secure attachment, and maybe then you can figure out why yours are miserable babies or toddlers. Mine are happy.

Keep lying to yourself if that makes you Happy. Another experienced nanny here, who believes every single Nanny have gone through this at some point in their experience as a Nanny. Even for the most professional and experienced Nanny.

And I don't care if you judge my grammar. The most important thing, is that at least, the most smart person is able to understand what is written here with all my mistakes and what the bottom line is Haha. Thanks anyway.

It would be a simple conversation: Hey, so I notice that when you come down during lunch, b gets very upset (which is totally normal at this age) and it takes him a while to calm down after you leave. I totally understand if you want to hangout with him on your break from work, but I’d like to suggest you come down at this time (tell her a time) and if you think you’ll have enough time, maybe you can just put him down for nap. That way she’s aware that’s is a disruption and if she want to continue to come down, then she can transition him to the next activity.

Anonymous wrote:To all PPS who have crying babies when mom walks in. All the kids I took care of never did that. They knew me from almost birth, so in their minds I was part of the family. And, trying not to be rude here but just honest, judging by your grammar, you are very, very uneducated. So, try to do some reading on babies and secure attachment, and maybe then you can figure out why yours are miserable babies or toddlers. Mine are happy.

Yeah right lol! Yes, Mom.

To all PPS who have crying babies when mom walks in. All the kids I took care of never did that. They knew me from almost birth, so in their minds I was part of the family. And, trying not to be rude here but just honest, judging by your grammar, you are very, very uneducated. So, try to do some reading on babies and secure attachment, and maybe then you can figure out why yours are miserable babies or toddlers. Mine are happy.

Are you a parent? For your silly (to no say stupid)comment, I am sure you are. Because I doubt an experienced Nanny can tell this.

You don't know anything about working with children and being in the Nanny roll. Of course, a baby is going to cry when he/she sees mom or dad. Obviously, they are the parents and always going to be calling or crying or whining when they want to be with them. Why? Really?. Obviously it's the blood and bonding of mom and dad.

You are completely wrong wrong wrong. I am experience Nanny working always with multiple children and I have been with lots of kids since birth. A Mom is alwsys a mom; a Nanny it will be always a Nanny; it doesn't matters if this Nanny has a great and deep bonding with her charges.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot picture a baby who is crying just because he sees the mom while with his full time, long term nanny. Most babies of this age who know their nannies from almost birth are attached to them very much as they spend more time in their care than with parents, so the baby normally should not cry just because the mom walks into the kitchen, so I think it is a made up post.

You certainly didn’t read the post and have no experience working with kids!

Anonymous wrote:I cannot picture a baby who is crying just because he sees the mom while with his full time, long term nanny. Most babies of this age who know their nannies from almost birth are attached to them very much as they spend more time in their care than with parents, so the baby normally should not cry just because the mom walks into the kitchen, so I think it is a made up post.

You are impressively wrong.

You don't, her kid.

I cannot picture a baby who is crying just because he sees the mom while with his full time, long term nanny. Most babies of this age who know their nannies from almost birth are attached to them very much as they spend more time in their care than with parents, so the baby normally should not cry just because the mom walks into the kitchen, so I think it is a made up post.

At this point it's unbelievable that's these cases are still happening with Parents working from home. How come they didn't learn anything from the Pandemic or they should have had an idea before hiring a Nanny; of how is the new situation with Parents Teleworking and they have want to hire a nanny.

Honestly I think that both of you did a big mistake. You should have talked this right in the interview process before hiring; let everything clear up and make sure the two Parents and you were agree in everything; mainly setting boundaries with work spaces if one or two of the parents would be working from home.

No Nannies want to deal with these kind of issues; Tantrums, dramas, babies,toddlers, older kids, whining in general. Every single parent Should know now they the best way to make this situation work. Both parents have to have a private home office; working there in there in their shift (no hanging out and interrupting nanny routine, since obviously everytime when they are showing up %100 it will be a Huge drama for children.

Be upfront and ask them "Please be out of the way" and explain your obvious reasons. She perfectly can have 2 or 3 hours in dinner time with her baby. Why she is not doing what the rest of Parents are doing? Wait when your baby is napping or you have not reach home yet and "go to the kitchen to prepare a quick lunch/snacks and go back to their office and Eat there. Most of the Parents are doing this; to avoid issues with the nanny's work and avoid tantrums with their children.

Well... the Parents who are doing this; are really the Ones who are great employers and understand now how difficult and stressful can be for the Nanny having parents all around the house; popping in and out and know this would be a real nightmare for the nanny and posible make her quit.

If you want to keep working for this Family "Speak up". Good luck.

Just ask her if she can come down at 12:45 when he's finished eating because when she comes by earlier, he doesn't finish his lunch, winds up crying, winds up hungry, etc.

PS: mom would pick up the child if he cries, says he’s too upset. The ‘upsetting’ part is when she shows up in the kitchen at 1:30PM and baby only cries when he sees her. When she leaves, he stops crying. Not sure how to approach her and tell her to not come if he isn’t done eating b/c it creates chaos.

What do you do and how to address boundaries with WFH parents? I’ve been watching a baby for almost 10 months. Overall good fit. Little boy about to turn 1 next month. Mom takes several breaks and does it when baby is about to eat lunch or in the middle of lunch and messes out our routine. Example of routine: we get back from activity, wash hands, baby sits in high chair, eats lunch, wipe and clean hands and then we play for an extra 30 minutes before he nap. Mom shows up exactly during his lunch and boy cries out due to the presence of mother. How do you tell her politely not to interfere until he’s done eating? She’s good mother but she’s very inconsistent with baby schedule. While I’m there Mon-Fri little guy is on a very established routine and does great.