When she shows up Monday morning get everything from her that’s yours . Car seats, keys, credit card, etc . Then pay her the 2 weeks and ask her to leave. Have new nanny start Tuesday. Or Monday later in the day if you wish . I would wait until Tuesday personally.

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Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Um, what?! There is no way that we told her she "sucks as a human" and I'm not sure where you got that from. We told her it wasn't going to work out and we wouldn't be requiring her services any longer. We aren't trash at all - we used the trial period EXACTLY as intended - to SEE if having her as a nanny would work out, and it didn't. So we paid her for her time and sent her on her way.

As someone who manages people at work and has hired nannies, the regret is usually not letting go of someone who is not a good fit sooner. Often times, we make excuses, try to make it work. It usually doesn't. It is only afterwards that you realize how draining the situation was. My advice for what is worth is move on as quickly as possible.

I don't think this nanny will need or has to beg for a reference from this family. Being there only for a couple of days? (Trial) Maybe a couple of weeks. I wouldn't take this experience as a good experience and take it like a potential reference; If I were her. I'm sure she must have enough and strong references from her previous employers.

I also think she must have cried; (maybe) because as other Pp stated, she would need to pay her bills. But It's hard to believe she was crying as she was very happy there and crying so bad for being loosing her unicorn family and unicorn position. I don't think someone would be crying just to be there a couple of weeks in a Trial position. There was no bonding at all only to be there some days. This is a normal thing. When things don't work out. Either for the nanny or for the family. So you can start looking for a better job, better expectations and better pay and mainly a better Family who match your expectations; and probably are not micromanaging all the time on you. Than being in a job unhappy when you things things are not going great but you need to stay there and pay your bills.

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Anonymous wrote:We hired someone who we thought was great. Turns out she’s not a good fit for our family and our needs.

For people who have been on similar situations, how did you handle it? We have already interviewed a strong candidate and have a trial run with her soon. She could start as soon as next week.

What does your contract state? If you don't have a written contract what was discussed? Honor what you agreed as notice or the same amount in severence if you want her gone. Always remember the grapevine of nannies is strong and you don't want to get a bad reputation of being a bad and unfair employer, as they all talk to each other.

We are required to give 2 weeks’ notice during our probationary period (which we are still in). I know that the grapevine is strong. I of course will give her whatever she’s entitled to, but sometimes you just don’t know whether it’s going to work until they’re doing the job. And in this case, it’s not working.

That is absolutely your perogative as it would be hers, it has to work for everyone or it works for no one. As long as you are going to fulfill your contractual requirements then you are fine. If you don't want her to continue then pay her her severence and call it a day. Would you be willing to give her a reference or do you feel you cannot represent her as a nanny to another family? If not and you have coverage then better to end it ASAP. You can either be honest or use an excuse if you think it will hurt her feelings and cause a scene ongoing. Sometimes it's just not a match, for either party so no point in continuing. GL

Lots of nannies are quitting their jobs; bcs when parents are Teleworking, there are not any boundaries set; which it's very important now; when parents and a nanny are sharing the same house to work. So the environment become very stressful and no desirable to anyone; even though nannies are getting great rates.

Note: I'm not talking in general. With this pandemic; I really appreciate families, whom have learned how to work from home, focuse on their work and have their private office at home. No working or hanging out around, in common areas; and no popping in and popping out when hear a child complaining, whining or crying. Which it's a huge mistake for Parents who sadly has not understand yet; why they will be hiring a new nanny, after a new one, after another one, everytime. Nannies are quitting often their jobs; as I said, even they are earning a very high salary. It's most important for them their mental health than working in a toxic and stressful environment; when parents don't let them do their job and don't let them be in full of charge of their kids.

Sorry, OP, but in these times; not always it's nanny's fault if the position don't work out. It might also be your family, who didn't work out for her.. so nanny couldn't performance her job; as she would typically do it; if the work environment it's not a good one.

So good for her and good for you part ways.

There is an adjustment for both nanny and a child, even if you hire the best of the best with the agency. Give her couple of weeks. Unless you hired someone horrible who took very low pay, I do not believe one day is enough to judge any nanny.

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

Wow. You really sounds mad, reading the way you let her go.

Wondering what was the reason why didn't work. So you don't make the same mistakes you did with her and hopefully your expectations are realistic; so the next nanny can be a good fit for you and your family can be a good fit for her.

Maybe she will be running away from your family, before you would decide let her go.

We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

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Anonymous wrote:We hired someone who we thought was great. Turns out she’s not a good fit for our family and our needs.

For people who have been on similar situations, how did you handle it? We have already interviewed a strong candidate and have a trial run with her soon. She could start as soon as next week.

What does your contract state? If you don't have a written contract what was discussed? Honor what you agreed as notice or the same amount in severence if you want her gone. Always remember the grapevine of nannies is strong and you don't want to get a bad reputation of being a bad and unfair employer, as they all talk to each other.

We are required to give 2 weeks’ notice during our probationary period (which we are still in). I know that the grapevine is strong. I of course will give her whatever she’s entitled to, but sometimes you just don’t know whether it’s going to work until they’re doing the job. And in this case, it’s not working.

Anonymous wrote:We hired someone who we thought was great. Turns out she’s not a good fit for our family and our needs.

For people who have been on similar situations, how did you handle it? We have already interviewed a strong candidate and have a trial run with her soon. She could start as soon as next week.

What does your contract state? If you don't have a written contract what was discussed? Honor what you agreed as notice or the same amount in severence if you want her gone. Always remember the grapevine of nannies is strong and you don't want to get a bad reputation of being a bad and unfair employer, as they all talk to each other.

We hired someone who we thought was great. Turns out she’s not a good fit for our family and our needs.

For people who have been on similar situations, how did you handle it? We have already interviewed a strong candidate and have a trial run with her soon. She could start as soon as next week.