Anonymous
09/30/2022 10:47
Subject: What do I do?
Anonymous wrote:I feel burned out after 5 years in the same job/family.
Love the kids but I can't continue to work for this family because of numerous reasons and I know that no matter what I tell them the situation is not going to change.I just need to move on.What do I do?I feel lost and don't know what to tell them.I can't tell them what I really think so what would you say??
This is where working in a personal setting versus a professional one is so difficult, as no matter the reason, feelings are going to be hurt and taken personally.
First you need to get a reference and if you feel that what you say to them is going to impact that, then this would dictate what I told them as a reason. Many don't want to hear any faults and only you can judge their reaction. If you want to try to get them to acknowledge things are not right then tell them the issues. If it is because you are burnt out, you can use a medical excuse, which then blames no one. Being burnt out is medical as it is mental health and your wellbeing. I try to be blameless and come out with everyone feeling good and also you maintain your relationship so you can see the kids. I write this as a heads up for employers also to understand the difficult situations we are put in when needing to leave a position.
Anonymous
09/03/2022 01:51
Subject: Re:What do I do?
If you have been with them for five years, you should be able to explain to them what you are looking for. I would hope after 5 years they would only want the best for you. But, if you worry they can't see beyond themselves, lie in a way that is authentic.
"I have loved being with your family, but I miss working with new parents with a newborn and am going to look for a position like that next."
"I have loved watching Larla grow up, but I think I do best with toddlers and she is 10, so I think I would like to move to a family with younger students"
"Your children are amazing, but I think I am looking to slow down and only work with one child next."
All of those ok to say. Give them enough lead time to make sure they are able to find someone new. Maybe even be willing to do a transition week between you and the new nanny if that is something they want.
Good luck and I hope that your family recognizes the goodness you have provided for the last 5 years. We lost our nanny this year and while we miss her every day and she was amazing for our family, we are so happy for her (she went back to get her college degree) and only want good things for her.
"I have loved being with your family, but I miss working with new parents with a newborn and am going to look for a position like that next."
"I have loved watching Larla grow up, but I think I do best with toddlers and she is 10, so I think I would like to move to a family with younger students"
"Your children are amazing, but I think I am looking to slow down and only work with one child next."
All of those ok to say. Give them enough lead time to make sure they are able to find someone new. Maybe even be willing to do a transition week between you and the new nanny if that is something they want.
Good luck and I hope that your family recognizes the goodness you have provided for the last 5 years. We lost our nanny this year and while we miss her every day and she was amazing for our family, we are so happy for her (she went back to get her college degree) and only want good things for her.
Anonymous
09/02/2022 13:51
Subject: What do I do?
Anonymous wrote:After what you’ve done for them, you deserve an excellent reference letter. Let’s hope they do the right thing and give it to you. Every employer owes a good nanny a well-written letter of reference.
Nannies should not feel pressured to stay stuck in one position forever.
Yes I'm sure they will be happy to provide me with a reference letter.Thank you
Anonymous
09/02/2022 13:50
Subject: What do I do?
Anonymous wrote:I just quit my 5 year nanny job 3 weeks ago. I told them I’m burnt out and I need a break . They were very upset, made me feel bad for a few days . But have completely changed their tune and it’s fine they understand and are fine with me leaving. Best decision I’ve made in a long time.
Wow thank you for that.
It gives me hope!
Anonymous
09/01/2022 17:21
Subject: What do I do?
After what you’ve done for them, you deserve an excellent reference letter. Let’s hope they do the right thing and give it to you. Every employer owes a good nanny a well-written letter of reference.
Nannies should not feel pressured to stay stuck in one position forever.
Nannies should not feel pressured to stay stuck in one position forever.
Anonymous
09/01/2022 14:45
Subject: What do I do?
I just quit my 5 year nanny job 3 weeks ago. I told them I’m burnt out and I need a break . They were very upset, made me feel bad for a few days . But have completely changed their tune and it’s fine they understand and are fine with me leaving. Best decision I’ve made in a long time.
Anonymous
09/01/2022 13:29
Subject: Re:What do I do?
Anonymous wrote:Hi Op, look for the best for you. If you are feeling burned out already; that's not a good sign. It's not good for you at all and I guess it's affecting you so much, mentally and emotionally.
You don't say if you family has been a good family; but I believe they have been good for you, for this 5 years if not you haven't been there and I believe you when things start to change or maybe putting more responsibilities to you? That maybe it's just so much or so. I guess your family loves you and you love your charges very much, but I do think, that it's time for you to move on.
If you are feeling that way, the right thing it's to move on and start looking for a new job? Maybe with babies if you would like to keep working as a Nanny or look for other work fields where you feel you can do it great, to give it a try. Or that you would like to keep working as a nanny but with different hours schedule or looking for more full time job maybe? If you don't have it now.
First be grateful with them for all these years of work and how much you appreciate them and love your charges, but you are thinking in move on and take a break from work in the nanny field, maybe? As you woul like to take a long break with your family. It's just an idea that comes now in my mind, since you don't give lots of details. Good luck Op.
OP here-
Thank you so much.I love what I do and want to stay as a nanny.It is time for me to look for another family.It's just hard for me to tell them.
I appreciate your words.
Anonymous
09/01/2022 12:00
Subject: Re:What do I do?
Hi Op, look for the best for you. If you are feeling burned out already; that's not a good sign. It's not good for you at all and I guess it's affecting you so much, mentally and emotionally.
You don't say if you family has been a good family; but I believe they have been good for you, for this 5 years if not you haven't been there and I believe you when things start to change or maybe putting more responsibilities to you? That maybe it's just so much or so. I guess your family loves you and you love your charges very much, but I do think, that it's time for you to move on.
If you are feeling that way, the right thing it's to move on and start looking for a new job? Maybe with babies if you would like to keep working as a Nanny or look for other work fields where you feel you can do it great, to give it a try. Or that you would like to keep working as a nanny but with different hours schedule or looking for more full time job maybe? If you don't have it now.
First be grateful with them for all these years of work and how much you appreciate them and love your charges, but you are thinking in move on and take a break from work in the nanny field, maybe? As you woul like to take a long break with your family. It's just an idea that comes now in my mind, since you don't give lots of details. Good luck Op.
You don't say if you family has been a good family; but I believe they have been good for you, for this 5 years if not you haven't been there and I believe you when things start to change or maybe putting more responsibilities to you? That maybe it's just so much or so. I guess your family loves you and you love your charges very much, but I do think, that it's time for you to move on.
If you are feeling that way, the right thing it's to move on and start looking for a new job? Maybe with babies if you would like to keep working as a Nanny or look for other work fields where you feel you can do it great, to give it a try. Or that you would like to keep working as a nanny but with different hours schedule or looking for more full time job maybe? If you don't have it now.
First be grateful with them for all these years of work and how much you appreciate them and love your charges, but you are thinking in move on and take a break from work in the nanny field, maybe? As you woul like to take a long break with your family. It's just an idea that comes now in my mind, since you don't give lots of details. Good luck Op.
Anonymous
09/01/2022 10:45
Subject: What do I do?
I feel burned out after 5 years in the same job/family.
Love the kids but I can't continue to work for this family because of numerous reasons and I know that no matter what I tell them the situation is not going to change.I just need to move on.What do I do?I feel lost and don't know what to tell them.I can't tell them what I really think so what would you say??
Love the kids but I can't continue to work for this family because of numerous reasons and I know that no matter what I tell them the situation is not going to change.I just need to move on.What do I do?I feel lost and don't know what to tell them.I can't tell them what I really think so what would you say??