I wish you good luck, OP. But I have to say I'm skeptical. Not being able to deal with WFH parents is a perfectly valid reason to quit a job (bad fit), but ghosting implies no notice which is tough on both parents and kids (if they are older than infants). You may be right that you are thinking logically (is this person capable of providing childcare according to your needs?) while your husband is thinking more about relationships and feelings (will hiring her make things strained with the in-laws?), but having had a nanny for 5 years, I would say the latter ends up being much more important in working well with a nanny. That said, no nanny is going to be perfect in every single way and there are always going to be tradeoffs or compromises, so I do hope it works out okay for you.

The Op.. it's not clear. Don't says exactly the true story. But she's been very clear about she needs someone ASAP and want to hire this nanny. It seems she made her decision no matter what or what good advice she could get.

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by ghosted? She never responded after the interview? Or just up and left her job with your sister one day and never came back?

sorry just read the part where she left your sister off her references so I assume she actually worked for her. Did she literally just not show up for work with no context? Never to be heard from again? This would concern me.

What do you mean by ghosted? She never responded after the interview? Or just up and left her job with your sister one day and never came back?

It's hard to believe if you got lots a application from sitter city; she had to be the one best for the job and more qualified? I think you are really in help ASAP, and hopefully you are not making any mistake to want to hire her. I would pass this Nanny anyway; bcs I am sure the are lots of very qualified Nannies out there, very experienced and might be even more than her.

Even though you said she was honest with you, you are missing a little detail in here. She was honest with you but she was not honest with them about what was happening and find a solution and just ghosted your sister's family, running away. Probably if I were the potential Nanny, I will decline the position if it was offered to me, knowing you are related with my previous employer. I would prefer to start a new chapter, leaving bad experiences behind. Whatever decision you take, best of luck to you.

Anonymous wrote:Is she is unaware you are related it would be fun to interview her and ask about previous employment and references.

OP here,

I did ask for reference and she was honest and put down three minus my sister. The references check out ok plus background check was clean also.

Is she is unaware you are related it would be fun to interview her and ask about previous employment and references.

OP here,
Sorry, it has been a crazy week interviewing nannies and work. My husband and I used urban sitters to look for a nanny and we received a lot of applications.
We interview and one of the nanny was my sister old nanny. I recognize her name and face at the interview and she voluntarily told us the story. Reasons why she ghosted my sister and her family. My sister and her husband work from home and they were basically in nanny face all day. I am not very close to my sister and her family. I need a nanny for my son and I feel she’s qualified for the job. My husband and I work thirty minutes from our home, nanny will be with our baby, cats and a dog all day. My husband doesn’t want to hire her because he thinks it will create problems with my family. I am logical and I want to hire her asap and deal with my sister later.

There are many good Nannies around that you can afford to cross this person off of your list.

She obviously is irresponsible to just ghost a family…..or at the very least, does not like confrontation at all.

Plus it would be kinda awkward for her I would think.

Does she know that you are related to the family she ghosted six mos. ago??
If so - she might not even want to work for you which would allow you to dodge a bullet.

? So, this Nanny was working with your sister 6 months ago? Or she ghosted your sister when your sister was looking for a Nanny and ghosted your sister after meeting in an interview and your sister offered the position? If that was the case, obviously the Nanny decided to ghosted and keep looking a family with less kids, less work and higher pay. We know that's was not ok, just ghosted without saying thank you so much for the position but I'm not interested. But anyway.

So you mean, you advertised somewhere, that you are looking for a Nanny and this Nanny applied to your position? Easy. 3 kids Vs 1 child.

You need to give more details.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny basically ghosted my sister and her family six months ago. I don’t know what the problem was and I didn’t care. My husband and I are looking to hire a nanny asap. We have one kid and my sister has three under five years old. What Should I do?

Hire her. I don't blame her for not wanting to care for three kids under five. Your sister was probably only paying her $15/hr.

Pass. Why would you hire someone with a known issue of unreliability? Plus, it might lead to awkwardness between you and your sister, as she might think you take her old nanny's side over her / believe the nanny's side of the story, etc.

Nanny basically ghosted my sister and her family six months ago. I don’t know what the problem was and I didn’t care. My husband and I are looking to hire a nanny asap. We have one kid and my sister has three under five years old. What Should I do?