This post was clearly a trolling post by a nanny! Which husband would write a post like this? A husband would "advise" her wife? This is clearly bogus. A caring mother who wants to continue being a part of her children's lives should be outcasted as "overstepping" her boundaries. What in the world!! She is their mother, not the other way around!

Funnier is the supposed follow up post, that the father is now calling the nanny who supposedly left because of the wife to convince her to come back!

You trolls are funny, you clearly are the nanny and wished the dad had your back cause you had a crush on the dad and wanted to replace the mom.

Ladies. No clue that I would find this thread now; believe it or not.. I just went for almost same situation a couple a months ago. Thankfully since day #1 I new I should had to move on, as long as I would find my right fit. It was the worse scenario which in the interview I was never told. They were not honest with me in the interview; since when I asked, they said they will have their own spaces or set office to work and never said I will have the 2 parents working in the dinning table-kitchen and grandmother living permanently with them; sitting all day in the living room; micromanaging every single move I was doing with their toddler. Can you imagine? No playroom, no basement, no toys in toddler room. Four adults plus a toddler share same open space.

So I have three people on my back those 8 hours; sharing the same open space. They never were nice and kind, the grandmother always yelling at me and asking me to do housekeeping chores; treating me like their maid. I was there only for 1 week and preferred keep looking my right fit and happily moved on. But let me tell you a big and nice lesson that I learned bcs of my own experience. I will never ever work for a foreign family again. Please sorry if I say that; since I don't want to offend anyone. Bcs this was the worst experience that I had overall; due to the way they treat a nanny, the way they micromanage and the way they raise their kids; and mainly the lack of trust and lack of respect that I got from them, during those days.

It's a huge difference with the wonderfull experiences that I have always had working for American Families; who always have been nice and kind. To nannies whom had same experiences like me; I won't say where this family was from; but for nannies who read this, I'm sure they already know what I'm talking about.

I just wanted to share my experience with you guys; and everytime when I think back I feel so happy and so grateful that I found a great American Family; whom always treat me with respect, are nice and kind and mainly give me my own space to work with my charges; even though one of the parents works from home.

Believe me ladies, I have always nanny friends who used to tell their bad and sad stories working with these kind of foreign families; but I had never experienced in my own skin this. And sadly my friends were not lying. So now I can breathe very happy and my eyes lights up everyday at work to see my adorable charges and the great Family that I found. I feel like a won the lottery and feel so lucky to work for them.

So to OP. A little advice that I can give you guys; talk with your wife openly and very honest to each other; and if you have the chance to get a new nanny; be grateful to have her; let her do her job and don't micronage her. And mainly work in set offices-room with doors closed. Set clearly expectations and set nice boundaries and everything will be great. If your wife it's not open to do that; sorry to tell you but this will never work out if you want to keep a great nanny with you. Good luck.

I am quitting a very similar job setup. Except neither parent actually works (lots of inherited wealth) and they are both around ALL DAY. It is honestly too much.

Will she be able to handle the idea of group care at daycare where she will have very little say and control?

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Anonymous wrote:It can be very difficult having the parents work from home and this has become quite common with the pandemic and some moms even quitting. I’ve never literally ran out on someone as that seems unprofessional unless the circumstances were truly insane. What crazy things did your wife do?

OP here,

I am watching the kids and my wife is working in the basement until we hire a new nanny or daycare. I talk to the nanny yesterday and she basically said, dw is not a nice person and she’s unable to work with parents in her space. I completely understand her. A few things she mention that dear wife was doing are:

Assisting with diaper change, telling Nanny to wipe gently, using diaper rash Cream, and please hold baby for five minute until the cream dries off before putting the diaper on, assisting two year old to use the potty and telling her not to use baby wipes, but please use toilet paper, and water to wash, taking babies temperature and telling nanny, She’s doing it wrong and many more. I talked with my wife and I told her if you feel the nanny is not doing such a good job, then you need to decide if you want to stay home yourself and take care of the children. She’s thinking about it and she would let me know when she has decided.

%99 of reason why ashe quit. Micromaging every minute of her work; despiste working in the same space as her. Huge mistake. If your wife thought she was not good enough to do a good job, no idea how many nannies you interviewed in the hiring process. Your wife should quit her job and take care of your children. Nobody is going to want to work for you with a family and employer like that. Good luck.

If she is a great Nanny; which I'm sure she is; since she decided to leave that awful position. She will not have any problem getting a new Job. Nannies are always on demand. At least she learned a good lesson. Stay away and turn down families like this one. Looking for a nice family who fits better for her and a family who let her work confortable.

Anonymous wrote:It can be very difficult having the parents work from home and this has become quite common with the pandemic and some moms even quitting. I’ve never literally ran out on someone as that seems unprofessional unless the circumstances were truly insane. What crazy things did your wife do?

OP here,

I am watching the kids and my wife is working in the basement until we hire a new nanny or daycare. I talk to the nanny yesterday and she basically said, dw is not a nice person and she’s unable to work with parents in her space. I completely understand her. A few things she mention that dear wife was doing are:

Assisting with diaper change, telling Nanny to wipe gently, using diaper rash Cream, and please hold baby for five minute until the cream dries off before putting the diaper on, assisting two year old to use the potty and telling her not to use baby wipes, but please use toilet paper, and water to wash, taking babies temperature and telling nanny, She’s doing it wrong and many more. I talked with my wife and I told her if you feel the nanny is not doing such a good job, then you need to decide if you want to stay home yourself and take care of the children. She’s thinking about it and she would let me know when she has decided.

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Anonymous wrote:That's so uncomfortable for the nanny. She will have no problem finding another job in this market.

Recession is coming. Soon, it will be harder for everyone, including nannies, to find a job.

Which is neither here nor there, PP. A recession would make it harder for a lot of people to keep Nannie’s (if the parents lose their job) but that is absolutely no reason for any nanny to put up with this crap from OP’s wife. Right now she could get another job yesterday.

Anonymous wrote:That's so uncomfortable for the nanny. She will have no problem finding another job in this market.

Recession is coming. Soon, it will be harder for everyone, including nannies, to find a job.

Obviously your nanny had to quit. Having someone on your back watching you 8 or 10 hours a day; micromanaging all the time and counting the minutes even when you need to go to the bathroom; wipe your nose or just scratch your neck, that's not fun. Even worse watching how many times you chew your food if she had also to do it in front of here? Omg... I can't imagine how hard it was for your poor nanny staying all the time with your wife in the same space. Being in her place I would have quit on the second day. I'm sure she will find a great family; who give her respect and their space to be able to do her job. And for you guys, I don't know if I should wish you good luck finding someone who really need that job so badly. And if so had any luck finding your next one; hopefully she will stay with you at least a couple of months.

That's so uncomfortable for the nanny. She will have no problem finding another job in this market.

'I told you so". This is one of the first thing why I refused some offers when I was looking for a position. After the pandemic; we all have learned work with parents working from home; setting boundaries of both parties. But in these times that most of parents have decided to stay forever working for home; it's very important to be upfront about if mom and dad will have set office in the house. In the interview when I was told mom or dad will be working in common areas like the kitchen, living room, dinner area. . I Just simply say No thanks. And getting out of that interview saying "next". How it's possible that at this point a family has not realized yet that a Good nanny won't take a job like that; since this make the nanny job harder. Kids crying, whining and behaving bad and no listening to the nanny because parents all around all they long. In short, good luck finding your next nanny. And I'm glad that she quit on the spot. Wishing her luck and she can find a better fit and a family who really appreciate her and respect her work.

It can be very difficult having the parents work from home and this has become quite common with the pandemic and some moms even quitting. I’ve never literally ran out on someone as that seems unprofessional unless the circumstances were truly insane. What crazy things did your wife do?

Good for her. I wish her peace and better opportunities. Most nannies are not desperate for work.

Dw works from home. We have two kids under three and she’s basically in nanny space the whole day. I also work from home, my office is in the basement and I only come upstairs for lunch. I have advised her to give the nanny her space with the kids and she refused to listen. Kids are napping and I just saw our nanny pack her things and literally ran out to her car.