Anonymous wrote:Isn’t it pretty easy to get a badly behaved child diagnosed with a special needs label? Oppositional defiant or something like that.

Oppositional defiance disorder is a recognized disorder, but not every poorly behaved child has ODD.

Isn’t it pretty easy to get a badly behaved child diagnosed with a special needs label? Oppositional defiant or something like that.

Dicipline your child. dont be afraid.
Poor teachers.

Anonymous wrote:Special need child is completely different than a difficult child. A difficult child is someone who hit, kick, bit, punch, yell at everyone. It doesn't matter if if their own parents and even worse to the Nanny. They tend to be So rude and mean. They are pretty disrespectful to everyone. Doesn't behave at all, don't know the meaning to "be kind and respectful to others". They never behave good and never listen or respect any rules. They always talk back at all times. Never like to listen instructions from anyone. Just to give an idea what its a very bad behave kid. With lots of issues. So never compare a special need kid with a difficult kid.

This!

Special need child is completely different than a difficult child. A difficult child is someone who hit, kick, bit, punch, yell at everyone. It doesn't matter if if their own parents and even worse to the Nanny. They tend to be So rude and mean. They are pretty disrespectful to everyone. Doesn't behave at all, don't know the meaning to "be kind and respectful to others". They never behave good and never listen or respect any rules. They always talk back at all times. Never like to listen instructions from anyone. Just to give an idea what its a very bad behave kid. With lots of issues. So never compare a special need kid with a difficult kid.

How is the child difficult? I’ve looked after special needs kids, kids with adhd and anxiety and really enjoyed it. I did a 3 month temp gig for 3 kids once and the boy who was 7 at the time was the worst kid I’ve ever looked after. Just rude and disrespectful, no SN. I loved the other 2 but he made the 3 months so hard.

What exactly do you mean by “difficult”?

Every after school babysitter or nanny who stayed with the family at least for 6 months are gold to keep. As it's very hard to fill these positions unless you pay them pretty well $$. As they move on when they find a F-T job. But if you have a nanny who is willing to take the Job.. never undermine her in front of your child, don't say that she is not allowed to raise her voice to him whe she needs to do it and let her be strict to him to make him respect to her and no be in her way and always popping in everything whe she is the one who has to be in charge. Good luck for you and good luck for the brave one who takes the job.

Who do you envision would want a job like that? After-school babysitters are the most difficult to hang on to unless you are paying $40 an hour.

And what does “difficult” mean as a description of your child?

You don't want to find a special needs nanny unless your child has special needs. You need to find a nanny who won't take any crap, agree to pay whatever she's asking for, and agree to enforce whatever consequences your child earns. If you are willing to come online and describe your child as difficult, be realistic about what you need.

Frankly, as someone who specializes in behavior problems, without and without special needs, violent or not, I don't do live-out. I do live-in because the behavior with the nanny is usually also happening at home, and it's happening at home. It's happening with friends, with relatives, with strangers. I come in and evaluate, then we have a family meeting and set the ground rules. It's better to be strict at first, respond the same way every time, and then gradually relax the rules as behavior improves.

If you don't think you can do that, don't get a sitter or a nanny. Nobody is going to stay.

Anonymous wrote:You need a special needs nanny. Any good agency will have a roster if special needs nannies.

+1. After school babysitters are hard enough to find and harder to keep for easy kids! You definitely need a special needs nanny.

You need a special needs nanny. Any good agency will have a roster if special needs nannies.

I need an after-school babysitter for 2 kids one is a very difficult 7-year-old. Is there somewhere that specializes in nannies that are "super nannies" or can help me find someone who has experience with difficult kids? Care.com has proven to be useless.