And when the baby wants to kiss you, what are you supposed to do?!!

I would absolutely quit, OP, regardless of what the mother says. They clearly think it’s okay for the aunt and uncle to tell you what to do.

Anonymous wrote:No need to kiss the baby. I adore my charges but don’t kiss them. I kiss my own children.

You’re cold! I kiss my own children and my charges. I’m just a warm, affectionate human.

No need to kiss the baby. I adore my charges but don’t kiss them. I kiss my own children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,
I was totally surprised and uncomfortable the whole day. The request was made by the aunt and uncle of the mom. I noticed they don't kiss on or cuddle the baby also. Maybe it's a culture thing. They are not American born and I am also from a different race than them. I am almost fifty years old and this is the first for me. Being told not to kiss a child.

Quit or do not take this job. First, you do not work for the aunt and uncle and they have no business telling you what to do. Second, it’s weird and controlling and not in the child’s best interest.

OP here,

I am meeting with the mother after work. I need to get her feedback how she wants me to interact with the baby. She's usually out by the time I get there. I'm staying until 4:30 today to speak to her privately. If her feelings are the same as the aunts and uncle, then of course I will explain to her that children deprive of love and hugs and kisses all day from me it's not beneficial to them or myself. I really enjoy working with kids and the feeling is mutual. Telling a nanny or a teacher, cannot show kids emotion and love is truly sad.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,
I was totally surprised and uncomfortable the whole day. The request was made by the aunt and uncle of the mom. I noticed they don't kiss on or cuddle the baby also. Maybe it's a culture thing. They are not American born and I am also from a different race than them. I am almost fifty years old and this is the first for me. Being told not to kiss a child.

Quit or do not take this job. First, you do not work for the aunt and uncle and they have no business telling you what to do. Second, it’s weird and controlling and not in the child’s best interest.

Anonymous wrote:I find it weird you are kissing someone else's child.

You’re weird. It’s done all the time by caregivers and teachers not to mention relatives and family friends. It’s how mammals show affection and important for the baby to feel loved and safe.

I find it weird you are kissing someone else's child.

I would be in shocked. If a family told me that I have to hold my feelings. I couldn't work like that. Nannies are nurture and loving. I will quick nicely and move on. Start look for another job.

OP here,
I was totally surprised and uncomfortable the whole day. The request was made by the aunt and uncle of the mom. I noticed they don't kiss on or cuddle the baby also. Maybe it's a culture thing. They are not American born and I am also from a different race than them. I am almost fifty years old and this is the first for me. Being told not to kiss a child.

Humans show affection by hugging and kissing. The last being on earth I would deny that affection to is an infant charge.

Run, OP. Your employers are controlling a-holes.

It’s weird.

I would never take that job. Never. Parents are creepy.

I would never be okay with that. I kiss my charges all the time and always have and they kiss me. I don’t think I could pick a baby up without giving him/her a kiss on the cheek. Even when I taught at the top DC preschool, we routinely would hug and kiss the kids.

Further, I think it’s a huge red flag, OP. These employers see you as contaminated and less than human. This kind of control will never be okay. And they’re weird as hell.

I’d be okay with it. They are probably worried about cold sores.

Dear Nannies,
What is your reaction when you are told not to kiss baby at all.
No exceptions. Will you take the job or if you are working already,. Reason to quit? What's the fear behind this weird request? Definitely not on the lips.
Just feet's and head.