Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP, and it’s a tale as old as time. Housekeepers resent playing second fiddle to nannies. The posters spouting off accusations have no clue what it’s like in wealthier homes. My current employers has a full time housekeeper who I luckily love! But it’s not always the way it goes.

Write a schedule every week of when the baby naps and when the housekeeper needs to be in another part of the house. Translate it. Also write out that you need her to tell you when she’s low on supplies.

As for her looking past your 3 yr old and cooing over the baby, keep both away from the housekeeper. Explain to the three year old that she’s busy and doesn’t speak English well.

Bottom line: you don’t have to like each other but she has to know that the children come first. You know this is what your employers want and it’s what’s best for the children.

Anonymous wrote:The kids come first. Everyone has to be on the same page with the fact that the kids come first.

Another nanny here for a very wealthy family with a full time housekeeper, gardener, and chef. The children always come first.

In your case I would echo the above and write out and translate a schedule of naps for the housekeeper and ask that she please keep it quiet around the baby’s room.

Here is the system I use with our housekeeper regarding supplies: get two of everything. When she finished a bottle of one she brings it to you and you reorder one. This works for us.

I don’t see there’s much you can do about her attitude with the 3 yr old but keep both kids away from her. (But watch how she’ll be all over him if the parents are around!).

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who also manages the house and I am having issues dealing with the new housekeeper who comes three times a week.

Previous housekeepers have always done their work based on the children’s schedules. This new housekeeper either doesn’t understand or simply doesn’t care and is often cleaning the baby’s room when it’s time for her nap or vacuums outside her door during nap. She also speaks loudly on her phone when the baby is napping.

She tells me the day before that she’s out of a cleaning supply so I don’t have time to order it and have to run out on my own time to get it.

She gets angry if I have to walk across a wet floor to change a poo diaper.

The worst is that she clearly favors the baby to the three-year-old despite his attempts to show her something or tell her something. She looks right past him when he’s talking to her to coo over the baby.

I need to handle this on my own and not involve my employers. She really is the best housekeeper they’ve ever had in terms of cleaning so letting her go is not an option. Her English isn’t good and I depend on translating apps to communicate.

Please advise!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who also manages the house and I am having issues dealing with the new housekeeper who comes three times a week.

Previous housekeepers have always done their work based on the children’s schedules. This new housekeeper either doesn’t understand or simply doesn’t care and is often cleaning the baby’s room when it’s time for her nap or vacuums outside her door during nap. She also speaks loudly on her phone when the baby is napping.

She tells me the day before that she’s out of a cleaning supply so I don’t have time to order it and have to run out on my own time to get it.

She gets angry if I have to walk across a wet floor to change a poo diaper.

The worst is that she clearly favors the baby to the three-year-old despite his attempts to show her something or tell her something. She looks right past him when he’s talking to her to coo over the baby.

I need to handle this on my own and not involve my employers. She really is the best housekeeper they’ve ever had in terms of cleaning so letting her go is not an option. Her English isn’t good and I depend on translating apps to communicate.

Please advise!

1) you can clean the baby's room so it gets done when its convenient for you.

2) you should not walk across a wet floor. Get diapers from the diaper bag or another location. you are RUDE1

3) the kids are your responsibility. Its not her job to entertain them. A coo is a second vs. talking to a 3 year old can be minutes.

4) when you grocery shop/order things, just double check to make sure there are enough cleaning supplies.

5) she is doing her job. you need to be more flexible.

You’re wrong on every count!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you waiting for her to tell you when she's run out of cleaning supplies? If ordering them is your job then be proactive and always do a check to see what's running low and since they don't expire, when they're on sale order two.

Learn some of whatever her language she speaks and teach the 3 yr old. That will go a long way in creating goodwill.

If you see she's about to mop the floors, go run and grab the diaper bag so you can change a diaper if needed.

OP here. No, I’d have no idea if she was low on cleaning supplies as she keeps them in her cabinet. Good idea on teaching a few Spanish words to the 3 yr old.

And no, I’m not going to walk around the house with a diaper bag in case my charge poops and in case she might be mopping the floors.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who also manages the house and I am having issues dealing with the new housekeeper who comes three times a week.

Previous housekeepers have always done their work based on the children’s schedules. This new housekeeper either doesn’t understand or simply doesn’t care and is often cleaning the baby’s room when it’s time for her nap or vacuums outside her door during nap. She also speaks loudly on her phone when the baby is napping.

She tells me the day before that she’s out of a cleaning supply so I don’t have time to order it and have to run out on my own time to get it.

She gets angry if I have to walk across a wet floor to change a poo diaper.

The worst is that she clearly favors the baby to the three-year-old despite his attempts to show her something or tell her something. She looks right past him when he’s talking to her to coo over the baby.

I need to handle this on my own and not involve my employers. She really is the best housekeeper they’ve ever had in terms of cleaning so letting her go is not an option. Her English isn’t good and I depend on translating apps to communicate.

Please advise!

1) you can clean the baby's room so it gets done when its convenient for you.

2) you should not walk across a wet floor. Get diapers from the diaper bag or another location. you are RUDE1

3) the kids are your responsibility. Its not her job to entertain them. A coo is a second vs. talking to a 3 year old can be minutes.

4) when you grocery shop/order things, just double check to make sure there are enough cleaning supplies.

5) she is doing her job. you need to be more flexible.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As nanny too. This is never been an issue with the weekly Housekeeper. I'm always nice to her or my employers what is the best time for them to come and clean the house. I let her know if she please start with the baby room because baby will go soon for her naps. When she is cleaning, basement, kitchen, kids room, living room; I always try to stay away and never been in their way. I try to stay with the kids where she has not clean yet or have already cleaned. Or take the kids out when, playgrounds or walks while she is cleaning. Try to limit your interaction with her. Usually nanny and Housekeeper (being at home at the same time) together doesn't get along well always. About your cleaning stuff, I think if you are Housemanager it's your responsibility provide and have all the cleaning supplies for the cleaning person ready. She doesn't need you ask what cleaning stuff has run out. You have to make sure the house it's full of all cleaning stuff always.

OP here. Again, it’s not my responsibility to gauge when she might run out of a particular cleaning supply. I order when the housekeepers tell me they’re low. This has been the case with the two housekeepers prior.

We do stay out of her way as much as possible and go out every morning. She doesn’t have a set routine of when she cleans each room.

I know other nannies have had difficult relationships with housekeepers but this is my first in fifteen years.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny who also manages the house and I am having issues dealing with the new housekeeper who comes three times a week.

Previous housekeepers have always done their work based on the children’s schedules. This new housekeeper either doesn’t understand or simply doesn’t care and is often cleaning the baby’s room when it’s time for her nap or vacuums outside her door during nap. She also speaks loudly on her phone when the baby is napping.

She tells me the day before that she’s out of a cleaning supply so I don’t have time to order it and have to run out on my own time to get it.

She gets angry if I have to walk across a wet floor to change a poo diaper.

The worst is that she clearly favors the baby to the three-year-old despite his attempts to show her something or tell her something. She looks right past him when he’s talking to her to coo over the baby.

I need to handle this on my own and not involve my employers. She really is the best housekeeper they’ve ever had in terms of cleaning so letting her go is not an option. Her English isn’t good and I depend on translating apps to communicate.

Please advise!

Anonymous wrote:As nanny too. This is never been an issue with the weekly Housekeeper. I'm always nice to her or my employers what is the best time for them to come and clean the house. I let her know if she please start with the baby room because baby will go soon for her naps. When she is cleaning, basement, kitchen, kids room, living room; I always try to stay away and never been in their way. I try to stay with the kids where she has not clean yet or have already cleaned. Or take the kids out when, playgrounds or walks while she is cleaning. Try to limit your interaction with her. Usually nanny and Housekeeper (being at home at the same time) together doesn't get along well always. About your cleaning stuff, I think if you are Housemanager it's your responsibility provide and have all the cleaning supplies for the cleaning person ready. She doesn't need you ask what cleaning stuff has run out. You have to make sure the house it's full of all cleaning stuff always.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you waiting for her to tell you when she's run out of cleaning supplies? If ordering them is your job then be proactive and always do a check to see what's running low and since they don't expire, when they're on sale order two.

Learn some of whatever her language she speaks and teach the 3 yr old. That will go a long way in creating goodwill.

If you see she's about to mop the floors, go run and grab the diaper bag so you can change a diaper if needed.