Anonymous
12/21/2021 22:56
Subject: Ap’s bf has covid
Anonymous wrote:I would not trust her to stay away from the boyfriend while he's got Covid so I would insist she come with us to prevent that.
Op - I do trust her. She lost her mom to COVID at this time last year and she’s terrified of it, so she’s not going anywhere near him, I’m quite sure of it. Also, he doesn’t live very close to us and because of work schedules they see each other only a few times a month, he lives with his mom and is currently isolating at home. She doesn’t have any easy way to get there and she hasn’t been to his home so I really don’t think she’s going to see him.
We did leave this morning, Reiterating that she can come whenever she wants to and telling her we will check in with her and FaceTime, etc. hopefully she will have a quiet rest and be ok. I think we are going to go back next Sunday or Monday to be with her over the anniversary of her mom’s passing, so she isn’t alone then.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 20:06
Subject: Ap’s bf has covid
I would not trust her to stay away from the boyfriend while he's got Covid so I would insist she come with us to prevent that.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 19:55
Subject: Ap’s bf has covid
Agree - I’d repeat the offer and be genuine but not insist. Different people need different things. I personally would embrace the quiet so she may as well.
Anonymous
12/21/2021 00:13
Subject: Ap’s bf has covid
It's very nice of you to worry for her.
Telling her she can come if she wants to is very nice.
Give her the choice, don't insist though
I bet she'll be happy to have some down time at your house without everybody around.
Telling her she can come if she wants to is very nice.
Give her the choice, don't insist though
I bet she'll be happy to have some down time at your house without everybody around.
Anonymous
12/20/2021 19:54
Subject: Ap’s bf has covid
First, we adore our au pair, she has been with us since Summer 2020 and is truly like a family member. She had a very rough time last year, both her grandmother and her mom died right around Christmas. Her mom died of COVID. We knew that the holidays would be a challenge for her and have tried to do what we can to support her during this challenging time.
Her boyfriend of almost a year (great guy, we like him a lot), started feeling sick on Saturday when he was on a trip with friends. Apparently a number of people at his job recently tested positive and so he isolated and got tested yesterday. Just got positive results. We aren’t worried that he exposed her or us - he was at our house last Sunday but they haven’t seen each other since then - but I am worried about how she’s going to manage Christmas - which she was planning to spend with him - with the difficult memories from last year.
Our family is supposed to leave for our country home tomorrow. She wasn’t coming with us, because she was going to be with her bf, and as of now she’s not changing her mind. Would you try to insist that she comes? Or just tell her the option is open to join us at a later day if she wants? I’m trying to be as supportive as possible but also not overbearing.
Her boyfriend of almost a year (great guy, we like him a lot), started feeling sick on Saturday when he was on a trip with friends. Apparently a number of people at his job recently tested positive and so he isolated and got tested yesterday. Just got positive results. We aren’t worried that he exposed her or us - he was at our house last Sunday but they haven’t seen each other since then - but I am worried about how she’s going to manage Christmas - which she was planning to spend with him - with the difficult memories from last year.
Our family is supposed to leave for our country home tomorrow. She wasn’t coming with us, because she was going to be with her bf, and as of now she’s not changing her mind. Would you try to insist that she comes? Or just tell her the option is open to join us at a later day if she wants? I’m trying to be as supportive as possible but also not overbearing.