Anonymous
09/07/2021 10:37
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:OP, looks like someone on here is stirring the pot.
Perhaps a bored person who has zero Labor Day plans?
No beach nearby? No bar-b-que invites??
Yes you are in the right here.
Nanny has issue w/following simple instructions.
Can you imagine what issues you will have with her later on if you hire her??
Clearly you had no Labor Day plans, PP, and still can’t write in paragraphs.
People disagree with you. I’m sure it happens a lot. Please look up the etiquette on shoe removal in a home and accept that people have other opinions than you.
Anonymous
09/07/2021 08:38
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:OP, looks like someone on here is stirring the pot.
Perhaps a bored person who has zero Labor Day plans?
No beach nearby? No bar-b-que invites??
Yes you are in the right here.
Nanny has issue w/following simple instructions.
Can you imagine what issues you will have with her later on if you hire her??
Yes, you. You are the person stirring the pot and trolling.
Anonymous
09/07/2021 07:11
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
I would let it go. I think it was rude of you to be honest. We don’t wear shoes in our house either, but if someone is coming in I don’t ask them to take shoes off unless it’s wet and muddy out or something.
Anonymous
09/07/2021 04:53
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:We had an interview with a nanny who is perfect on paper. Lots of experience, great references, a degree in education etc. We’re in the process of hiring her but wanted her to meet the kids.
We invited her to the house to meet the kids and to confirm a start date. We have a no-shoes rule in our home. I feel like most households have the same rule, especially with COVID.
She (politely, I’ll admit) refused to remove her shoes. It felt strange to have a potential employee refuse to follow our house rules the first time she visited our home. I was a bit shaken and I guess she could tell so she said she didn’t feel comfortable being barefoot (she was wearing flats without socks) but in the future she would wear socks. Maybe she didn’t have a pedicure but we’re not the type to judge (I haven’t had a pedicure in years). I just felt like it was a little disrespectful. It told me her personal comfort was more important to her than our values & personal safe & health.
DH thinks I’m overthinking it but I’m a big believer in trusting my gut. I’d never ever refuse a future employers request. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done something I don’t like when I first start a job. It shows your flexible and value your coworkers and employers comfort not just your own.
I’m also pregnant so could all be hormones but I’m still so bothered and seriously considering continuing the search.
“Most houses” most certainly do not have a no shoes rule, and shoes (and surfaces) are irrelevant for COVID. Catch up. It’s not March 2020 anymore.
Anonymous
09/07/2021 02:44
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
OP, looks like someone on here is stirring the pot.
Perhaps a bored person who has zero Labor Day plans?
No beach nearby? No bar-b-que invites??
Yes you are in the right here.
Nanny has issue w/following simple instructions.
Can you imagine what issues you will have with her later on if you hire her??
Perhaps a bored person who has zero Labor Day plans?
No beach nearby? No bar-b-que invites??
Yes you are in the right here.
Nanny has issue w/following simple instructions.
Can you imagine what issues you will have with her later on if you hire her??
Anonymous
09/06/2021 21:44
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:We had an interview with a nanny who is perfect on paper. Lots of experience, great references, a degree in education etc. We’re in the process of hiring her but wanted her to meet the kids.
We invited her to the house to meet the kids and to confirm a start date. We have a no-shoes rule in our home. I feel like most households have the same rule, especially with COVID.
She (politely, I’ll admit) refused to remove her shoes. It felt strange to have a potential employee refuse to follow our house rules the first time she visited our home. I was a bit shaken and I guess she could tell so she said she didn’t feel comfortable being barefoot (she was wearing flats without socks) but in the future she would wear socks. Maybe she didn’t have a pedicure but we’re not the type to judge (I haven’t had a pedicure in years). I just felt like it was a little disrespectful. It told me her personal comfort was more important to her than our values & personal safe & health.
DH thinks I’m overthinking it but I’m a big believer in trusting my gut. I’d never ever refuse a future employers request. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done something I don’t like when I first start a job. It shows your flexible and value your coworkers and employers comfort not just your own.
I’m also pregnant so could all be hormones but I’m still so bothered and seriously considering continuing the search.
Your “gut” needs help, OP. Your reaction is WAY overblown and you’re actually wrong in your demand. As PP pointed out, you should have shoe covers for anyone who doesn’t known your rule. Lots of people get creeped out walking barefoot in someone else’s house. Stephen Spielberg is famously known for refusing.
That you forced yourself to do things you were opposed to or uncomfortable with in your new jobs is honestly something you should look at. But this nanny candidate did absolutely everything right.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 21:38
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:You have every right to be put off by this OP.
And nooo…..
You are not overthinking this.
Anytime one visits someone else’s home - they should know that the possibility exists where they may be asked to remove their shoes.
Not a strange request at all.
And if the person does not comply > then that does not bode well for their character.
In your case, I would be taken aback by your “prospective” Nanny’s refusal to remove her shoes.
If hired, what other household rules would she be comfortable not abiding by??
Just some food for thought.
I would look for someone else.
Good luck!
You’re nuts.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 21:37
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
You were in the wrong, OP, not the nanny candidate. And I don’t doubt that your reaction sent up red flags for her (and rightfully so).
Millions of people aren’t comfortable walking barefoot on a strangers floor. Perhaps your floors didn’t appear clean to her. Even little crumbs under bare feet can feel gross. Or pet hair. Your “rules”, unknown to her prior, don’t supersede her right to protect her own body.
We don’t wear shoes in the house either and always have a box of disposable shoe covers at the door for workers who don’t feel comfortable going barefoot in my home. It’s actually much more sanitary anyway.
Apologize for your reaction and for not mentioning it sooner, and tell her to bring socks that she can leave at your house. And move forward.
Millions of people aren’t comfortable walking barefoot on a strangers floor. Perhaps your floors didn’t appear clean to her. Even little crumbs under bare feet can feel gross. Or pet hair. Your “rules”, unknown to her prior, don’t supersede her right to protect her own body.
We don’t wear shoes in the house either and always have a box of disposable shoe covers at the door for workers who don’t feel comfortable going barefoot in my home. It’s actually much more sanitary anyway.
Apologize for your reaction and for not mentioning it sooner, and tell her to bring socks that she can leave at your house. And move forward.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:55
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:You have every right to be put off by this OP.
And nooo…..
You are not overthinking this.
Anytime one visits someone else’s home - they should know that the possibility exists where they may be asked to remove their shoes.
Not a strange request at all.
And if the person does not comply > then that does not bode well for their character.
In your case, I would be taken aback by your “prospective” Nanny’s refusal to remove her shoes.
If hired, what other household rules would she be comfortable not abiding by??
Just some food for thought.
I would look for someone else.
Good luck!
Total bulls**t and, honestly, laughable! You have issues, PP, with both etiquette and control. And forming paragraphs.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:52
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
You’re being ridiculous, OP. Now that she knows your house rule, she’ll wear socks.
You have to loosen up. You’re looking for problems where none exist.
You have to loosen up. You’re looking for problems where none exist.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:44
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:Don’t hire her. You need someone else you can control.
+1
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:41
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Don’t hire her. You need someone else you can control.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:39
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
It wasn't her first day it was a job interview. You should have told her before she came over. I've met with several families who have the same rule and they have said something to me on the phone before meeting.
Anonymous
09/06/2021 19:38
Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
You have every right to be put off by this OP.
And nooo…..
You are not overthinking this.
Anytime one visits someone else’s home - they should know that the possibility exists where they may be asked to remove their shoes.
Not a strange request at all.
And if the person does not comply > then that does not bode well for their character.
In your case, I would be taken aback by your “prospective” Nanny’s refusal to remove her shoes.
If hired, what other household rules would she be comfortable not abiding by??
Just some food for thought.
I would look for someone else.
Good luck!
And nooo…..
You are not overthinking this.
Anytime one visits someone else’s home - they should know that the possibility exists where they may be asked to remove their shoes.
Not a strange request at all.
And if the person does not comply > then that does not bode well for their character.
In your case, I would be taken aback by your “prospective” Nanny’s refusal to remove her shoes.
If hired, what other household rules would she be comfortable not abiding by??
Just some food for thought.
I would look for someone else.
Good luck!
Anonymous
09/06/2021 18:48
Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
We had an interview with a nanny who is perfect on paper. Lots of experience, great references, a degree in education etc. We’re in the process of hiring her but wanted her to meet the kids.
We invited her to the house to meet the kids and to confirm a start date. We have a no-shoes rule in our home. I feel like most households have the same rule, especially with COVID.
She (politely, I’ll admit) refused to remove her shoes. It felt strange to have a potential employee refuse to follow our house rules the first time she visited our home. I was a bit shaken and I guess she could tell so she said she didn’t feel comfortable being barefoot (she was wearing flats without socks) but in the future she would wear socks. Maybe she didn’t have a pedicure but we’re not the type to judge (I haven’t had a pedicure in years). I just felt like it was a little disrespectful. It told me her personal comfort was more important to her than our values & personal safe & health.
DH thinks I’m overthinking it but I’m a big believer in trusting my gut. I’d never ever refuse a future employers request. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done something I don’t like when I first start a job. It shows your flexible and value your coworkers and employers comfort not just your own.
I’m also pregnant so could all be hormones but I’m still so bothered and seriously considering continuing the search.
We invited her to the house to meet the kids and to confirm a start date. We have a no-shoes rule in our home. I feel like most households have the same rule, especially with COVID.
She (politely, I’ll admit) refused to remove her shoes. It felt strange to have a potential employee refuse to follow our house rules the first time she visited our home. I was a bit shaken and I guess she could tell so she said she didn’t feel comfortable being barefoot (she was wearing flats without socks) but in the future she would wear socks. Maybe she didn’t have a pedicure but we’re not the type to judge (I haven’t had a pedicure in years). I just felt like it was a little disrespectful. It told me her personal comfort was more important to her than our values & personal safe & health.
DH thinks I’m overthinking it but I’m a big believer in trusting my gut. I’d never ever refuse a future employers request. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done something I don’t like when I first start a job. It shows your flexible and value your coworkers and employers comfort not just your own.
I’m also pregnant so could all be hormones but I’m still so bothered and seriously considering continuing the search.