Its a big deal. I've heard of kids getting it early with health issues but that is not ok.

It NOT a big deal or even a small deal. It’s not your business and not for you to judge.

Don't take it personally but don't trust them anymore either.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Where we live at, there is no need to prove age by using a birth certificate.
If a child comes to a vaccine center w/parents, the center does not usually ask for documentation that their child is of a certain age.
And my charge’s parents are both very tall people.
My charge has inherited their height gene & is easily as tall as many twelve yr. olds.

Yes, if they were to get caught then the person as well as the vaccination site that administered the shot would be in serious trouble.
The parents could get in trouble for forgery as well which is why I think they didn’t confide in me.

+1. Please do not take this personally, OP. They don’t want to lose their child and are doing what they think is best for everyone involved.

Yep, it’s not your call and you have no reason to be angry or hurt.

-a nanny

Stay out of it, OP. They did something desperate out of terror that their child would die. They didn’t tell you so that you wouldn’t be legally at risk (because you are a mandated reporter and CPS might be all over this, depending). They are still obsessing over handwashing, etc. because who knows if a dosage for the wrong age will actually work or protect her as it should.

None of their choices are about bot valuing you, and it would be insane to quit your job over this. Do your best to forget about it and move on.

OP Here:

Where we live at, there is no need to prove age by using a birth certificate.
If a child comes to a vaccine center w/parents, the center does not usually ask for documentation that their child is of a certain age.
And my charge’s parents are both very tall people.
My charge has inherited their height gene & is easily as tall as many twelve yr. olds.

Yes, if they were to get caught then the person as well as the vaccination site that administered the shot would be in serious trouble.
The parents could get in trouble for forgery as well which is why I think they didn’t confide in me.

Is it possible the 8 year old is telling you a tall tale??? I would really consider that first.
Nurses that are vaccinating 12 year olds all day would know a 8 year old is not a 12 year old. Also they don’t give vaccines just by word of mouth, they’d have to had verified her documents….. unless they forged it, they couldn’t show proof for a 12 year old.
There is a reason they are not allowing vaccines for under 12yo. If this is true, the parents are pretty reckless and negligent to take their immunocompromised daughter to take the vaccine…. And a lot of incompetence at the vaccine facility.

I think you’re over reacting. The child should not have told you. If that was my kid I would be pissed off they told you and punish child severally.

Maybe they didn’t tell family either.

Anonymous wrote:They did what they had to do to protect their child. Legally, that child should not have been vaccinated yet, and they were protecting you legally.

They may have had the best intentions thinking they were protecting their child which I am sure they ultimately did. However there is a huge age gap between eight and twelve. Perhaps I would understand if a child were eleven but eight is too young to expose a child to a dose that is intended for someone 2-4 yrs. older.
In my humble opinion, they had a duty to tell whomever is in charge of their child’s care to inform them of the situation. Not judging the parents here because thank goodness have never been in such a precarious circumstance. But as a parent, I would not have chosen that route because of the age gap.

Medical doses are not determined by body weight ~ they are determined by AGE.
It is very dangerous to administer a vaccine to an eight-year old which has been approved for only those 12 and up.
Reason being is that the dose amount for a child younger than 12 may need to be configured as a younger child may only require a lesser dosage amount. So a child younger than 12 who gets inoculated right now may receive a higher than necessary dosage which could in turn cause health problems since the amount could be toxic.
Also later on, when schools will require its students to show proof of vaccination records, a child will need to undergo add’l inoculations in order to attend school which may not bode well for the child’s physical health later down the line.

Finally we always are teaching our kids to never lie.
But to order them to lie in order to get tested is setting a very bad precedent.

They did what they had to do to protect their child. Legally, that child should not have been vaccinated yet, and they were protecting you legally.

I’d leave on good terms and quietly start looking for another position.

I have been a Nanny with my current family for eight yrs.
Love my NF and things have been very good between all of us the entire time.

NG8 has a medical condition where she was born with a very serious and rare birth defect which makes her very immune compromised to getting really ill if she were ever to contract any illness, inc. COVID-19.

Well the parents and child have been reminding me to keep her safe (handwashing/sanitizing, proper distancing, mask-wearing, etc.) which I totally have been doing.
I have also had a ton of anxiety regarding “What if?” as well.
They have told me that she is not vaccinated yet due to her age.

Well speaking to the girl last night - she informed me that she actually HAS received the Pzizer vaccine 2x.
She told me her parents took her to a clinic where they lied about her age.
They told the vaccine workers that she was twelve so she could get the vaccine.

I completely understand as a parent the desire to keep your child safe.
Her medical team had warned the parents that if she contracted Covid then it could very well be mortal due to her health issue.
That is not my issue.

My issue is that the parents have been lying to me the past few mos.
They have been telling me that she was unvaccinated this entire time.
They have always told me that they considered me “family.”
I am big on principle.

While I can see the logic over them not informing me….. I also feel betrayed by the fact that they were comfortable lying to me.
Like the old adage goes > what other things do they lie to me about??

Am I overreacting here?
I cannot help that I already KNOW.