Anonymous
08/21/2021 13:22
Subject: Nanny not believing us
OP here and she means so much to us. We wouldn't have said it otherwise. It's sad she doesn't want to believe that but maybe she has been hurt before.
Anonymous
08/21/2021 09:10
Subject: Re:Nanny not believing us
Nannies mean the world to their little charges but not to their employers. OP’s nanny is right. And it is so easy to get hurt.
Anonymous
08/20/2021 20:39
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:It is genuinely true so it's sad she feels like that but hopefully she will grow to trust us.
OP.
All employers meant it when they said it.
Anonymous
08/20/2021 13:43
Subject: Nanny not believing us
It is genuinely true so it's sad she feels like that but hopefully she will grow to trust us.
OP.
OP.
Anonymous
08/20/2021 13:01
Subject: Re:Nanny not believing us
She’s undoubtedly been burned my insincerity before. I think all nannies have. Respect her and save the mushy stuff.
Anonymous
08/16/2021 13:01
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:In my experiences I have been told often that the families love me. Not just the kids but also the parents. As soon as I had outlived my purpose, I got dropped like a hot stone. No contact at all once I was no longer needed for childcare.
If you left tomorrow you would be replaced in an instant. It is important to remember that otherwise you will end up very hurt. For me when the families I work for go on vacation and I hear nothing from them for 2 weeks it reminds me that I am just the nanny and nothing more.
I was with you until the bolded. When DH and I go on vacation we do not bother our nanny - we assume it's a break for ALL of us. Would it make you feel better to know that while we're on vacation we also don't reach out to our families, either?
Anonymous
08/15/2021 19:49
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She's as important to you as long as you need her help. Then she will be forgotten. Please don't say things you don't mean to her.
This isn’t always true. As a nanny I have only had one set of parents like this out of four. My first family made me Godmother to their second child and I still see them regularly. My second family still invited me over for all holidays and birthday parties and we speak and visit regularly. My current employers had me over for Thanksgiving and Christmas this past year due to covid and I’m very close to them. Only one couple really used me, lied to me, and refused to ever let me visit or even say goodbye to my charge of three years.
Conversely, I have known of two nannies who walked away from their charges and never even visited even though the parents and children begged them. So it goes both ways.
Three out of four is pretty amazing!
And I agree it goes both ways. I’ve heard nannies tell their charges how much they love them and then never bother to see or talk to the children once the paychecks stop. I think it’s worse to ghost a child rather than an adult nanny when the job ends.
Anonymous
08/15/2021 19:46
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She's as important to you as long as you need her help. Then she will be forgotten. Please don't say things you don't mean to her.
This isn’t always true. As a nanny I have only had one set of parents like this out of four. My first family made me Godmother to their second child and I still see them regularly. My second family still invited me over for all holidays and birthday parties and we speak and visit regularly. My current employers had me over for Thanksgiving and Christmas this past year due to covid and I’m very close to them. Only one couple really used me, lied to me, and refused to ever let me visit or even say goodbye to my charge of three years.
Conversely, I have known of two nannies who walked away from their charges and never even visited even though the parents and children begged them. So it goes both ways.
Three out of four is pretty amazing!
Anonymous
08/15/2021 17:56
Subject: Nanny not believing us
In my experiences I have been told often that the families love me. Not just the kids but also the parents. As soon as I had outlived my purpose, I got dropped like a hot stone. No contact at all once I was no longer needed for childcare.
If you left tomorrow you would be replaced in an instant. It is important to remember that otherwise you will end up very hurt. For me when the families I work for go on vacation and I hear nothing from them for 2 weeks it reminds me that I am just the nanny and nothing more.
If you left tomorrow you would be replaced in an instant. It is important to remember that otherwise you will end up very hurt. For me when the families I work for go on vacation and I hear nothing from them for 2 weeks it reminds me that I am just the nanny and nothing more.
Anonymous
08/15/2021 17:41
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:She's as important to you as long as you need her help. Then she will be forgotten. Please don't say things you don't mean to her.
This isn’t always true. As a nanny I have only had one set of parents like this out of four. My first family made me Godmother to their second child and I still see them regularly. My second family still invited me over for all holidays and birthday parties and we speak and visit regularly. My current employers had me over for Thanksgiving and Christmas this past year due to covid and I’m very close to them. Only one couple really used me, lied to me, and refused to ever let me visit or even say goodbye to my charge of three years.
Conversely, I have known of two nannies who walked away from their charges and never even visited even though the parents and children begged them. So it goes both ways.
Anonymous
08/15/2021 15:46
Subject: Nanny not believing us
She's as important to you as long as you need her help. Then she will be forgotten. Please don't say things you don't mean to her.
Anonymous
08/14/2021 23:08
Subject: Re:Nanny not believing us
Sounds like she’s been hurt before. Let her have her feelings and try hard not to screw her over.
Anonymous
08/14/2021 23:07
Subject: Nanny not believing us
Anonymous wrote:She's right. I mean, social skills dictate she should have kept that thought to herself and just said "Thank you so much" out loud, but she's totally right.
+1.
Anonymous
08/14/2021 22:38
Subject: Nanny not believing us
She's right. I mean, social skills dictate she should have kept that thought to herself and just said "Thank you so much" out loud, but she's totally right.
Anonymous
08/14/2021 13:03
Subject: Nanny not believing us
I told her she meant a lot to me and DH. She seemed a bit annoyed and 'Thanks but I could be replaced very quickly if I did quit. Not saying I don't appreciate it but it's easy to get hurt when you think you mean more than you actually do.'