I work with kids who have adhd and/or asd, kids who have even more reason to forget than yours presumably do.

As the nanny, my job is to pull over in the parking lot after pickup and make sure that the kids have everything. If they don’t, they go get whatever forgot from the school. If they rude a bus, we have a 15 second checklist, and they can quickly get whatever they forgot off the bus.

It is *not* my job to bring a child’s things to them. They have visual and verbal reminders; if they choose not to comply and pack their bags, they can learn to deal without their supplies. A child won’t melt in the rain, so I don’t consider a raincoat a necessity, and sitting out PE because they forgot their sneakers will ensure they have the sneakers next time.

Doesn't seem like big deals to me if kids are safe and healthy. Kids need to help remember their own stuff too. Make lists if you think it will help

This is not an attack, mom you need to hold your children accountable. At 9 years old it’s your son’s responsibility to remember to get his backpack off of the bus, try encouraging independence. As far as the bag in the cupboard you just admitted it was “quite hidden” but instead of you and dh taking accountability for that you blame her by saying “she should’ve still spotted it.” I honestly think you don’t have a problem at all just have a conversation with your nanny and please stop being petty.

How old is she? Depend
Her age,another very important thing you should know is
that she might have some health issues and not
Just judging her,people with severe migrane are more
Likely to forget small task or stuff,or she might have AVM
In her head? Dr told me people who suffer from severe migranes
Like me we are more likely to forget stuff and small task
Just saying and sharing with all of you!

When I was a nanny to a nine year old all of these things were his responsibility. His parents were strong believers in encouraging independence. If you do talk with her about it I’d approach it from a “hey, can you encourage the children to be more mindful” rather than solely blaming her.

Anonymous wrote:She is nanny to my 7 and 9 year old.
In the past 4 months she has-

1. Left my 9 year olds school bag on a bus Why wasn't the 9yo responsible for their bag?
2. Forgot my 7 year olds sneakers Why wasn't the 7yo responsible for their sneakers?
3. Forgot raincoats after swimming lessons when it was torrential rain. Why didn't the kids have their own raincoats?
4. DH had to come home as she couldn't find a bag. It was hung up in the cupboard, admittedly quite hidden but she should have spotted it. Why didn't the child find it?

She is great in other ways and the kids love her but this is annoying me. How do I approach it?

Your children are 7 and 9, not 17 and 19 months. Give them more responsibilities for their own things.

Anonymous wrote:She is nanny to my 7 and 9 year old.
In the past 4 months she has-

1. Left my 9 year olds school bag on a bus
2. Forgot my 7 year olds sneakers
3. Forgot raincoats after swimming lessons when it was torrential rain.

She is great in other ways and the kids love her but this is annoying me. How do I approach it?

1. your 9 year old should be taking their bag off the bus. Blame the kid.

2. Ok, in what context?

3. The kids were already wet. You don't need raincoats and that is petty.

Personally I would need more solid examples.

Like another poster stated - at nine yrs of age, a child should be responsible for their own bag.

Why isn't she prompting the kids to look after their own things? Promote independence.

A bit worrisome if you suspect she’s forgetting more important things. Otherwise, I’d give it more time as she sounds overwhelmed by getting two in and out of places.

A 9 year old should be responsible for his own bag.

I know which is why this is a real issue.

OP.

As a nanny, That's weird. A nanny is always involved in everything with their charges; and never forget anything; since she will have enough experience working with kids. As a nanny myself I am like a Second mom's head Haha!

Also-

4. DH had to come home as she couldn't find a bag. It was hung up in the cupboard, admittedly quite hidden but she should have spotted it.

She is nanny to my 7 and 9 year old.
In the past 4 months she has-

1. Left my 9 year olds school bag on a bus
2. Forgot my 7 year olds sneakers
3. Forgot raincoats after swimming lessons when it was torrential rain.

She is great in other ways and the kids love her but this is annoying me. How do I approach it?