Anonymous
Post 07/26/2021 04:01     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Anonymous wrote:I cannot wait until my au pair leaves. She rarely leaves the house… And is just so up in our business. She volunteers to get our mail every day (maybe a youth thing? I remember thinking the mail was exciting as a kid) and even though it’s never for her, she always goes through it. I want some privacy!!! I didn’t realize how much privacy I’d be losing with an au pair. Want to watch a movie alone? Nope. Want to do this dishes in peace after the kids go down? Nope. Wanted to invite some 40 something friends over to hang? Yep she’s right there at the table. Ugh!


Apparently you were only interested in the easy part of the deal (cheap labor) and forgot the "part of the family" thing.
Yes going through your mail is too much, you should have told her and that was it.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 18:27     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Screw pp, the privacy issue is real and I can't wait for ours to leave in January to get my house and privacy back as well. It's too much, we will be switching to out of house help assuming this delta variant doesn't put it all to crap
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 09:41     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Anonymous wrote:How about DH?


Did you even read the post? It was quite literally a (humorous) post about her DH NOT emptying the dishwasher.

Anonymous wrote:I cannot wait until my au pair leaves. She rarely leaves the house… And is just so up in our business. She volunteers to get our mail every day (maybe a youth thing? I remember thinking the mail was exciting as a kid) and even though it’s never for her, she always goes through it. I want some privacy!!! I didn’t realize how much privacy I’d be losing with an au pair. Want to watch a movie alone? Nope. Want to do this dishes in peace after the kids go down? Nope. Wanted to invite some 40 something friends over to hang? Yep she’s right there at the table. Ugh!


How sad for your Au Pair - what happened to the 'cultural exchange'? Poor girl is away from all of her family and friends...and you treat her like a burden. Yikes. Not a great look for you.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 01:10     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Paper plates and plastic silverware. This will reduce the loading and unloading of the dishwasher. It may also entice your husband to actually help if he hates disposable eating products.
Anonymous
Post 07/23/2021 06:12     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Your kids are definitely old enough to empty the dishwasher twice a day.
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2021 19:23     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
I cannot wait until my au pair leaves. She rarely leaves the house… And is just so up in our business. She volunteers to get our mail every day (maybe a youth thing? I remember thinking the mail was exciting as a kid) and even though it’s never for her, she always goes through it. I want some privacy!!! I didn’t realize how much privacy I’d be losing with an au pair. Want to watch a movie alone? Nope. Want to do this dishes in peace after the kids go down? Nope. Wanted to invite some 40 something friends over to hang? Yep she’s right there at the table. Ugh!
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2021 13:21     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
How about DH?
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2021 11:47     Subject: Re:Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
I was relieved when our au pair left. We have our space and privacy back. And the kids haven't asked about her in the last 6 months so...
Anonymous
Post 07/22/2021 10:55     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Yes! No unloading/loading the dishwasher and suddenly I realize that I always forget to bring the mail in!

It's so nice having our house back to ourselves. If it's remembering the mail and the dishes, it's fine with us.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2021 18:48     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
With the pandemic and eating 3 meals plus snacks at home every single day for 4 people...we definitely run the dishwasher twice per day.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2021 13:46     Subject: Re:Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Op we had the same with the kitchen but I am loving having the house back. No loud music, extra guests at all times, worrying about food preferences. We may end up going back to AP's at some point but for now I am really enjoying the extra freedom.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2021 10:23     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Oh come on, OP was obviously making a joke.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2021 09:40     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
So if unloading the dishwasher is all you can miss from having an Au Pair it's really sad ...
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2021 07:42     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Why do you have to run the dishwasher twice a day with only 4 people? I have between 6-10 in my house most of the year and run it once unless we have a party or something.

Also, get your husband to do it.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2021 11:49     Subject: Beware the burden when the last AP leaves....
Our last AP left last summer and we decided not to get another (kids are 11 and 13). I love having our space back. What I don't love is unloading the dishwasher EVERY MORNING because my husband seems to believe it magically gets done because it did for so many years. Yes, I've addressed it with him directly. He says "oh, yes, sorry, I'll help and do it half the time!" Does he? No. He's just so used to having it done for him. Just a warning

p.s. My kids unload and reload the dishwasher in the evenings....so he's not EVER doing it!!!