Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
It’s an issue beyond DCUM, PP. You have absolutely no clue how awful some grandparents can be. I’m the poster from above who had one - just one - horrible set of grandmothers in my nanny career and it was painful.
I am a nanny and I'm totally agree with your post. Same way as all have met the most sweet grandparents we all have had such a bad experiences with them; treating us like their maid and trying to break the rules that are already set with children and no in a nice way at all and trying to be our bosses while they are around.
Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
It’s an issue beyond DCUM, PP. You have absolutely no clue how awful some grandparents can be. I’m the poster from above who had one - just one - horrible set of grandmothers in my nanny career and it was painful.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
It’s an issue beyond DCUM, PP. You have absolutely no clue how awful some grandparents can be. I’m the poster from above who had one - just one - horrible set of grandmothers in my nanny career and it was painful.
Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM this is an issue. When grandparents visit, unless it's a special outing (which is likely on the weekend anyway) we keep to the basic schedule. The difference is our nanny can get stuff done while grandparents entertain the kids. But the basic structure is the same. My mom is hands on and has a ton of opinions, but my nanny is from the same culture so they bond over their opinions and exchange advice and recipes. My mom usually cooks for everyone including the kids. My inlaws have no opinions they express to the nanny and generally stay out of the way and choose when to join in activities. They are obnoxious with plates and cleaning up after themselves but they generally visit for very short periods of time and we generally pay the nanny more for those days. How is this so difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Thank you all!
This is OP and my biggest concerns are that, each member of the family thinks that he/she is the boss. Could you do this or that? Leaving laundry, dishes all for me. It's so annoying too. People sometimes think that because your work for their sister, daughter or so, you also work for them and they can talk to you the way they want. Once, I was working for a family whose nephews come to visit, and the kids just told me "oh, put the water back in the fridge when we are done". I just told them that not my job and if they use something the put it back. They said back " our aunt told us that you're the nanny, so you need to take care of us the way you take care of her children". I spoke with the family and they told me it seemed I'm not happy working for them anymore. After two weeks, they fired me. Lol! People are sometimes abusives. Therefore, I'm wondering if I could put some boundaries now because I already noticed some red flags.
Anonymous wrote:Hello nannies and parents,
How do you handle when the grandparents come to visit and they are so involved in the kid's life. Nannies do you let them tell you how to take care of the kids? How about laundry and dishes when they let it for you? They never clean after themselves? Do you set boundaries or let it go? Parents do you give off to your nannies when your parents are in town or you let your parents help your nannies? Do the grandparents go with your parents follow your nannies everywhere for playdates or playgrounds? I'm a nanny and usually when the grandparents come to visit, the parents let me go after I put kids for a nap or I didn't come when the grandparents came over. But, with my new family I have to stay with the grandparents all the times and it's so overwhelming to be followed.
Thank you