Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

NP, people are not getting around much during the pandemic, remember?

If she wants to go somewhere in her free time - e.g., walking with a friend in the arboretum while a wearing a mask, she cannot be locked in her home. This isn't Gilead.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

It is "sick logic" that I expect her to take the same bus or metro that I use to get to work? You cannot be serious. For all the "member of the family" expectations that au pairs have... the actual members of my family take Metro regularly. You're not getting treated better than my actual children, sweetheart.

The misogyny is real up in here. You won't let her take uber/lyft with her own money. Yup. That's sick. And the bus is hardly more sterile. Yikes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

It is "sick logic" that I expect her to take the same bus or metro that I use to get to work? You cannot be serious. For all the "member of the family" expectations that au pairs have... the actual members of my family take Metro regularly. You're not getting treated better than my actual children, sweetheart.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

NP, people are not getting around much during the pandemic, remember?

Same with our previous AP, we matched with her because she had a DL for a long time but when we test drove with her, things we really bas. After a few trials we just parked the car and she used public transportation. We would have loved her to be able to drive but we didnt need her to drive. I wouldn't pay for classes unless I need her to drive, but what you have already spend for classes is on you.

Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

Agree with those who say you shouldn't pay for driving lessons unless you need her to drive the kids. I went through this with my first AP. She also had a terrible attitude and felt entitled to driving lessons at my expense, after she lied about her driving skills and experience. No way.

I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

I’d only pay for driving lessons if you needed a driver.

I would start devoting lots of time to getting her up to speed. Devote another $200 to professional lessons too. If you like her it's worth the time and money. But-- it should be on your time. Meaning, when it's convenient for you. Meaning if she doesn't get to hang out with friends at that time, too bad.

Why can't you teach her?

I would pay this as part of hosting and not ask for her to pay any of it UNLESS you feel she isn't applying her self or appreciating the lessons, in which case you should talk to her about the expense and explain that you need her to step up her game. Are you giving her opportunities to practice? Talking her out on drives, i mean.

Suck up the cost.

We usually pay for driving lessons. I don't know your appraoch to covid, but i'd much rather have her drive places herself than hop into the cars of other au pairs. There are no in person meetings right now. and seriously, where is she socializing?

Our lovely, amazing au pair is a great addition to our home, but it is clear she was less-than-forthcoming about driving ability. We have paid almost $400 to get her driving lessons from someone who speaks Spanish, how would you approach this expense? We have a car waiting for her, and we quickly realized that she is no position to drive any time soon. We do not need a driver in any near future, but she is, essentially, stuck in our home as there is no public transportation. I will need to drive her to meetings and any social events.