Employers of a single employee are not subject to the same regulations that employers of numbers of individuals are.
That said, it's never a good idea to leave yourself open to questions of bias or discrimination. So, what you can and should do is write a well crafted job description and interview (candidates and references) very thoroughly based on the requirements of the position. It's perfectly reasonable and legal to use language like:
- the job requires the nanny to be able to lift a squirming child of up to X pounds in order to lift them in/out of bed or highchairs, move them to safety if they've gotten into a dangerous spot, etc...
- the job requires the nanny to be able to nimbly move from the floor to standing, to potentially run after a child, to do multiple flights of stairs during a day, and to be able to physically keep up with the child well enough to keep them from harm and play actively with them
- It is expected that the nanny will take the child on daily walks, in all types of weather (with appropriate garments).
- Of paramount importance is reliability. The nanny is expected to be on time, and to give as much notice as possible if he/she will be absent for illness.
For references:
- How often was Jane late?
- How many sick days did you offer? How did you handle it if Jane needed more sick leave than she had accrued?
- Tell me about the physical requirements of the job when Jane was with you? Did you ever observe her struggling with those demands?
- Can you tell me how active Jane was with your child? Walks? Duration? Down on the floor playing? Able to move quickly if the child got near a hot stove?...
- No nanny is perfect, so what do you wish Jane had brought to the table?
- The things that matter most to me are absolute honesty, complete reliability in terms of punctuality and attendance, a sense of fun and playfulness, and that my child is active and not on devices. How satisfied do you think I will be with Jane on those issues?