As a nanny inwould run from this unless the pay was too good to pass up. Would need to be 30+/hr and at a bare minimum 4 weeks off paid.

I guess she must feel happy and excited for now; that that thinking is in the air without really know what are the real expectations of 2 new babies and 2 toddles. I am a nanny with lot of experience with multiples 3 kids; (same family, different ages) and also a nanny share (2 families involved with 1 baby each family, similar age). And I have managed a wonderful care of all my charges in those differents situations. But your idea about this; it doesn't make sense to me. Sorry. Poor babies. They won't have the best care that they need and they deserve. I doubt the nanny can give the best care and attention that all your kids need; mainly the babies. They need so much care, attention, when they eat, play, crawl, training to nap, get change and the toddler need so much care too, chasing them while they run, encourage to learn, play, when they eat; cleaning up after all kids and babies. And when things gets better outside and everything starts to open; believe me watching 2 babies, 2 toddles, taking them for walks in a doble, triplet or quadruple strollers or even driving the 4 kids. At some point they will need to take them.to activities outdoor; story times, library, playgrounds, playdate etc it will be a real challenge. I wouldn't take any job like that. I always prefer give my best care to my charges, when I am going to be able to give them a wonderful care of all of them. But if your expectations with your nanny are that she never does anything like this with your kids, no taking them to activities (no pandemic around) and just be inside the house playing in the same room; or backyard; without going out and doing what a real and Great nanny do to encourage your kids. It's up to you. My advice as a nanny. It I were you; a parent I will look for the best care and environment for my kids.

What the hell are you thinking?

if she is not doing drop off or pick up then it is OK since older children will be taking a nap when they get home, so she only needs to manage the afternoon time following nap. Picking them up from school would be too disruptive for the babies.

Anonymous wrote:Your Nanny is now excited (to be making so much money!), but I could never be comfortable leaving my two young children w/someone who is solely responsible for four.

The children will get subpar care - especially the infants.

cause moms never have four kids. Nope. Doesn't happen.

Pp, did you read what was written? It an already established share.

Your Nanny is now excited (to be making so much money!), but I could never be comfortable leaving my two young children w/someone who is solely responsible for four.

The children will get subpar care - especially the infants.

i would not do a nanny share ever but especially at this time with the pandemic. You are exposing the nanny to other people and who knows where they have been.

Are you sure you can’t afford to just use the nanny for your children? A 4 to 1 ratio is not much better than daycare. The toddlers will suffer with it without preschool. And how will the nanny safely pick up two toddlers from preschool with two infants in the car?

Pp, it’s only two families involved.

not impossible...

but i would advise the nanny not to do it. Getting 4 sets of parents to agree on anything would be interesting to see. Who pays overtime? when will the nanny vacation... will all families vacation at the same time?

but not impossible

I’m sure you guys have figured out a rate that works for all parties, so the only thing to consider is nanny’s roles when the children start preschool— is she going to be responsible for pick up and drop offs? How close is the school to the home? That alone will factor in whether or not nanny needs a triple of quadruple stroller. I personally prefer to push 3 (or 2) kids and rotate between the older two on who will walk. Does nanny have any other responsibilities that has her transporting the kids outside of regular activities (e.g., appointments)? Im sure you had a sick policy in effect but if not, what happens if the toddlers who will now be attending school become sick?

As for the transition, this is why shares are great— the two older ones have each other to interact with while nanny feeds and diaper baby. If she’s creative, she’ll still find ways to include them in even simple (or quick task). It’s definitely doable and if your nanny says she’s comfortable and capable, then trust her and not those who’ve never been in that situation— I’m surprised no one has chimed in with the “oh, that’s impossible” lol.

Have you planned the raise?

I wouldn't plan on a morning pre-school program in the fall - hopefully it does, but it may not.

Other than that, as long as your nanny is happy about it, you are good to go. Obviously give her a decent raise.

Does anyone have experience / advice for a nanny share expanding to four kids? Both us and the other family are expecting, though the new babies will be 9 months apart and joining at different times. We still have our toddlers in the share but they'll both be going to a morning pre-school program. Just wondering if you've experienced it and any tips for the transition!

Some things to note -

*We are the primary host as we have a large separate, dedicated playroom so I'm not concerned about space
*We already have two of everything as it relates to babies & toddlers
*We've have our nanny since our first kids were born, so she's well equipped to handle babies and toddlers
*We have two spare bedrooms and a guest room so room for all to nap peacefully and not wake each other up
*Our house is baby/toddler proofed
*Our nanny is extremely happy to take on both babies and have 4