She sounds perhaps a bit anxious about safety issues, but as a direct result of the nightmares she sees every day. I appreciate how much concern she is showing for ensuring your safety.

Everything else is completely reasonable and appropriate. It's absolutely unprofessional to expect that you can hang out w/ personal acquaintances (of any kind) during your work hours.

Why the hell would nannies think it’s normal or ok to take your charges to meet up with YOUR significant other and hang out and do “family or kid stuff”

Am I missing something here? Those aren’t your boyfriends children and this is weird and unprofessional.

Everybody is both right now. Even normal people.

How do you know all these nannies who are allowed to hang with their boyfriends on the job? Are you high? Or a troll? If this is real, your boss is a colossal idiot for hiring you.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think she's overbearing or overprotective.

And you would be wrong to hang out with your boyfriend or husband while working.

+1, you are working. Its not your social hour.

I don't think she's overbearing or overprotective.

And you would be wrong to hang out with your boyfriend or husband while working.

If you had her job and saw the worst of people every day, you'd understand more. Those kinds of jobs impact your entire being.

Your employer is neither overbearing nor overprotective. I think (and this is just from reading your post so I could be wrong) the issue is that she doesn’t completely trust you to make the best choices. Of course you should not see your boyfriend when you’re working - not during a pandemic or after! You are working. Try being more conscientious, OP, and see if her reminding you to look out for her child doesn’t ease up. My guess is that it will.

Another vote for, “never see your boyfriend when working”.

Aside from that, your employer just sounds cautious and careful. Heed her advice.

^I concur on this as well OP.

Meeting w/a boyfriend or husband while working is not professional.

Since you are happy w/your current pay as well as your employer, I would not sweat the pepper spray issue.
It is likely that your boss has heard a ton of horror stories on the job, so she is simply concerned for you + her child.

Anonymous wrote:I’m don’t think any nanny should be meeting up with their boyfriend or husband during work hours, very unprofessional. Other than that I think she is just being cautious. I too work for a prosecutor, have to be careful, you never know who will seek revenge.

This - OP, it's one thing to meet with another nanny for a playdate, it's a whole other thing to go do stuff with one's partner during work hours. You can have your dates or run your errands when you are off the clock.

I’m don’t think any nanny should be meeting up with their boyfriend or husband during work hours, very unprofessional. Other than that I think she is just being cautious. I too work for a prosecutor, have to be careful, you never know who will seek revenge.

So, I work for a mom who works at the prosecutor’s office. She’s attorney herself and helps with cases. Any-who, she bought me a Sabre pepper spray and taught me how to use it, for it to be most effectively. She even asked if I wanted to attend a self defense course, at her cost. She doesn’t talk much about the cases, except will say things such as”too many creeps in this world”, or remind to walk in more populated places even with covid but be smart and stay 6ft away. She understands with covid we will go stir crazy so she doesn’t mind and even encourages fresh air, driving to trails but always wants me to NEVER forget the pepper spray and told me to have it readily accessible for use-will remind me whenever we are going out. She told me that she almost didn’t consider hiring me because she was paranoid that with me being young and attractive, and walking around a lot, so creep might follows us back home. She says on more than one occasions people have been caught up on their phone or not paying attention when an attack happened. My MB loves what she does and she said she wouldn’t want to do anything else, but admits she can’t trust anyone too much. They do have cameras here but she lets me have play dates. She gives me autonomy on how to care for my charge and we’re allowed to take trips to zoo etc. They pay well and honestly they’re easy going, except she will bring up how you can’t be too careful etc. She also would prefer that I don’t hangout with my boyfriend while at work. I know some nannies will meet up with their husbands or boyfriends and do kid stuff together, but she’s only comfortable with nannies she’s met and some of her friend’s nannies.