Anonymous wrote:My nanny has worked for us for 8 years. We have three kids in elementary school. We have a good relationship. She started working for us when another family that she worked for had kids that had gotten to middle school/high school age and didn’t need a nanny anymore. She still works for that family one day a week doing housework and laundry and she works for us the remainder of the week.

My husband and I both are working full time from home and are lucky to have kept our jobs. We are both heavily involved in handling the COVID crisis for our respective companies and it’s been stressful. We recognize we’re lucky to have jobs and be getting paid. We’re strictly observing social distancing other than our nanny, who we literally need so that we can keep our jobs. My youngest is a kindergartner and needs adult care.

Anyway, my nanny came in this morning and told me that she’s so lucky because her other family told her not to come in for two weeks and they’re paying her anyway. I felt it was a clear hint that we should do something similarly. I told her immediately that I was sorry we couldn’t do that for her, but that I needed her to work so that I can keep my job. She said she understood she was lucky to have a job and we were all lucky to have jobs. But I can’t help but feel like she was hinting that she wanted paid time off when I’m at the one of the worst points in terms of my own workload.

It would be a totally different thing if any of us were even a whiff of sick or if we weren’t strictly observing social distancing. However, I don’t think there is any real fear of getting sick driving her here. I think it’s wanting to get paid for not working.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You all are right. My reaction was selfish. I just really felt she was hinting that she wanted to get paid for not working. However, now that a few hours have passed, my head is back on straight.

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself, OP. You’re being absolutely ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:My nanny has worked for us for 8 years. We have three kids in elementary school. We have a good relationship. She started working for us when another family that she worked for had kids that had gotten to middle school/high school age and didn’t need a nanny anymore. She still works for that family one day a week doing housework and laundry and she works for us the remainder of the week.

My husband and I both are working full time from home and are lucky to have kept our jobs. We are both heavily involved in handling the COVID crisis for our respective companies and it’s been stressful. We recognize we’re lucky to have jobs and be getting paid. We’re strictly observing social distancing other than our nanny, who we literally need so that we can keep our jobs. My youngest is a kindergartner and needs adult care.

Anyway, my nanny came in this morning and told me that she’s so lucky because her other family told her not to come in for two weeks and they’re paying her anyway. I felt it was a clear hint that we should do something similarly. I told her immediately that I was sorry we couldn’t do that for her, but that I needed her to work so that I can keep my job. She said she understood she was lucky to have a job and we were all lucky to have jobs. But I can’t help but feel like she was hinting that she wanted paid time off when I’m at the one of the worst points in terms of my own workload.

It would be a totally different thing if any of us were even a whiff of sick or if we weren’t strictly observing social distancing. However, I don’t think there is any real fear of getting sick driving her here. I think it’s wanting to get paid for not working.

Anonymous wrote:I hope she quits. You sound impossible. Furthermore, you should be paying her twice her salary because every day by coming to your house she is putting her own health at risk.