Anonymous wrote:When my kids were 4 and 2, one of our APs extended with my sister. It was weird at first, but everyone got used to it. “We are so lucky we still get to see — even though she isn’t our AP anymore” was something we said a lot. “Aren’t (cousins) lucky they have —, and aren’t you lucky you have (new AP)!” I would say that I was the one who had the hardest time because our extending AP turned out to be so much better than our new one. But the children adjusted very easily. Good luck.

OP here, this is helpful advice. Thank you!

When my kids were 4 and 2, one of our APs extended with my sister. It was weird at first, but everyone got used to it. “We are so lucky we still get to see — even though she isn’t our AP anymore” was something we said a lot. “Aren’t (cousins) lucky they have —, and aren’t you lucky you have (new AP)!” I would say that I was the one who had the hardest time because our extending AP turned out to be so much better than our new one. But the children adjusted very easily. Good luck.

We have a lovely AP and we mutually decided not to extend, my kids love her and she is great. She is been interviewed by a family in the neighborhood who's kid goes to the same preschool (and same class) as my kid (And I think she will extend with them). So DD will be seeing her everyday after school. I witnessed a similar situation with a friend AP when her AP rematched with a family in the neighborhood; her youngest was confused thinking she had two APs and always asking the previous AP for help and ignoring the new AP at the playground. I believe that eventually things got better.

I know I can't do anything about this but I am just wondering if they are any tips to manage the situation and make things easy for our new AP and less confusing for my kids? DD will definitely have a hard time understanding why AP is not with us anymore and why AP is with her friend.
I was selfishly hoping she will extend with a family in another neighborhood or city

TIA

PS: Assuming we all beat the corona virus!