The OP writes as if she were in high school. And too many grammatical errors. Bored kids out of school!

--high school English teacher

She is 21 not 17. You trust her judgement to take care of your 6 and 7 year old when you are not around. I can’t imagine she has such impaired judgement that she can’t date a guy. Young people are like that - they date hard and fall hard (some of them) and then move on. He will either be a nice guy and then it was a nice social distraction for her or he is a jerk and you were right and he hurts her and she moves on. If they are professional, as you claim, then no kids are teasing your kids or adults are making fun of you. What does that even mean? A parent is judging you because your employee is dating someone? What if your housekeeper was dating him? What if your personal trainer dated him? Your hair stylist? You are not the APs mom. Nothing about this speaks to your skills.

I would say some rules are important. But these would apply to any dating not the gym teacher.
1. Please don’t share details about your love life with children.
2. You should not spend work time on social matters (not hanging out with dates while working).
3. Dates can pick you up during free time but are not allowed in house.
4. Any phone calls / texts to dates should be safe for work since you provide the phone (if you do).
5. If things go south, you are still expected to work and be professional when you see that person.

My kids are 6 and 7. At my kids school in Arlington they have 3 Pe teachers and he teaches. Both of them. From what I hear he’s a fantastic teacher but not a great guy . Dates a lot of women from what I hear. My kids love him and the AP told them she was dating him. I know from my friends he’s apparently very professional and just quickly says hi to her when she drops them off but just feels wrong to me.

Anonymous wrote:It’s just hard. The other parents have been making fun of me, my kids have been teased I’m sure, and I feel like he’s taking advantage of her. Wish I could do something!

someone is bored during social distancing and making up stories...

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think it’s important to meet all my kids teachers.

I’m sorry but no one has a conference with the gym teacher. You lost me at that detail. Thanks for the entertaining story though.

Not OP. How do you know that? have you talked to every parent who has a gym teacher?

What kind of teacher is this? is the gym teacher at the school or the gym teacher for some extra curriculum activities? also how old are you children? How do you know other parents are making fun of you? this says a lot about them that you!
For example, I have a 4 y o and would not care if my AP dates her gym teacher, however I would be annoyed if my 4 y.o start asking all kind of question regarding their relationship. So i will setup some rules and ask her to keep it away from my children.
I guess you have to figure out what is really bugging you before talking to her if you need to.

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think it’s important to meet all my kids teachers.

I’m sorry but no one has a conference with the gym teacher. You lost me at that detail. Thanks for the entertaining story though.

Should I talk to him?

It’s just hard. The other parents have been making fun of me, my kids have been teased I’m sure, and I feel like he’s taking advantage of her. Wish I could do something!

Anonymous wrote:It's just the gym teacher. If it were the math teacher, who cares.

I had an AP go on a couple dates with a guy at the help desk at my work. Several months later, he came into my office, closed the door, and said he saw her at a house party in front of a pile of coke. I had a lot of suspicions about her and the confirmation was very helpful. So don't overlook the upsides of someone in your community seeing her in a different context.

Edit that I meant that I WOULD care about a math teacher. Someone giving a grade that matters.

It's just the gym teacher. If it were the math teacher, who cares.

I had an AP go on a couple dates with a guy at the help desk at my work. Several months later, he came into my office, closed the door, and said he saw her at a house party in front of a pile of coke. I had a lot of suspicions about her and the confirmation was very helpful. So don't overlook the upsides of someone in your community seeing her in a different context.

They are both legal adults and there is nothing you can do.

Yes I think it’s important to meet all my kids teachers.

You had a conference with a gym teacher?

I am not to happy. I found out my au pair is dating my kids gym teacher. She told me they met when she dropped off the kids. I’m very worried because now my kids keep asking her about him and has created an awkward environment in my house. She told me she is in love with him and she’s known him like a month. I have heard this guy isn’t that great either. Rumor is other moms have seen him around town with multiple women. When we had a conference a while ago he told me he’s taught 9 years so has to be in his 30s and my au pair is 21. Do you have any advice on what to do here? I have no idea where to start. My husband thinks I’m thinking too much about this but I don’t want this to impact my kids.