Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 1.5 yr old will bond soon enough but the four year old probably never really will.

Disagree. I'm 20:32, and my 5YO has already bonded with our new nanny, even though she has only cared for him a couple of times.

so its obvious that not all situations and children are the same; different kids, different situations, different upbringings.
OP, have you had a chat with your Nanny about this? What is her feedback? what are you doing to help? do you stay around when Nanny comes or do you give your kids a quick hug and kiss and leave? what activities and fun things does your nanny do with the kids?

Anonymous wrote:The 1.5 yr old will bond soon enough but the four year old probably never really will.

Disagree. I'm 20:32, and my 5YO has already bonded with our new nanny, even though she has only cared for him a couple of times.

We just had the same situation, except our kids are 5 and 3. The new nanny only cares for the 3YO, and it's in part of a share, which I think helps since there is another kid in the mix. It took exactly one week to adjust. We started the share on a Tuesday, and by the following Tuesday, there were no tears when I left in the morning. Today was the 2-week mark and he did not care when I left this morning.

This was after we tried daycare and a week and a half in, he was very sad and not adjusting well at all. We pulled him out, put him in the share, and he adjusted within a week.

Our former nanny started with us part-time when our youngest was only 2 months old, so this was a big adjustment for him.

I would think that if it's been a month, your kids should be adjusting by now, especially the 4YO (who, by the way, is not a toddler anymore). How are the kids when you get home? Do they seem happy at that point, or like they've been miserable all day? How does the nanny say the day went?

The 1.5 yr old will bond soon enough but the four year old probably never really will.

OP here: Yes there was overlap between them. Sadly, old nanny is out of the country now.

Did you have your old nanny work with the new nanny? It’s sort of like old beloved nanny giving her stamp of approval to the new nanny. Hopefully your old nanny still visits the kids and can talk to them.

Totally normal for a 1.5yo to cry when new nanny gets here. What does she do to distract/redirect? Are you leaving line of sight promptly or sticking around? How is your toddler when you get home?

4yo is a preschooler, not a toddler. Thinking she’s mean because she’s stricter is age-appropriate. What does the nanny do for fun with the 4yo during the day?

A week. We had the new nanny work with the old nanny so the old nanny could encourage the kids to bond with the new one.

OP poster here again: I would love to hear ideas of how to ease transition.

I am just curious how long it has taken your children to adjust to a new nanny. Our beloved nanny left a month ago and my kids are having a hard time adjusting. They are both still toddlers (4 and 1.5). The older one thinks she is mean (basically bc she is more rule oriented than our last nanny) and the younger one cries whenever she comes. I am not sure if it is the adjustment, bad fit, or something else. Thanks!