Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to throw in another perspective, lots of people don’t think of cards and gifts because it doesn’t occur to them- not because they don’t value you. Have you ever heard of love languages? People have different ones and maybe yours doesn’t line up with the family’s. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship so please don’t read into the lack of a card. We’ve always done cards and little things for our nannies but that’s because I saw my mom do that kind of thing growing up. DH is a lovely person and a great boss but he would never think of doing something like that because it’s just not something in his mind. His way of showing appreciation is paying good wages, excellent benefits, etc. There are lots of ways of showing care OP. Try not to read too much into it.

This is a business relationship, not a personal relationship. Most people don't get cards and gifts when they leave a job. A few do, but not many.

Anonymous wrote:I would like to have received a card from my charges + perhaps a little token of appreciation.

But if your time w/them was truly a great experience & you feel appreciated overall, I would let it go.

Anonymous wrote:Just to throw in another perspective, lots of people don’t think of cards and gifts because it doesn’t occur to them- not because they don’t value you. Have you ever heard of love languages? People have different ones and maybe yours doesn’t line up with the family’s. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship so please don’t read into the lack of a card. We’ve always done cards and little things for our nannies but that’s because I saw my mom do that kind of thing growing up. DH is a lovely person and a great boss but he would never think of doing something like that because it’s just not something in his mind. His way of showing appreciation is paying good wages, excellent benefits, etc. There are lots of ways of showing care OP. Try not to read too much into it.

Anonymous wrote:Just to throw in another perspective, lots of people don’t think of cards and gifts because it doesn’t occur to them- not because they don’t value you. Have you ever heard of love languages? People have different ones and maybe yours doesn’t line up with the family’s. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship so please don’t read into the lack of a card. We’ve always done cards and little things for our nannies but that’s because I saw my mom do that kind of thing growing up. DH is a lovely person and a great boss but he would never think of doing something like that because it’s just not something in his mind. His way of showing appreciation is paying good wages, excellent benefits, etc. There are lots of ways of showing care OP. Try not to read too much into it.